In the world of marriage, women are often expected to be the embodiment of gentleness, thoughtfulness, and passion. However, with the changes in modern society and the enhancement of women's independence, the femininity of "being colder" has gradually attracted attention.
The "cold" here does not mean indifference and ruthlessness, but the ability to deal with things, emotional relationships, families, etc. in a cold way.
Today, let's explore why "to be a woman, you have to be colder" and the importance of this attitude in marriage.
1. In an emotional relationship, be cold: keep yourself and avoid over-dependence
In marital relationships, women tend to fall into the trap of over-dependence. They may give up their interests, career pursuits, and even values in order to cater to their husbands' preferences.
However, as the British writer Charlotte Brontë said, "Love is a game, and you must always be equal and equal with each other in order to cherish each other in the long run." ”
A "colder" woman will always keep herself and stick to her principles and bottom line.
They understand that marriage is a process of mutual growth, not unilateral sacrifice and compromise.
"Colder" women know how to maintain a certain degree of independence in marriage.
They will take care of their families while not forgetting to pay attention to their own growth and development. They stay connected to society and have their own circle of friends and hobbies.
Such women can not only let their husbands see their charm, but also make their marriage more colorful.
In order to get praise and affirmation from their husbands, some women over-cater to their husbands' preferences, sacrifice their interests and hobbies, and become very passive in life.
The result of this is often that she may lose herself, become individual, and may even lose the respect and affection of her husband.
And a "colder" woman will insist on herself and will not deliberately please her husband. They will maintain their independence and individuality in their marriage, and will be truly respected and loved.
In short, in a marital relationship, women should learn to "be cold", keep themselves, and stick to their principles and bottom line.
Only in this way can you maintain an equal status in your marriage, win your husband's respect and trust, and make your marriage happier and more satisfying.
2. Be cold on the issue of thinking: think rationally and avoid being emotional
In married life, it is inevitable that there will be contradictions and conflicts between husband and wife. In the face of these problems, "colder" women will choose to remain calm and rational to avoid being swayed by emotions.
They use communication to resolve conflicts, listen to their husbands' thoughts and feelings, and express their own opinions and expectations.
For example, in the TV series "Little Huanxi", Tong Wenjie is a "colder" woman.
When facing the problem of her husband Fang Yuan's unemployment, she did not show too much anxiety and complaints, but chose to face difficulties with her husband and actively look for ways to solve the problem.
She had an open and honest conversation with her husband about his thoughts and feelings, while also expressing her own concerns about the family's financial situation.
In the process of communication, she always remained calm and rational, and did not act aggressively because of emotional fluctuations. Eventually, she and her husband found a solution that worked for them and got through it.
"Colder" women know how to use communication to resolve conflicts, they will choose to communicate actively, express their opinions and feelings in a rational way, and seek solutions to problems.
They calmly analyze the essence of the problem, understand each other from the perspective of both sides, and remain rational and mature in resolving conflicts.
All in all, "colder" women will remain calm and rational in marriage, and use communication to resolve conflicts, so as to maintain a healthy and harmonious marital relationship.
3. Be cold when dealing with problematic things: learn to refuse
In real life, women do often encounter a variety of requests and demands. However, some women often do not hesitate to comply with their requests in order to please others, without realizing the possible consequences.
As Oscar Wilde said, "Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance." "We must first learn to care for ourselves, so that we can better face all kinds of life.
When women agree to other people's requests without thinking, they not only put themselves in a situation of exhaustion and stress, but they can also have a negative impact on their work and life.
This unbridled pandering can cause them to lose themselves and the expectations of others. In the long run, they may feel overwhelmed and even doubt their abilities.
On the contrary, learning to say no is an important way for women to remain independent and autonomous in their lives.
By rejecting unreasonable requests, they are able to buy themselves more time and space to focus on what they really want to do.
This not only helps to improve the efficiency of work and life, but also allows them to show their confidence and determination and earn the respect and trust of others.
On the stage of life, women should be brave enough to express their thoughts and needs, and not be bound by the expectations of others.
Only by learning to say no can you truly be yourself and live a fulfilling and meaningful life.
Let's abandon the habit of over-pandering, face the challenges of life with a firm attitude, and start a bright future of our own.
"To be a woman, you have to be cold", this sentence does not require women to become cold and ruthless, but to maintain a certain independence and calmness in marriage.
Such a woman will not only be able to protect herself better, but also make her marriage healthier, more stable and happier. No matter who you are married to, women should remember this truth and make themselves more calm and confident in their marriage.