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Not surprisingly, Gu Ailing swept the screen across the network.
Nine of the ten hot searches are her name.
In Gu Ailing, we finally understand what it means to be called someone else's child.
Two days ago, Gu Ailing represented China in the freestyle women's ski jump event.
After the first two jumps, Gu Ailing withstood the pressure.
The third jump perfectly jumped out of an action that no girl had ever completed in the history of the project – 1620.
Reverse gold grab.
How high is the gold content of this gold medal?
This is the third gold medal of the Chinese team in this Winter Olympics.
It has already tied China's second-best record in history at the Winter Olympics.
It was also China's first gold medal in the women's snow event.
It can be said that whether it is for Gu Ailing himself or for China.
This gold medal is of great significance.
You know, this is still the weakest of the three events that Gu Ailing participated in at the Winter Olympics.
She, on the other hand, is only 18 years old this year.
Genius girl, the future can be expected.
The emergence of Gu Ailing makes it difficult not to think of the genius who was also praised by the whole people at last year's Olympic Games - Quan Hongchan.
The same young and promising.
Same amazing strength.
Although the environment and family background are very different, but look closely at the two people's road to winning the championship.
The cultivation of geniuses, in addition to their own efforts, a large part of the reason also comes from their parents.
I have heard a saying that the most expensive educational resource is not the school district room, but the three views of parents.
The parents of the three views determine the height of their children's lives.
In these two Olympic champions, it is appropriate.
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Before Gu Ailing won the championship, there was a detail that I paid special attention to.
Before the third jump, Gu Ailing called her mother.
At that time, she had two choices.
One, is to jump again to 1440.
This action is very graspable and very promising to win silver.
The other, was jumping on the 1620 that he had never practiced on the field.
It's a big gamble.
The possibility of mistakes is too great.
If you fail, you are likely to lose your silver medal.
At that time, Gu Ailing's mother Gu Yan gave the advice to jump 1440 again and win the silver medal.
She knew that what Gu Ailing was carrying was the honor of the country.
In the big picture, she hopes her daughter can win a medal for China.
This is already a historic breakthrough.
However, Gu Ailing said, don't.
Be sure to jump 1620 yourself.
"Because I came to the Olympics not to beat anybody, but to myself."
Hearing her daughter say this, Gu Yan did not persuade her again.
Just encourage her: "It's your game, enjoy it." ”
This sentence seems simple, but it is not easy to say.
In the face of the glory of the country, in front of such an international top event.
There is no room for mistakes.
If I were Gu Ailing's mother, I might analyze the pros and cons and try my best to exhort.
But Gu Yan did not.
Not all parents can let their children do it completely on their own at such a moment.
Gu Yan gave Gu Ailing full of trust and respect.
This is also the principle she has been educating Gu Ailing.
It is said that Gu Ailing took the script of the shuangwen heroine.
Learned to ski at the age of 3, and won 50 gold medals at the age of 14.
In 2019, he began to represent China in the competition,
Won 10 world championships in two years,
Became the first World Championships double in the history of the International Skating Union.
In addition, he is also a top student bully.
On the TOEFL test with a full score of 1600, Gu Ailing was admitted to Stanford University with a high score of 1580.
Such a child, behind it, there must be a mother who can be a chicken baby.
But Gu Yan was just the opposite.
When talking about the secret of educating Gu Ailing, Gu Yan said three words:
My education for Gu Ailing is that the first is to sleep, the second is to study, and the third is to play.
In her eyes, whether it is a ski champion or a school bully, it is not something that Gu Ailing must do.
It's all about love.
When he was a child, Gu Ailing was a playful and active child.
At first, she wasn't particularly fond of skiing.
She loves ballet, loves to play the piano, loves to race...
Some parents may feel that such children are half-hearted and uncharacteristic.
But Gu Yan was willing to take her daughter to try one by one.
Until Gu Ailing decided that he wanted to be a skier.
The same is true for learning.
Because of the relationship between her mother and her grandparents, Gu Ailing has always longed for Stanford.
But even if she is as good as her, it is not easy to get admitted.
Gu Yan took the initiative to reduce the pressure on her daughter: "You don't have to think that you must go to Stanford because I am in Stanford, you just need to go to the school you love."
