The girl's little jelly has been particularly sensible since she was two years old, often chasing her mother to play, sometimes coaxing her mother, even if she arrived in kindergarten, almost did not go through the adaptation period, and could take the initiative to go to school every day. But at the age of four, the personality suddenly changed a lot, jelly became particularly crying, a little bit of setbacks, and even a little problem will be wronged to shed tears, and the sunshine on the face is getting less and less. At first, the mother was particularly incomprehensible, felt that the child was a little weak, and tried to preach euphemistically, but after a long time, there was no improvement. Later, the mother was anxious and slowly evolved into yelling at the child, and jelly's sad emotions came more and more frequently.
A scene in the kindergarten made the mother suddenly feel the seriousness of the problem, when Jelly danced with her classmates, the dance teacher saw that their movements were not standard enough, so she went forward to say a few words to the two children, but did not expect Jelly to cry directly, while the other child was full of energy and constantly tried new movements.
The problem with small jelly is the "glass heart". In the critical period of character formation from the age of three to six, how can parents save their children's glass hearts? Once a character is formed, it is difficult to change.
First, the expression of the problem personality
1, will only rely on crying to vent emotions
Children with strong self-esteem are generally more likely to cry, but tend to be better because they are often praised by everyone. But when it comes to things they're not very good at, if someone criticizes them for not doing a good job, then their low ability to be frustrated will be exposed.
2. Negating the opinions of others
When a glass-hearted person faces accusations from others, the usual reaction will be to avoidance and denial.
3. Do not fail
In layman's terms, you can't afford to lose, because you are afraid to lose and don't dare to try.
Second, how to save the glass heart
1, do not kill the child
For the child, if the parent only knows to praise him, then he will no longer accept his own bad points, resulting in the child only willing to accept praise and negate the criticism of others.
2, do not put too much pressure on the child
Sometimes in the case that the child has worked very hard, parents choose to criticize the child because they are not satisfied with the child's achievements and ignore the highlights. This is precisely to hit the child's self-confidence, easy to make the child become fragile and sensitive and inferior.
3. Let the child do housework
Through hard-working training to exercise children's willpower, housework is simple to operate, but has a certain intensity, and the parents' reward model is also very easy to combine.
Dear parents, don't easily yell at your child, or even label him as negative, because you are a parent and your every word will hit your child's heart.