Am I short of maternity leave, I am short of money!
Since the landing of the three-child birth policy, the topic of "whether you can have children, dare to have children" has remained high, which has aroused widespread concern in society. Although supporting active birth support measures such as extending maternity leave, promoting inclusive childcare services, and issuing birth allowances are also being introduced, there are still very few women around who want to have three children.
Instead, mothers who have given birth to a second child in response to the two-child policy are complaining or regretting having a second child. Judging from the current situation, what can be implemented or amended in various places is only an extension of maternity leave by 30-90 days.
For example, Henan, Jiangxi, Sichuan, Guizhou and Zhejiang all stipulate that couples with children under the age of three years of age each have 10 days of parental leave each year. Anhui proposes to extend parental leave to parents of children under the age of 6, with 10 days each year. Shaanxi proposes to stipulate that both parents of children under the age of 3 have no less than 30 days of parental leave each year. Where a female employee gives birth to three children, another six months of incentive leave shall be granted, and her spouse shall be granted an additional nursing leave of 15 days. According to the Shaanxi Draft for Comments, a woman with three children in Shaanxi may be granted statutory maternity leave for about 350 days.
However, there are policies at the top and countermeasures at the bottom, the policies are very beautiful, and the reality is also very bone-chilling. Not to mention, there are several units that can really implement the three-child policy, in addition to government agencies and institutions. Far from it, let's talk about the most ordinary weekends, how many units can effectively implement it? Not to mention the three-child policy, which bears huge fertility costs. As netizens commented, am I short of maternity leave, I am short of money!
For working women with jobs, what about jobs after maternity leave? Let's not talk about the promotion and salary increase that may have arrived soon before. Is it possible that the original job position will be reserved for women on maternity leave? In the past, this period was the peak period for women to leave, and now there are 30 more days of maternity leave, such a long holiday, the company will not always let the position vacant, in addition to making major adjustments to the work process, but also consider the economic benefits. Execution discounts are high probability events.
Of course, organs and institutions are not included. Because the units within the system can implement and land well. It is conceivable that the popularity of posts in civil servants, state-owned enterprises and public institutions will continue to heat up.
Similarly, in order to avoid maternity leave brought about by women's childbirth, women's employment difficulties will continue to increase. On the surface, enterprises will not say that they do not recruit women, but when applying, the difficulty of women to enter the job will increase significantly, not to mention that under the same conditions, men's priority is higher, even if women's employment conditions are much higher than men's, some companies will endure love. Think about it from the perspective of the enterprise, this is also understandable. After all, a turnip a pit.
It is easy to be born and difficult to raise, and it is difficult for families with many children to level a bowl of water
It is easy to be born; it is difficult to breed. You know, life is only the first step in the long march. After that, health care, education, housing, employment and even travel are the big problems, and the economic pressure has increased sharply. Of course, parents who are born without raising or throwing them to the elderly as hand-throwers are not in the discussion.
In addition to financial pressures, what pair of parents can guarantee that each child has quality love and care? Which pair of parents can guarantee that they will not compare and make negative evaluations between their children?
It's not just about comparing the big with the small, like "Can't you be as good as your sister?" "Younger brothers can do well, you can't do well as an older sister", so that the older brother or sister will feel that the mother prefers the younger sister or younger brother. It also includes comparing small with large, such as "Look how good your brother is in his studies, why are you so stupid", "Can't you be quiet like your sister for a while?" "This will make the younger brother or sister think that the mother loves the brother or sister more and hates herself."
Although many parents strive to give their children equal and fair love, in reality, they can't do it.
The love and attention that parents can give to each child must not be evenly distributed and completely fair, but many parents are not aware of it or are unwilling to admit it.
It can be said that comparison and negative evaluation are common problems in parent-child communication in multi-child families, which is not conducive to the establishment of children's self-esteem and self-confidence, and it is also easy to stimulate conflicts between children, resulting in children's lack of security.
Therefore, parents need more awareness and introspection, and this awareness and introspection is needed to be practiced consistently.
Instead of calling on women to have more children, it is better to cultivate men's sense of responsibility
Although men and women are equal, it is only work that is equal, even if mom and dad are office workers, most parenting responsibilities fall on moms. From eating and drinking Lasa to homework tutoring, picking up and dropping off at school, all the responsibilities fall on the mother.
Dads are only responsible for making money to support the family, and some dads can't make money and can't support the family, but the temper is bigger than the sky, whether it's a full-time mother, or a working mom, any problem with the child is the mother's pot. When I was a child, I was sick, my mother was scolded, I was older, my child's grades were not ideal, or my mother carried the pot, even if the child was fat and thin, it was also the mother who carried the pot.
In the words of my mother, I give birth to a child, I do housework, I also want to earn money, not only can not get the other party's understanding, but also have to be angry and affected, giving birth to one is enough, why bother to have a second child and three children, difficult for yourself?
It can be said that the biggest pressure of having one child, two children and three children is not at all whether to retain women's employment opportunities and seize the opportunity to dedicate their spare heat to obtain economic independence, but how to respect women's personal dignity in the process of childbearing and protect the economic rights of mothers who give birth.
In other words, to improve the willingness of Chinese families to have children, instead of calling on women to have more children, it is better to cultivate a sense of responsibility for men, whether it is a second child or a third child, both husband and wife must share the responsibility, cooperate in the division of labor, even if there is enough economic foundation to ask the elderly or aunt to help take care of it, it should also be clear that parenting their children, parents are the first responsible person, but also the first right holder.