When taking children to get injections, we often see scenes like this: before the nurses can start working, many children begin to "howl".
But there are also individual children, from birth, to the age of five or six, and they hardly cry when they are injected. I know a mom, and that's what her son is. Since he was born at the age of 6, he does not cry every time he takes a needle or even hangs a needle, and everyone praises him for his bravery.
Often, we tend to think that children don't cry because they are brave. In fact, the child's performance may also hide another problem: that is, tactile imbalance.
In general, the tactile disorder is relatively secretive, and if the situation is mild, it is easy to be ignored, and it is difficult for ordinary people to judge.
So, in daily life, what other details of the child may be a tactile disorder?
For example, we will find that some children especially do not like to be touched by others, like to bite their lips, suck their fingers, make a lot of noise when bathing and cutting nails, wake up easily when sleeping, and are particularly susceptible to being affected when reading books or playing with toys, and these performances may actually be caused by tactile disorders.
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What do you think? Is the above behavior quite common? But don't you realize that these behaviors can all be tactile disorders? From this point of view, it is still necessary for us to figure out, what is a tactile disorder?
Our human body's sense of touch, is the tactile cells after receiving external stimuli caused by the reaction, there are many tactile cells in the human body, existing in the skin, internal organs, bones, joints and other parts, so that we can clearly distinguish between hot and cold, soft and hard, pain, heavy pressure and so on. Touch, vestibular and proprioception are known as the three main sensory systems of the human body.
The so-called tactile disorder refers to the abnormality of the sense of touch, so that we are too sensitive or sluggish to respond to the corresponding stimuli of the outside world. Usually, tactile disorders in our general cognition, will be biased to refer to the sense of tactile dullness, in fact, tactile disorders also include tactile sensitivity.
What is tactile dullness?
If you notice that your child has some of the following manifestations, it is likely that the child is slow to touch:
* Especially not afraid of pain. The child fell, even if the skin was broken and bleeding, he did not say a word, the needle never cried, even if it was scalded by hot water, it did not feel much.
* I can't feel a slight touch, I am not afraid of itching, and I can't feel bugs crawling on my body.
* Like to touch everywhere, run around, but there is no sense of safety, always bumping into and knocking over things at home or on the table.
*Social distancing boundaries are not clear. For example, in school, I often accidentally bump into my classmates, but I don't feel it.
* Not alert enough to potential threats. For example, you're picking up a dropped basketball on the side of the road, but you don't notice an oncoming car.
So, what is tactile sensitivity?
* Tactile dependence. Typical manifestations are that the child is too dependent on something, such as carrying his own doll, small quilt or other items everywhere he goes, or likes to touch his mother's hair, put his hands to sleep, likes to bite his lips, eat his fingers, and so on. What is particularly impressive is that athlete Fu Yuanhui once shared that he liked to touch a small red rope when he was on the show, which is a typical manifestation of tactile dependence.
*There is a "nest horizontal" performance. Unusually quiet in strangers or unfamiliar environments, but at home with family members, very lively, and often likes to lose his temper with his family.
*Particularly susceptible to interference. For example, when sleeping, the slightest noise will wake up, and when reading a toy or reading a book, the slightest movement will be interrupted.
*Preferable, picky eaters, do not like to try new foods.
* Slow emotional state switching, angry or crying after a long time can not be calm.
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In fact, after reading the performance of these tactile disorders, we can foresee the harm caused by tactile disorders to the growth of children, and the most obvious practical harms are the following two:
Children with tactile disorders are prone to encounter many real-world problems when they go to kindergarten.
Children with tactile disorders are more difficult to adapt to in an unfamiliar environment, and eating and drinking Lasa in kindergarten life is easy to become a problem, for example, because it is difficult to adapt to the new food in school, it may not be able to eat well.
In addition, children with tactile disorders will also have difficulties in interpersonal communication. If the touch is too sensitive, do not like to let others get close, like to play alone, easy to be lonely; if the touch is dull, it is easy to cause the child to have no sense of boundaries when interacting with others, it is easy to collide with other children physically or emotionally, he himself is also easy to get angry, it is difficult to make other children like him, and it is difficult to make friends.
Children with tactile disorders are more vulnerable to potentially dangerous threats.
Children with a dull sense of touch usually lack prejudgment of unknown dangers more than the average child when exploring the world, and often like to rummage around, and there are potentially dangerous things in the home, such as hot water, knives, and sockets, which need to be avoided by children.
When going out, adults need to be more careful to avoid children staying on the side of the road, sports fields, parking lots, waterside and other potential risk places, and avoid the danger of children colliding and falling.
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Tactile disorders are so harmful to children, so is there any way to remedy it? In fact, 0-6 years old is the best time for children's tactile training. But if you miss this stage, don't panic too much, before the age of 12, seize the time to remedy, there is still a certain effect.
As parents, we can take our children to do some common tactile training games in our daily lives to correct the symptoms of children's tactile disorders.
(1). Do more physical contact games with children
Before going to bed, you can help your child massage the back, legs, hands and other places, the time is about 10-30 minutes, not only can help the child relax, but also increase physical contact, improve the child's touch.
Usually, make more physical contact with your child. For example, you can hug your child more, or do more physical contact games with your child.
Physical contact games, which can be "tickling", "breaking the wrist", or some other slapstick games, as long as you increase physical contact.
However, during the game, we should pay attention to a certain degree and try to make the child comfortable.
(2). Give your child a good "bath"
Don't give up on taking a shower. When bathing, use a towel, bath ball, etc. to scrub the child's hands, feet, back and chest and other parts of the body, the action should be gentle and soothing, if the child does not resist, it can last a little longer.
In addition to towels, you can try replacing them with items of different textures, such as tactile sticks and tactile rings.
After taking a bath, you can use a hair dryer to help your child blow a little hair, and use different wind speeds to tell children about different tactile feelings.
(3).“ Blind Box Touch " game
We can make a small "blind box", put items of different textures in it, parents say the name of the item, let the child reach in and feel the corresponding things one by one according to the feeling, let the child feel the softness, hardness, roughness, warmth and so on of all things, and let the child describe the feeling.
Usually in life, you can also let children play with sand, play with water, and even play with rice, count beans, learn to turn books, etc., so that children can touch objects of different materials.
You can also take your children to nature yourself, guide children to collect leaves and fruits to make specimens; take children to blow the wind in the summer, let children feel the touch of the wind, or take children to swim, so that the cool river water washes every inch of children's skin.
Parents with hearts can also make a touch book of different materials. Usually let the child touch more.
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Conclusion: The problem of tactile disorders in modern children is largely due to the excessive protection of parents. Therefore, in life, do not be too protective of children.
If we are afraid of dirty, afraid of trouble, afraid of danger, too much protection of children, this does not let children touch, then do not let children touch, just deprive them of the opportunity to touch everything, to the normal growth of children to bring unnecessary trouble.
If you have stopped your child at these moments:
When the child wants to climb the stairs, you pick him up;
When the child wants to play with the sand, you say dirty;
When your child wants to play with water, you are afraid that he will get his clothes wet;
When the child wants to eat by himself, you feel dirty;
When your child wants to help you pick vegetables, you think he is adding to the chaos...
If so, then you need to reflect.
As a parent, in order to let the child grow up healthily, under the premise of ensuring the safety and principles of the child, it may as well let go of the hand and let the child explore the world more freely.
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