Hoping for Jackie Chan and Hoping for a Daughter to become a phoenix is the wish and expectation of every parent, and not letting the child lose at the starting line is also a requirement for parents for themselves.
For how to educate children and how to arrange their children's lives, many parents have not done a satisfactory job.
Ning Ning was in the third grade this year, and since he was five years old, his mother began to give him a picture class, a street dance class and a piano class, and ning Ning, who had no school pressure at that time, was still very happy to learn and achieved remarkable results.
But later, after going to the first grade, he still had to write homework left by school every day, and in addition to asking himself to take the interest class, his mother also required his grades to be top-notch, and he could only keep learning every day.
Carefully calculated, Ning Ning slept less than seven hours a day, and spared no effort to learn all kinds of knowledge, and in the long run, I am afraid that even an adult cannot stick to it.
Finally, one day, Ning Ning was overwhelmed and said to her mother, "Mom, I am too sleepy, just sleep for a minute" and then fell on the table. Mom thought he was sleeping, thinking that she would just wake him up later.
Even after a long time, Ning Ning did not wake up, and her mother panicked. Went to the hospital and found that Ning Ning's heartbeat had stopped and he was unable to return to heaven. Mom cried bitterly: Why is this so.
A child who has not slept enough for a long time, coupled with excessive brain pressure, it is difficult to say that the body will not collapse. Ning Ning's grief experience was also caused by her mother.
In addition to parents' "high expectations" for their children, what else should they pay attention to?
1. Be sure to sleep
Sleeping is a process of recuperation and physical recovery, and it is also a process of self-repair of the body. Getting enough sleep is even more important for a small child.
Not only does the body need sleep for growth and development, but also the development of the nervous system of the brain. If you do not get enough sleep for a long time, your body will gradually become empty, and even danger will occur.
2. Respect your child's wishes
The original intention of giving your child various interest classes is right, but to ask for your child's opinion. Let him understand that his parents are good to him, and he chooses the extracurricular classes he wants to take according to his interests.
"Interest is the best teacher", with a strong interest in learning, the learning process will be happy and the learning results will be obvious. In this way, parents watch their children progress to be happy for their children, and children themselves learn to be happy and win both.
3. Arrange time reasonably
In addition to ensuring enough sleep, the rest of the time should be discussed with the child and planned together. When to go to bed, when to get up, when to study, how long to play games, etc.
Reasonably and effectively help children allocate time, develop the habit of making plans from an early age, and do things clearly and methodically.
4. Respect the law of children's development
Each stage has something to do at each stage, do not take the difficult Olympiad problem to a child who has just entered elementary school;
Don't say "See xx children are as old as you, people get full scores every time, why can't you?" "Blind comparison is not advisable. Every child is a unique star, shining in his or her place.
5. Focus on mental health
Mental health issues have also become a hot topic in recent years. In the increasingly stressful modern society, not only adults, but also some children will even have psychological problems under the influence of adults.
Parents should pay attention to their children's mental health, communicate with their children from time to time, talk about recent events, and give some advice to guide them when they encounter things that they cannot solve.
In today's increasing pressure on education, it is understandable that parents' expectations of their children have increased.
However, education must also use the right method, and it is not possible to promote the growth of seedlings, otherwise it will only lose both sides.