Education is not an easy task, in this process, educators must also continue to learn, constantly update themselves, understand some basic laws and methods, in order to receive better results. Today, I will share with you 10 golden rules of education, let's learn it together.
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The Law of the Fish Tank
The growth of the mind requires freedom
In a company, several small fish are placed in a fish tank, and for several years, they are still so small, so people think that this fish is this small size.
One day, the fish tank was broken, because the fish tank could not be found for a while, so they were raised in the yard pond. I didn't think these fish would grow very big.
Fish need free room to grow, especially people. We often help children make choices, choose schools, choose clothes, choose toys, etc., and we often help children to answer. Thus, the child has no choice, no thinking. So, he doesn't have innovative thinking and won't try too much. You can make him learn a lot, but you can't make him think differently or make him more imaginative.
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Reinforcement laws
Develop good habits
Human habits are cultivated, both consciously and unconsciously. And it turns out that a good habit will make people successful, or have a good attitude.
There was a whale experiment. Scientists have a glass wall in the water, and the whale and the object are put aside. At first, the whale slammed into the glass, and then it finally discovered that it was impossible, so, after a while, it stopped hitting. Later, the scientists demolished the glass wall, but the whales still had the same glass wall and only moved on their own side.
Human behavior, like this story, is fixed after a period of time or some repetitive experiences, and habits are formed. Studies have shown that 21 days is enough to form a habit. Of course, if you want to change a habit, it is also very related to the time when the habit is formed, and it will be more difficult to change and take more time.
Therefore, we must pay attention to the details of the child and pay attention to guidance. A good habit is a fortune that he will enjoy for the rest of his life.
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The Law of Wolf Nature
Cultivate your child's curiosity
How do you cultivate curiosity?
Suppose a park, with no rockery or house barriers, no winding roads, and we can see from the outside, then you won't have much interest in it. On the contrary, it is precisely with these that we originally intend to go in and understand. That's curiosity.
In the world of education, there is a lottery pedagogy. Students are easily bored with the original learning content, so learning becomes negative.
This is also happening among the students of Suzuki-sensei in Japan. Inji is a clever student who learns everything much faster than others. So he didn't want to practice any more. Suzuki knows that this is crucial to his future success, and he can't learn better without a solidified curriculum.
Because of this, he applied the lottery teaching method to his students. Number all tracks, for each lesson, and have students randomly draw a track. In this way, Inji regained his interest in learning, so he practiced harder.
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The Law of Dreams
Children need dreams to grow
In a survey on "what do you want to do when you grow up," 92.7 percent of students went to a good university and got a good job; only 7.3 percent answered by traveling the world and working on an alien planet. So where does their imagination go?
In one experiment, the host drew a circle with chalk on the chalkboard. The Director replied: Without research, this question cannot be answered casually.
When asked about the students of the university Chinese department, they laughed and refused to answer the question that this fool knew; when asked about the middle school students, a top student answered "zero", and a naughty student said "English letter O", but was met with the teacher's blank eyes.
Finally, when asked about the first-grade elementary school students, the children rushed to answer: it was the moon, it was ping-pong, it was the burnt cake, it was the mouth of Teacher Li Guyi when he sang, and it was the teacher's eyes when he was angry.
The title of this experiment is "How The Human Imagination Is Lost," which is very apt.
When we give a minor child something, don't rush to teach him how to do it, you just need to tell him what he should do, and if necessary, make some safety precautions. As for the method, let them think about it. And in the meantime, we just need to encourage and encourage.
5
Southwind effect
revisionism
The South Wind and the North Wind bet to see whose power is stronger. They agreed to see who could take off the pedestrians' clothes. The north wind blew coldly and with its teeth and claws, and the pedestrians wrapped their clothes tighter and tighter; the south wind came out of the horse, and it blew slowly and warmly, until the wind and the sun were beautiful, and the pedestrians took off their coats. The South Wind triumphed.
Why did the South Wind win, because it made people's actions conscious. This practice of inspiring people to reflect and meet their own needs to achieve their goals is called the "South Wind Effect".
It is impossible for a person not to make a mistake, and any mistake, as long as he repents, can always turn back.
When the little one accidentally spilled the milk on the ground, the mother said gently: This is really a beautiful sea of milk. And then told the child that although the milk ocean is beautiful, but the floor is going to suffer, she and the child wiped the floor clean, and told the child the correct way to take the milk.
Psychologists say that once a mistake occurs, even if it is angry again, it happens, and what we have to do is how to avoid repeating the mistake and clean up the mess that comes with the mistake.
On the other hand, from the child's point of view, everything in his attempt and growth stage, more tolerance, focus on guidance, is not exactly what we all need? And if the child doesn't like and trusts you, everything you say is difficult to work.
