#What kind of person to choose when getting married #1, find a suitable partner, match your own other half, instead of finding the best person, everyone wants to find the best: "young",

#What kind of person should you choose to get married#

1, find a suitable, matching with your own other half, rather than looking for the best

Everyone wants to find the best: "young", "handsome", "capable", "well-bred"... Few will be exceptions.

But the best is never for any one person! Just like the world's most precious treasures are placed in the national museum, if someone wants to hide it, it will become the target of others' covetousness, and sooner or later it will be stolen!

The best is for everyone! I want to find the best, but first look at my own conditions: what kind of people do I look for based on my looks, what kind of people do I look for with my academic qualifications, what kind of people do I find with my ability, and what kind of people do I look for based on my family background?

Why not imagine that the two people's academic qualifications are too different, and how to get along in the future? The age difference between two people is too large, will you feel comfortable going out?

Therefore, choosing a mate is not to find the best, but to fit in, to find a match with yourself!

2, find a door to the other half, the difference is not very large

When it comes to choosing a mate, many women want to marry a husband with a superior family, money and power, thinking that they can live a worry-free life!

As everyone knows, marriage is not a fairy tale, and it always has to return to reality. The strength of the two people's family backgrounds is very different, the growth environment and living habits are different, the way of thinking and the degree of insight will be different, and it is not so natural and convenient to get along with each other and communicate. Maybe it won't feel good at first, but it will fade away over time.

In addition, if the daughter of an ordinary family marries into a rich family, others will always doubt your intentions: Is it a bad intention? Is it coveting the man's money? Even if this is not the case, there will always be people talking about you behind your back, and you will inevitably suffer a lot of injustice.

Many realistic cases also remind us that the daughter of an ordinary family marries into a rich family, and after entering the door, she is not a daughter-in-law, but becomes a high-level maid, who is called around and ridiculed by her in-laws. Because the in-laws looked down on her and thought she was not worthy to sit and enjoy her success.

A woman must not want to improve her future through marriage, there are few such unearned things in the world. If you insist on marrying a rich man, this kind of good thing that the crow becomes a phoenix, the proportion is originally very low, think clearly is worth your risk? Otherwise, the result of the high climb is that both people will be victimized!

Our reasonable choice is that the family strength of the two sides is relatively similar, and the social status is basically the same!

3. See what books he usually reads?

What about getting a clear picture of what your boyfriend is all about? As long as we have the heart, we have many ways to make very practical judgments. For example, look at what books he reads. As long as women look at what books are on the shelf of their boyfriends, or what books they are reading, and what kind of books they like to read in bookstores, they can basically understand the person's interests and hobbies and hierarchical tastes.

4) Look at the friends around him

Friends will often get together, which means that they are like-minded. He may be disguised in front of you and speak very beautifully. From what kind of friends he makes, how to interact with friends can get a lot of information, and what kind of person he is can also see the three points.

5, understand his family environment, family atmosphere

When getting married, sooner or later you have to interact with each other's whole family, and you must go to each other's homes to see more before marriage. Otherwise, after getting married, it will be very painful to find that there is no family except for him and you!

Visit his family more before marriage to see how his family environment is, and is it clean and comfortable?

How is the relationship between families, do you care about each other, you have me in your heart, I have you in my heart? If you go, his family will do their own thing, mom doesn't care, dad say hello and leave, indicating that no one in their hearts exists, and I'm afraid it will be difficult to get along in the future.

6, visit his parents more, carefully observe his parents' behavior and performance, examine whether his family style is good or not, and how his attitude towards you is

If you want to know whether his parents welcome you or not, accept you or not, just observe his parents' behavior and performance carefully. In addition, due to the family style, every member of a family seems to be very similar. You can also foresee your own situation after marriage from the relationship between his parents, and the children of the family that the parents love will also be heard. On the contrary, there seems to be a big gap between his parents, and you have to be vigilant.

7, check his physical condition as soon as possible, don't wait for the marriage to go to the premarital examination

Be sure to check his physical condition as soon as possible, don't wait until the love is mature, and you are about to get married before you go to the premarital physical examination, that is actually just a form.

They have already invested in each other's feelings and are talking about marriage, if one of them checks out what major patients, what can you do? Breaking up with each other? That's pretty desperate, isn't it!

Therefore, we must plan at the beginning, check his physical condition as soon as possible, and do not wait until the end, it is too late.

8. When choosing a mate, the vision should be higher, the things to consider should be a little more, and the height, physique, children's future, the relationship between brothers and sisters, and the attitude of parents should be taken into account

Marriage is a major event that accompanies people's lives, and it is necessary to be very cautious at the beginning, to be more demanding, and to consider more things. Take the fa from above, get it from it; take the fa in the middle, get it from below, set the goal a little higher, and in the future it will only reach half at most. Only by having a high goal before marriage and then working hard for this goal can it be possible to move towards a happy and complete life and be worthy of yourself.