You don't have to thank me when you grow up, you don't owe me, I just thank you. ”
Don't put your own expectations on the child, let her do whatever she wants, and grow wildly.
There are really very few parents who can do this.
Some people may say that such elite families are still a minority.
But there is no difference in how parents choose to love their children.
Giving her the utmost respect under limited conditions is a compulsory course for every parent.
What parents should bring to their children is never a limited substance.
Rather, it is a spiritual character that can benefit a lifetime.
Gu Ailing's success, talent is of course very important.
But it also comes from her bravery, self-confidence, hard work, tenacity...
No one prescribes what kind of flower she should grow into, she just needs to enjoy the sun, enjoy life, and thrive.
And the children raised in this way are generally not too bad.
Parents who truly have three views are quiet ferrymen in their children's lives.
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We often hear such a sentence:
"First-rate parents are role models, second-rate parents are coaches, and third-rate parents are nannies."
Parents who are role models are teaching by example.
Invisibly, they can use their own three views and attitudes to influence children to go to the right path.
Gu Ailing's mother is so.
So was Quan Hongchan's father.
I still remember the pomp and circumstance when Quan Hong Chan just won the championship.
The people who came to the family to celebrate the joy broke their door frames.
Quan Hong Chan loves spicy noodles, and someone sent dozens of boxes of spicy noodles.
Some companies sent 200,000 yuan in cash, just to take a group photo of the whole father and mother.
Someone sent them a million-dollar hardcover house for them to live in.
For Quan Hongchan, whose family is not very wealthy, this gold medal is undoubtedly an opportunity for their family to change their lives against the sky.
In the face of rushing to the honor of the mountain, even if you accept these, it is beyond reproach.
But unexpectedly, all of this was rejected by Quan Hongchan's father.
This simple peasant does not say anything.
Asked why, he only said lightly: I can't consume my daughter's honor.
In the days when Quan Hong Chan was at its reddest, he was still as usual.
It's time to go underground, it's time to work.
The joy of winning the championship seems to have only stopped for a moment.
Obviously, he could rely on his daughter's efforts to eat and wear without worry, but the whole father still stubbornly chose to support the family by his own labor.
He didn't want Quan Hong chan to be a star.
His greatest wish is that she can go to a good university and be a cultured and capable person.
Someone once commented on Quan Hongchan and said:
The most rare thing about her is that she has a childlike innocence at the same time, but also a calm that does not match her age.
Calming down, withstanding the pursuit, enduring loneliness, this is the wind of the general.
I think all of this can be found in the whole Father.
He may not have the same superior conditions as other families.
Nor can I give my child as many options.
But with his own principles, he gave her the most precious quality of a person.
A family, even if the family is surrounded by disciples, but as long as the parents are upright, hardworking, and kind, then for the child, this is the best education.
Don't forget, your life is not just a sequel to your parents, but also a prequel to your children.
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Gu Ailing and Quan Hongchan actually represent two groups.
One is the pride of heaven and has the best resources.
One is a hanmen noble son, whose family is ordinary but still a blockbuster.
The two seem to be incomparable, but they are actually the same destination.
Not all noble princesses with good families can become Gu Ailing.
Not all cold geniuses can become all red chan.
We are accustomed to seeing too many people who have lived under the light of their parents all their lives and have done nothing.
I have also seen many people who are born in the cold door, who will only complain and lament, and feel desperate.
The two of them can have today's achievements, inseparable from the words and deeds of their parents.
Whether there is money or no money, no matter how good the conditions are, there is still nothing.
None of this matters most to the child.
The parents of the three views are the greatest wealth of a child.
It is said that parents are a mirror of children, what you are, children are what they are.
The famous poet Dorothy Law Nordty once wrote a poem "The Child is the Mirror of the Parent":
If children live in sharing, they will learn to be generous;
If children live in honesty, they will learn integrity;
If children are treated fairly, they will learn justice;
If children are cared for and considerate, they will learn to respect.
In the end of education, in fact, it is the parents who fight.
Character and character are the best cards for a child.
Please believe that the best parents must start with companionship, fall into education, and finally have three views.
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