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The law of natural punishment
Let the child bear the blame for himself
In educating their children, parents should set an example.
Dad talked with the guests leaning against the door because of the guests, and the wind was very strong on this day, the door was blown by the wind several times, and Eddie's homework book was blown loudly.
When the door was blown open again, Eddie slammed it shut. At this time, the sound of Dad's pain came from outside. The angry dad looked at the terrified Eddie, and his raised hand was about to hit. And Dad finally didn't fight.
Afterwards, Dad said to Eddie: I put my hand in the crack of the door, the mistake was me, why hit you.
Education, not only verbal preaching, but also teaching by example, has no small impact. When Eddie grew up, he recalled, it was my father who told me that people should take responsibility for their mistakes, not for anger.
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Rosenthal effect
Make positive expectations for your child
Rosenthal was a 20th-century American psychologist, and Pygmion was the protagonist of ancient Greek mythology. This effect refers to the effect of a positive expectation that brings positive results.
In the Pygmion myth, he was the king of Sephiroth and a statue of a statue. He fell in love with a statue of his own beauty, and he expected her to accept his love. His persistent love touched the God of Love, and the statue came alive and became the king's wife. Thus there are today's Sephirothians.
Myths are finally laughed at. Rosenthal's experiments, on the other hand, yielded this effect. He gave positive and negative evaluations to two groups of students who were randomly combined, and later, it turned out to be such positive or negative results. Positive expectations are actually a kind of external support.
In people's minds, family and friends are the core of this support force, and the expected support of family and friends is also more shaping. When you are frustrated, both children and we adults are very much looking forward to this power.
In turn, without this positive expectation and support, he becomes negative or stumbles after setbacks.
8
Respect the law
The growth of the heart requires respect
Self-esteem is the first principle to learn in life.
In a teacher's class, the teacher took out a book by a famous cartoonist, told the children the story in the book, and asked the children to tell a story themselves and let them draw it.
Although the children's stories are not stories and the drawings are not the same, the teacher still writes them down very carefully and puts the stories written down with the paintings.
He told everyone that this is the first book you have written, and now that you are young, when you grow up, you will be able to write good books and become great people.
If you want your child to really grow up, you should let your child "stand" from an early age, rather than "lying on your stomach" to look up at those big people. This reciprocal approach allows children to have a confident and sound personality.
Respect the child, treat him as an independent person, respect his privacy, respect his choices, respect his friends, communicate with him often, respect more, reasonable guidance, he will get better growth.
So when we see adults fighting for their children at some park subway ticket offices to reduce tickets, we know that all you save is money.
9
Delay gratification
Cultivate patience from an early age
Man has impatience and shows two directions. One is to want what you want; the other is to be able to wait until what you need comes. The difference is that one is unequal and one can wait. This wait is patience.
Restraint can be cultivated, individuals suggest that it is difficult to do it alone, and two people should cooperate with each other to achieve it. There is a "three-minute game". Children don't like to read, they only like to play games and watch TV. Dad found an antique hourglass, and the child was very eager to play with this hourglass.
Dad agreed with him: This funnel is an ancient timer, the sand leak is exactly three minutes, let's read the storybook together, and when the three minutes arrive, you will go to play.
In the first few times, the child did not read the book at all, but stared at the hourglass, and when the sand leaked, he went to play; but the father was not discouraged, and after many times, the child slowly turned his attention to the book. Many times, the child was attracted to the contents of the book and asked for an extension of time, but the father insisted on only watching for three minutes. After many times, the child took the initiative to read a book.
Three minutes is the characteristics that are suitable for the child's attention, after three minutes, it will stop, and it will be cultivated many times to form a habit, so that the child can focus on one thing in a certain period of time.
Parents' perseverance and patience have also been tested.
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Sensory deprivation
Let the child taste the taste of life for himself
Psychologists have found that feeling is the most basic psychological phenomenon of people, through feeling we can obtain information from the outside world, in order to adapt to the environment to survive.
Brain development, human growth, and maturity are based on the necessary conditions for the development of psychological factors such as intelligence and emotions with the external environment, and we should let children actively feel the colorful external environment and get more knowledge and information from the environment.
Many parents are afraid that their children will suffer and be endangered, so that their children will not only have a narrow vision and a narrow mind, but also because of the lack of many social practices, it will be difficult to adapt to the future changeable social environment.
When children make mistakes, we often play the role of firefighters, but you don't know that parents can never complete the way to experience life for their children, and we need to be their guides.
We involve children in the work of the family, let them clean themselves, make the bed, or more things they can do or are willing to do, and we let an audience watch them grow on their own.
Educating children must not be simple and rude, to pay attention to scientific methods, whether it is teachers or parents, in the education of children on the road must grasp the right direction, so as to play the expected effect.
Reprinted: Northern Xinjiang Parents Academy