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The family is the child's first school and an important place to forge a child's good character and personality. Zhang Ying and Wang Xiang worked hard to create a warm and harmonious family environment for their daughters, so that the children's body and mind could develop healthily in an atmosphere of love.
Family archives
Dad: Wang Xiang, civil servant
Mother: Zhang Ying, civil servant
Daughter: Wang Yunmo, 7 years old,
A second-grade student at Airport New Town Primary School in Yubei District
Change blame and scrutiny
Guide your daughter's growth with communication and demonstration
"Double reduction" reduces the burden on children and reduces the pressure on family education, but at the same time adds responsibility to parents. "In the context of the 'double subtraction' policy, I realized that every child is unique. In order for their children to grow up healthily, parents must improve themselves in learning, explore experience in practice, respect the law, and love their children well. Zhang Ying said.
Daughter Wang Yunmo is 7 years old this year, although the grades are not bad, but every time she tutors homework, the family is "chicken flying dog jumping".
Before the "double subtraction", when Wang Yunmo came home from school to do his homework, he was often absent-minded, touching the eraser for a while, looking out the window for a while, learning to procrastinate and complain continuously, which made Zhang Ying very anxious.
Once in the WeChat parent group, Zhang Ying saw the parenting experience shared by the class teacher Dan Dan, which made her reverse her thinking and broaden her thinking. Since then, there has been a small stool next to my daughter's desk. Whenever her daughter does homework, in addition to reminding her to sit in a straight head, wide arms and flat feet, first review, then practice, and then preview, Zhang Ying will sit on a small stool to read and copy, quietly accompany, not too much interference in children's learning. Through slow communication and demonstration, the daughter's sitting posture was gradually standardized, she knew how to review and prepare by herself, the learning efficiency was improved, and there was no longer a voice complaining.
Zhang Ying said: "Companionship is the love that children need most, not blind accusation and supervision. Parents insist on communication and demonstration, so that children can imitate and grow from communication guidance. ”
Effective companionship of the father
Help your daughter establish a good three views
In the traditional Chinese concept, there is a "male outside, female inside" saying, but also let many fathers in the family education to do the "hand-throwing treasurer", in Wang Xiang's eyes, family education in the mother to bear most of the emotional part, the responsibility and role of the father is also particularly important, therefore, from the birth of the daughter, he is very active and deeply involved in family education.
After her daughter went to school, Wang Xiang spent most of her time transporting her daughter to and from school. Every morning when he drops off his daughter to school, he will say to her, "Son, you are the best!" Dad believes you can do better. Then guide the daughter to cheer herself up and make positive psychological suggestions.
On the way to pick up her daughter from school, Wang Xiang would communicate with her daughter seriously, such as asking her: "How was my life at school today?" "What's delicious to eat at noon?" "Is there anything fun at school?" "What do you think is right? What is wrong? "Guide your daughter to establish the right values in the exchange." Over time, his daughter often confided in him the truth and private words, and also let him understand her daughter's true thoughts.
Every holiday, Wang Xiang will accompany his daughter to an interest class, take her daughter to the park, and arrange basketball, table tennis, badminton and other sports that can enhance parent-child feelings. Wang Xiang said: "Girls' cognition of the opposite sex begins with their fathers. Her father's company allows her to form a gender identity. When playing with children, dads can be exaggerated and generous, eliminating some of the barriers caused by the usual unpleasantness.
In such a good family education, Wang Yunmo is optimistic and cheerful every day, growing toward the sun.
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This article is excerpted from The New Parents Daily, Issue 909-910
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