Text/Little Snow Mom
Although the Spring Festival is left with the last small tail, but this year's New Year's Eve, the weather is still very cold, the northern family is still on the heating and air conditioning, like I take the child home for the New Year, the old man is afraid of the child in the house cold, turn on all the air conditioning.
At that time, I couldn't help but laugh, is it not a waste of electricity to open like this? Who knows what my mother-in-law said to me: "You only come back a few times a year, how much electricity can you use!" "Warm in my heart after listening.
However, I recently saw a video posted by Bao Mama in Bozhou, Anhui Province, on the Internet, which resonated with many people and also made everyone discuss the things that the mother-in-law "saved".
The daughter-in-law turned on the air conditioner for heating, and after being stopped by the mother-in-law, she froze and cried the child
From this video, I learned that this mother's family lives in the countryside of Bozhou, Anhui, because the weather is relatively cold, so she turned on the air conditioner for heating, but she did not expect that the mother-in-law felt that it was too wasteful of electricity, and simply turned off the air conditioner directly.
Without air conditioning heating inside the house is too cold, frozen children in the quilt crying, to this Bao Mom and mother-in-law argued, think that the meeting air conditioning can waste how much kWh of electricity, but the old man still can't open his mouth, for which Bao Mom is so angry that she can only pick up the mobile phone and take a picture of the miserly side of the mother-in-law.
For the earlier of the mother in the video, the netizens in the comment area are also indignant, as if they have found the prototype of their mother-in-law, in addition to attacking this mother-in-law, it is also spitting on the "frugality" of their mother-in-law, which has become a spit conference for mothers, and even some netizens have complained: This is "true" life is more important than money.
In case the child is frozen and cold, the money spent at that time is enough to open the electricity bill, and the child is also affected by the adults who look at it and are distressed, this account is not calculated like this.
Of course, there are also netizens who rationally analyzed a wave, think who spends money to pay the electricity bill who is distressed, if it is the mother-in-law to pay the electricity bill heartache money can be understood, mainly the older generation is used to frugal life, not a moment and a half can be changed.
When there is a conflict of life concepts, children must take the initiative to assume some responsibility
For some people of the older generation, "frugality" is already a habit carved in the bones, leftovers are not willing to throw away, the lights are not always on, and no matter how hot the day is, they are not willing to turn on the air conditioner.
For most mothers, this "frugal" living habit is intolerable, frugality is no problem, but also can not be harsh on themselves. In the face of these problems, in fact, the better way to deal with it is not to quarrel with the elderly, but to take the initiative to help the family bear some.
Like some families, the elderly spend money to buy vegetables to cook, the elderly spend money to pay for electricity, natural quarrels are also justified, then the children can actually pay their own money, then how much electricity I use, how many things I buy, these are the money I earn, even if it is a quarrel with my mother-in-law, it is also reasonable to argue.
Just like my mother-in-law always said that I buy clothes, the clothes in the cabinet at home can't fit, the best way to solve this problem is to "use magic to defeat magic", every time I go back to bring some clothes to my mother-in-law, some are newly bought, some are what I bought and did not wear several times, even the old man is also beautiful, no woman does not love to wear.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have different living habits, how to avoid contradictions?
Mother-in-law contradiction is probably the most "wonderful" contradiction in the world, from ancient times to modern times, has always been a problem of many families, generally speaking, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law living habits are different, often produce small contradictions, what to do in the end?
The first, it may be to live separately
If the life contradiction is very large, and the living habits are very different, it is possible to live separately, so that the intersection of the lives of the two people will become less, just as the so-called distance produces beauty, and there is naturally no contradiction when the distance is far.
Second, both people are busy
Many times things are also idle, if the mother has a normal job every day is busy, the elderly every day square dance elderly center, each other have their own things to do, less communication less things naturally can avoid a lot of contradictions.
Third, the husband does a good job of "lubricant"
When encountering contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is necessary for husbands to adjust their tempers and living habits between each other, and find ways to coax people on both sides, which is the so-called bowl of water.
We do the younger generation, try to adjust the relationship with the elderly, have the opportunity to communicate more, really into each other's hearts, I believe that most of the broken skin is still reasonable, most of the contradictions come from non-communication, mutual suspicion, the elderly understand the young, young people should also understand and respect the elderly.
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