When raising children, "anxiety" is almost like a shadow with parents, whether the child has made progress or not, it cannot escape.
If there is a child who has progressed, parents will be anxious about whether he can improve more, and parents who do not improve will be anxious about the gap between their children and other children.
This is the vulnerability of parents, but also the nature of people, always feel that it can be better.
Nader van der Linden said:
Parents should stop seeking affirmations and comparisons outwardly, and judge whether they are doing the right thing physically, psychologically, and emotionally.
Yes, the test of your success in educating your child is the child's performance, and this is not only the score, but also the comprehensive.
If you find that your child has the following manifestations, it means that you have been well educated, continue to maintain, do not worry.
On the contrary, if parents do not reflect on their shortcomings, they should adjust their education methods in a targeted manner to allow children to develop in an all-round way.
1
Will observe the color of the same heart
Such children usually have high emotional intelligence, and have a good heart, and their personality is relatively complete.
There are parents in the group who share their children's childhood events and always say with satisfaction:
"As long as the child sees me bowing my head and not speaking, he will come over and hold my face and ask in a grievous manner:
'Mom, are you not happy?' Don't you love me anymore? ’”
Every time no matter how unhappy, I will be warmed up by the child and immediately become a Buddha.
Children can coax people, adapt to the changes in the emotions of those around them, and express doubts and comfort when necessary.
In the future, it will be very advantageous to socialize, it is easier to win the respect of others, and it will be faster to adapt to the new environment.
2
Loved reading
Children can quiet down and read, indicating that they can be at peace inside, not disturbed by external disturbances, and immersed in the spiritual world.
Such children have a stronger sense of logic and order, and reading suitable books will make children more motivated to grow.
Simply design a bookshelf at home, place books that your children are interested in, and take your children to the bookstore to pick them when you buy them.
Reading is a good habit, so that when you grow up, you will become a person who "has a bookish spirit in your belly".
Instead of doing unnecessary anxiety, it is better to carefully observe the child's every move, reflect more on their own education methods, and do not love too blindly.
3
Will take the initiative to do housework
Children who are willing to do housework have strong self-care ability and usually have a sense of responsibility.
It is understandable that parents are distressed about their children, but he will always have to go out on his own in the future, and your arrangement will only make his ability unable to play.
Believing that the child can find the law in the continuous exploration, this trust will be the beginning of his independent life.
When doing housework, I also give my child a space, and in the case of ensuring safety, I show him a demonstration, let the child try it, satisfy curiosity and also cultivate various abilities, killing two birds with one stone.
Education is a process that requires continuous reflection and growth.
There is no reason to be good in this world, and all educational methods need to be learned.
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