Didn't forget, but it's hard to take the initiative to turn back.
Because "whether you have forgotten" is an emotional matter, and "whether you want to reunite" is an action matter.
So there is little point in asking this question, even if you know that the boy has not forgotten you, he still has you in his heart, so what? Unless you are trying to redeem.
In addition, he has passed the emotional stage, even if he thinks of you because of something, then he will begin to think rationally about the problem, if the obstacle in his heart has not passed, then no matter how much he thinks about you, he will not easily turn back.
I know you've searched a lot about men's post-breakup ideas before you read this post, someone telling you how men change at every stage, someone telling you how to improve yourself, etc.
There's nothing wrong with that, but I want to see the most important things from the underlying logic, and instead of standing still and thinking wildly, it's better to stop and really examine the man's heart.
Everyone in an intimate relationship will use the subconscious to score the current state, for example, when he lives alone is 5 points, then during your hot love, due to the pleasure you bring, he will be added 8 points.
Slowly, the contradictions between you are more and more, and he wants to break up several times, then he will quickly reduce the score in his mind, becoming 0 points, or negative points.
So at this time, breaking up is not a bad thing for him, and it will even bring him back to the original point, that is, a 5-point life, and it can be as relaxed as when he was single.
However, when he wakes up from the ecstasy of freedom, he finds himself so lonely now, thinking that he is out of the sea of suffering, and he did not expect that he has long been accustomed to your existence, then his score will become negative.
No one can live with bad emotions all the time, so he will definitely find a way to add the score back.
If when he is just about to immerse himself in the lost love, he finds that there are many beautiful suitors around him, and it doesn't matter if he casually breaks up, then even if he thinks of you, he will at most smile and say: "Oh, she, my ex-girlfriend, fortunately separated, bored to death when they are together!" ”
Because the score in his heart is soaring now, he doesn't bother to care about the love-hate relationship between you and you.
If his career is smooth after the breakup, and there are endless meetings and endless plans every day, then even if he will think of you, it will be a moment at most, why? Isn't it nice to make money! What a love affair!
Similarly, because he has found other alternatives, he will not forget you, he does not care at all, maybe he is busy and forgets.
So, the truth is: whether a man will quickly forget you after a breakup depends on how well he's doing now.
Because in the eyes of men, love is really not the first life experience, if he will miss you, take the initiative to turn back, there are only two reasons, either to point to you to enjoy the value you bring, to make their lives better, or this person has achieved fame, only to remember the regrets left before.
I think men are really like hunters in some ways, desperately chasing after hunting, and when they have their hands, they will relax and pursue comfort.
If you don't believe me, you can recall:
Is he getting colder and colder towards you?
Was he willing to do anything to you before, but now he often complains?
Is he staying under the same roof as you, playing games, and not bothering to take care of you?
Does he also often ask you to give a little more, instead of always coming to ask him for it?
This is actually a typical difference in thinking between men and women, and after a man strives to pursue and treats you well in the early stage, he will quietly put himself in the position of the examiner, because he has shown enough sincerity, and now it is time to look at your performance.
But the test of a woman is staged, it will not stop because the relationship is stable, it will come out from time to time, and even with the deepening of the relationship, the test will continue to escalate.
For example, the performance of the boyfriend and the future husband will be completely different, when talking about love, just think that you can accompany me and coax me to be happy, but to the point of talking about marriage, I hope that you can not only bring me emotional value, but also satisfy me in terms of materiality.
But where there are tests, there will be expectations, and what remains after the expectations are disappointed is blame and complaining, at which time the man will be very impatient, why does he think you are never satisfied? Always have to pick a bone in an egg?
So, why is it that there are always women who say, "How can he be so cruel and forget me without turning his head back?" How could I not forget him? ”
Because the pace of men and women in love is completely inconsistent, men have begun to persuade themselves in their hearts to forget when facing the test, and when they wait until the day of the breakup, they are just announcing that they have forgotten success.
But you don't realize his transformation until after the breakup, and of course you feel like he's getting fast.
Therefore, when we look at a relationship, we can't just hope that he must be a perfect boyfriend, but let two people think the same way, not only to see each other's appearance, but also to examine their own influence in the relationship.
The average man proposes to break up, usually for three reasons, the first reality factor, the remote place or the parents oppose, the second woman is too, the pay and take are unbalanced, so don't want to put up with it, and the third you put on a green hat for him, which makes him suffer a major blow.
I'll analyze it a little bit:
The first kind of breakup caused by real factors, I can responsibly tell you that he has never forgotten you!
Two people are not hindered, across the mountains and seas must love each other, must prove to everyone, you are a natural pair, such an unforgettable moment, how can he say forget?
And not everyone can make him have such determination and courage, that is, you must have a special presence in his heart.
But since he has come to the step of breaking up, it means that he has lost confidence, and those problems in his heart are problems that cannot be solved, even if he thinks of you now, he still loves you, so what?
Two people are destined not to be the same person in the world, so force yourself to stop dragging the mud and water, so you want to change his mind at the moment, the decisive factor is to help him rebuild his confidence, let him feel that everything can be solved, in order to maximize his "nostalgia" to wake up.
The second, the breakup caused by the imbalance between giving and taking, I am the same answer, and he has not forgotten you.
But his mood will be very contradictory, I give a small example, for example, when you go out of the community every day, you will feed a few stray cats, but one day the kittens took advantage of your lack of attention, actually bit you, you are particularly very angry, think they do not know how to be grateful, the previous grain was fed in vain!
But at the same time, you will feel relaxed, because you no longer have to worry, the kitten hides under the car when it is cold, the kitten will get sick when it rains, and the previous worry and superfluous will become a little ridiculous.
But the next time the sky changes, you still can't help but think about how well they are doing.
This is the true portrayal of the man after the breakup, he will think of you, but with a sense of helplessness that he is unwilling and disappointed, he feels that his past efforts are not worth it, even if you turn back because of heartache, you will continue to hurt him.
The third is a more extreme situation, where the man will have hostility and hatred towards you, because you have done something sorry for him, which is a dimensional blow to his self-esteem.
While it's possible that he'll realize his problem one day, he'll soon rationalize himself: "No matter what, you shouldn't betray me!" ”
That is, a man will definitely "worry" about you for some reason after a breakup, but because you have left too many negative impressions on the other person, resulting in his view of you being affected by subjective emotions.
After analyzing these three situations, I will summarize it again, no matter how men do not quickly forget the ex, after all, they are flesh and blood people, where is the sudden abandonment?
But don't expect too much from his "miss", because this does not mean that he still loves you as he did in the past, nor does it mean that you are still worthy of his return.
What you should do is not to guess his ideas aimlessly, but to clarify your goals and change his ideas as much as possible.
Psychological test: Test the sentence your ex most wants to say to you
1. Do you argue over small things when you're together?
Yes, I often feel tired —2
Rarely quarrel over small things—2
Occasionally, but soon reconciled —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes to self-reflect and is willing to correct mistakes?
Yes —3
Not —4
3. Will he or she take the initiative to tell you his troubles?
It is often said that -5
Not much to say —4
4. Would you tell your parents about the process of your relationship?
Everything is too big or small, and I often complain to my parents -6
Occasionally they ask and say —5
Hardly to say, nothing to say —5
5. Faced with what you want, how much energy are you willing to put into acquiring it?
Everything follows fate, and it is mine in the end--7
Try hard, maybe you can succeed - 6
Do my best, I want to get --B
6. Did you break up because of a third party?
Yes—A
No —7
7. Did the other party take the initiative to contact you after the breakup?
Yes—D
No—C