Author | Xu Diandian
As an educator, the first thing to be clear is:
The children's resistance is justified.
You want him to study at home,
He may be worried about playing with his mobile phone every day;
You teach him the rules,
He may just want to do whatever he wants;
You want him to be obedient and sensible,
He may deliberately contradict you...
We envy the "children of others",
Behind them must stand parents who are educating with their hearts.
With the Winter Olympic ski champion Gu Ailing all over the world,
Her mother Gu Yan also became a god overnight,
A figure who is praised as the "ceiling of the parenting world".
This mother graduated from Peking University and Stanford,
But he never asked his daughter to score 100 points.
Never impose his own expectations on his daughter.
Gu Ailing aspired to go to Stanford from an early age,
But she told her daughter:
"You don't have to go to Stanford,
The important thing is that you don't give up on learning for the rest of your life. ”
Teach children without a specific formula,
Parents lower their mentality,
Don't impose your own expectations on your children,
Every child is very different,
It is even more important to find the right educational method for your child.
Write at the end:
As early as the 17th century, the philosopher Locke believed:
"When a person is born, the mind is like a whiteboard,
All the ideas and knowledge of man,
They are all traces left by external things on the whiteboard. ”
If parents pay attention to observation,
To be able to understand their own children:
Why not be so "well-behaved"?
Why didn't it become what we wanted it to be?
In fact
Everything a child looks like is a projection of ourselves on him.
Reading a child's inner world is like going back to a childhood.
Be a child again and read yourself.
Know how to listen, lead by example, teach patiently,
Better than empty preaching.
The goal of education is not who the child must become,
It's about being himself.
When he grew up and became independent,
It is possible to do what you want to do,
Live the life you want.
The best education,
It's to put a pair of dream wings on the child,
Guide him to believe in himself and trust his parents.
When he grows up,
You see that independent and excellent man,
There is your shadow on you.
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Author: Diandian Xu, Editor of the Parenting Column, focuses on parenting and child psychology research. Some of the pictures are from the Internet, and the copyright belongs to the original author.