"The World of Man" is really full of life. People's lives are always ups and downs, there are highs and lows, there are good things and bad things, and the five tastes and miscellaneous things are the essence of life. With Zhou Bingkun's efforts, the family finally moved into a big house, but everyone found that Zhou Rong, who returned to Jichun, did not take her daughter home, and Feng Yue still lived in her uncle's house.
Zhou Bingkun and Zheng Juan were also very good to her, and specially set aside a room for her. Their two sons slept on bunk beds in their parents' rooms.
1. The indifference of family affection
After Feng Yue was born, he should have had a happy time, although his parents were in Guizhou at that time, life was very difficult, but at least the family was together. But because of a visit to his family, Feng Yue was completely separated from his parents.
Feng Yue gradually accepted Zheng Juan's care and did not want to follow her parents home. In those years, Zhou Rong was also busy with school and graduate school, and she had no time to take care of her daughter. In fact, at that time, they were in Beijing, and they were completely able to take the children back. Feng Huacheng wanted to stay in Beijing out of concern for his children's education, but Zhou Rong never seemed to think about her daughter's problem.
Although Zheng Juan and Zhou Bingkun were very good to her, as Feng Yue grew up, she knew that it was not her parents. As for her own biological parents, they rarely care about her, so she is very uncomfortable with them.
In this kind of life, her concept of family affection is extremely weak. Her parents didn't care about themselves, Zheng Juan and Zhou Bingkun were not her parents, she learned to love only herself early.
You can compare it, Zhou Nan has always regarded Zhou Bingkun as his father, and when he heard his father come to see him in his sleep, he said dimly: Dad is hard. He could see his parents' efforts for the family.
And Feng Yue? She only saw that her parents were living well in Beijing and living well back in Jichun, but they had not done anything for themselves. Although Zheng Juan and Zhou Bingkun are very good to themselves, they cannot replace the love of their parents.
Because of the lack of father's love and maternal love, her intimate relationship is missing, so her sense of family affection is also very indifferent.
2. The nature of profit-seeking
There's no doubt that genes are inherited. Feng Yue's parents were all pursuing freedom in their bones, and Feng Yue completely inherited this.
When Feng Huacheng originally expressed the views of "raising the mouth body" and "cultivating the mind" to Zhou Father and Zhou Mother, he said that these two points were equally important, but in fact, he was reminding Zhou Father and Zhou Mother that "raising the mind" was more important. Coupled with a series of things that he encountered later, didn't Zhou Zhigang feel that "nourishing the mind" was more important?
In the following years, Zhou Bingkun worked so hard, wasn't it also to prove that he could both "nourish the mouth and body" and "cultivate the mind"?
Zhou Rong is even more so, in order to pursue love, she can give up her parents, give up her brothers, and even give up her daughter. Her psychology is only her own.
Under the combination of these two genes, coupled with the influence of the living environment, didn't Feng Yue develop a more selfish psychological trait than Zhou Rong?
When writing an essay, he wrote about how good his mother was, but he never ignored how Zheng Juan took care of her without complaint or regret. Of course, this composition was also denied by Zhou Rong, saying that there was no emotional color in it, and it was more like a "eulogy".
Feng Yue lived in her uncle's house, and her grandmother called her out, she complained that her grandmother did not knock on the door, and usually locked her secret tightly, and then in order to be with Zhou Nan, she followed her father to France.
Originally, Zhou Rong's career was in an upward period, but for her sake, Zhou Rong gave up her job and lived in France for more than ten years.
Feng Yue is selfish, in the end, it is still because of heredity.
3. The influence of the original family
From Feng Yue's question, we still have to talk about the problem of returning to the original family.
Children who are loved by their parents are full of love in their hearts; and those who are not with their parents from childhood are more likely to rebel. Children will question their parents because their parents have not taken care of themselves, and parents will also feel guilty because they have not been able to take care of their children, such a relationship is not good for parent-child relationship, and it is even more detrimental to the growth of children.
Feng Yue's problem, in the final analysis, was because Zhou Rong was too self-inflicted. When they went to college in Beijing, Feng Hua became their mother and daughter who gave up the Writers Association and chose the library, wasn't it just to share a house? But at this time, Zhou Rong did not want to take her daughter over.
If Yue Yue was taken over at this time and let her go to university in Beijing, it might be another situation. But Zhou Rong missed this time. At that time, she should have felt that it was good for someone to take children, and she should seize the time to fight for her career.
Later, she and Feng Huacheng did not develop well in Beijing and returned to Jichun. She was promoted to associate professor at Jiangliao University, and also divided the house, at this time Yue Yue was in junior high school, she could have taken over. But she still did not pick up, she felt that bingkun family house is big, live open, she is only a one-bedroom room, the child does not live, so still do not pick up.
In short, I don't pick up when I have a good time, and I don't want to pick up when I have a bad time. Although she was a mother, she only went to see her daughter once a week, and she didn't know anything about what was on her mind. This laissez-faire attitude allows her daughter to develop her own personality, so Feng Yue will not listen to her mother, let alone Listen to Zheng Juan and Zhou Bingkun, which makes her more willful than Zhou Rong.
A child who lacks the love of her parents has an emptiness in her heart, and she will always feel that anyone owes her.
Zhou Rong's life is really high and low, I thought she was an excellent girl, she was very brave to give up everything for love, but she didn't expect that it was because of love that her life was ruined.
Poor Zhou Rong, even more poor Feng Yue.