Why do you feel that after a long time of marriage, you feel that this man does not cherish you? Why do men do this? The key point is two words, called to get, men get you naturally will not cherish.
Many women have this problem, swearing and grinning, but there seems to be nothing they can do: "When I was asked to marry him, that marriage proposal scene, and then I am now married to him." 」 But this time has been long, as if now I don't listen to anything he says, and the attitude gap is very large. ”
In fact, people are like this, you used to buy a bag, bought and used for a period of time, you are not rare. So that's human nature, there's no way to blame him, so what we can do is not let him get it.
I want you to understand a truth in marriage: marriage is actually a cooperation between two independent individuals. But once this cooperation is controlled by one person and becomes his own arbitrary behavior, then for another individual, it will never be cherished.
It sounds complicated to say that. Let me give you an example: Let's say I start a company and you start a company, and the two of us work together to create better value. The two of us have been cooperating, then we must respect each other, and I have to take some gifts to see you during the New Year's Festival.
But if one day, all the shares in your company are occupied by me and I get it, you are now just empty of the name of a person in charge. Then think about it, will I still respect you? Will I still visit you for the New Year's Holidays? Probably not, because I've got two companies.
So there will be a situation in the marriage, and if you let the man get it completely, he will naturally not cherish you. What is it called a complete get? It is that your mind, your spirit, is all occupied by this man, and you will think about it every day: What does he think of me? How to please him? How to keep him? Wait a minute. You become very passive, you become attached to the other person, you become received by the other party.
At any time, you have an independent mind and an independent personality in your marriage. Let me give you an example: for example, you go to the gym to lose weight, it must be because you want to become better, absolutely not because my husband wants me to become thinner; you go to learn the piano, it must be because you like the piano, never because my husband likes to listen to the piano and so on. Everything you do is because you like it or because you want to make him happy. If it's because you want to make him happy, then you're ruined, you let him get it.
So in life I want everyone to be centered on autonomous thinking before doing everything. When you start to really live out your self, you can get rid of what he thinks he thinks is getting, get rid of getting the mind. Then two people can still respect each other, attract each other, and achieve each other.