In ancient times, the women of large families, who had children to ask for a nurse, were also very helpless, and the persecution of various situations did not help her not to invite the nurse.
1. Inviting a grandmother is a symbol of status and a traditional habit of large households
The invitation of a grandmother by a large family is definitely a matter of identity.
In the process of social development, there are always different classes, different circles, a woman from a large family, if she has a child, she also has to breastfeed herself, but also frequently get up at night, and get up unkempt, what will others think? Outsiders will think that your family does not have that strength, which is something that large families cannot stand.
Large households are afraid that others will look down on them, and they will be afraid of being looked down upon by others.
Therefore, even if the woman herself wants to feed herself, most of the male masters in the family will stop it.
In addition, the women of large families, having children, the confinement is full, when it is time to honor the in-laws, can not refuse, early please be safe, late please be safe, etiquette can not be neglected.
Moreover, women who milk their children often make amazing moves for the sake of their children, and it is also unruly to open their clothes and feed them in public.
Various circumstances show that large households have a tradition of inviting grandmothers, and it is very difficult to change traditional habits. Thus, generation after generation continues.
When a woman from a large family who has a child needs to breastfeed herself, it means that the family is likely to start to depression. Otherwise, it is difficult to abandon tradition.
2, most of the hostesses of large households can not eat bitterly, please nurse can save some effort
Modern women are great, especially after becoming mothers, and need to spend countless sleepless nights, which can be maddening.
Looking at a mother who has given birth to a child, her spirit is often weak, and most of her interest in things other than her child is not interested, and feeding the child, holding the child, and coaxing the child is not an easy task.
In ancient times, most of the people in the big families married women who were right in the door. These women are generous and spoiled, their physical condition is average, and their ability to bear hardships is very poor.
In such a case, it is normal to ask a nurse to reduce the burden on the woman who gives birth to a child and increase the help.
If the in-laws don't give the invitation, the mother's family will pay for a milkmaid to come over.
This nurse not only manages to feed, but also manages the child's eating and drinking, and also manages the child's sleep at night.
To say something that is not good, in the eyes of those infants and young children who have not grown up, the grandmother is closer than anyone.
On the most cattle milkmaid, it is the milkmaid in the palace.
Looking at the history, Ming XiZong Zhu You's grandmother Keshi, feeding and accompanying Zhu You's school until after the age of ten. And Zhu You's proofreading of Keshi is also very important, at one time, Keshi was like a fish in the palace, and together with Wei Zhongxian, he influenced many people and many things.
The Kangxi dynasty of the Qing Dynasty had a deep affection for the grandmother, and let the grandmother's son Cao Yin do Jiangning weaving, and Cao Yin was Cao Xueqin's grandfather.
A grandmother changes the fate of a family.
3, please the grandmother, which is also what most women are willing to do, can increase the intimate time with her husband
In ancient large households, after a woman gave birth to a child, if she nursed for a long time and raised a child, the probability of body deformation was extremely high.
Because of taking care of the child, there is no energy to do anything else, and the figure is deformed, which will cause the male host's mind to shift. In this way, the woman will fall out of favor.
At that time, the big family was not a wife, once out of favor, there were bound to be other women to be favored, and they might be in harmony with the male host, Qinser, and then have children.
In this way, women who have children and deform their bodies will have some influence at home.
In fact, people are all interested in their family status and interests, if their position at home will be shaken, it is bound to carry out some preventive and remedial measures.
One of the preventive and remedial measures is to ask the nurse to take care of the child, liberate herself, and do a good postpartum recovery, so that you can be with your husband as soon as possible to have a fish and water fun.
In addition, the probability of early death of children in ancient times is extremely high, and the hostess liberates herself and increases the time of intimacy with her husband, so that it is possible to raise a second child, or even a third child.
Modern people pay attention to breastfeeding, and hiring a nurse is actually an unfair habit, and it is an unfair deformed tradition for rich people to use their own money to let poor women give up their children to serve the rich.
Just like Puyi's grandmother, for the sake of milk Puyi, the competition led to the death of his daughter, and the party was still stupid and did not know, many years later to know, but it was too late, and a few lines of tears were shed.
And the last emperor Puyi, and the nurse mother has a very deep feeling, deeper than his mother, because from birth, accompanied by the milk mother, became the emperor, or the milk lady into the palace to accompany, until Puyi was more than nine years old, the milk lady did not leave.
Puyi also wrote his own grandmother into "The First Half of My Life", which shows the importance attached to the grandmother.
However, Puyi abdicated at that time, and his life was average, otherwise, this grandmother would benefit a lot.
In general, most of the large families in ancient times asked the nurse to manage their children, which is a common traditional habit, and the parties must not be involved, one is because it is a symbol of status, and it is also the tradition of large households;
Second, most of the women in large families are not very good at suffering and need the help of the grandmother;
The third is that the male owner of a large family has three wives and four concubines, and he is separated from the milk and children early, and he can spend more time with his husband.