When it comes to the characters of the Three Kingdoms, everyone can blurt out Cao Cao, Zhuge Liang, Liu Bei, Guan Yu, Zhang Fei and so on. "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" makes the characters of this era of great division more familiar to the common people than any other era. But blurted out mainly male, female mention is very little, if ranked according to popularity, it is estimated that Zhuge Liang's wife Huang Shi, Sima Yi's wife Zhang Shi, and Cao Zhi's mouth of Luoshen, Wei Mingdi's birth mother Zhen Hou is the most well known.
Some people lamented that Cao Cao was really a godson, unlike Liu Bei and Sun Quan's godson. Cao Cao's children have culture, which is the common feeling of everyone, and the Cao family accounts for three in Jian'an literature, Cao Cao, Cao Pi, and Cao Zhi. When people praise Cao Cao, they never mention a low-key woman, Cao Pi, Cao Zhi's mother, Empress Wuxuanbian.
If you walk into Empress Wuxuanbian, you will definitely find that this is a strange woman. Her birth was very bad, "Romance of the Three Kingdoms. The Biography of the Queen Concubine is recorded
Empress Wuxuanbian, Lang Evil Kaiyang, Emperor Wen's mother also. This advocate
At the age of twenty, she was adopted as a concubine by Cao Cao. What does it mean to be a concubine? The definition given by Spring and Autumn is:
Women are concubines, and concubines are not concubines
That is, there is no need for a mediator to marry. Some people may have no concept of ming media marrying, and the children born to the same wife and concubine are completely different in the official eunuch family. The sons born of wives are inherited from the family business, and the children born of concubines are raised to be the eldest sons of auxiliary concubines at a very young age, and the treatment is much worse, only a little higher than that of slaves.
Advocates are not necessarily prostitutes, and may also refer to entertainers who perform cabarets, but their low status is certain. Is Empress Bian outstanding? It should not be absolutely beautiful, otherwise how could it be possible under normal circumstances to be taken as a concubine by Cao Cao under twenty years? The Romance of the Three Kingdoms does not have any description of the empress's appearance. Twenty was not the golden age for women in ancient times. Is there talent? It is not recorded in the main history, but what about the scheming? It doesn't seem to be a vicious woman, but how can such a woman finally become Cao Cao's wife and have a very stable position. What does she rely on?
First, be kind to others
Empress Bian was a kind person, and the Book of Wei records that Cao Cao often took his family out to fight, which may have been a habit in the late Eastern Han Dynasty. Liu Bei is also like this, Liu Bei's wife has been arrested by others many times. Every time she went out on a expedition to meet an elderly person, Empress Bian would give something to her. Sometimes there are tears of emotion, which shows its kindness.
Cao Cao's original wife, Empress Bian, was also kind to her and never regarded her as a potential enemy. Because some women may feel that they are in power, the original one is always a time bomb, and it will be removed with a fierce hand. In fact, Cao Cao had great feelings for Lady Ding, because on his deathbed he said something like this:
I acted back and forth, and I did not have any negative feelings in my heart. If death were to be made and there was a spirit, if the Son asked, 'Where is my mother,' I would reply
When Empress Bian knew that Cao Cao still had feelings for Lady Ding, she not only did not give a cruel hand, but was very kind.
At the fourth hour, people give gifts, and privately welcome them, and they sit down and send them, just like in the past
She was always treated as a concubine and belonged to her as a concubine. This made Madame Ding very puzzled, I am already a wasted person, why do you respect me so much. Because as Cao Cao's status rose, Empress Bian's status also rose, much higher than Lady Ding's status, and she still treated it in this way, which shows her goodwill.
Second, be calm and sincere
What is the cost of married life? candid. Now many couples can not go down in the end, a large part of the reason is because they can't be honest with each other, the name is to keep their own space, in fact, it is subconscious mutual defense. This mutual distrust eventually became a source of separation for couples. Caused by small things such as washing dishes, why I wash, why you wash, etc., and eventually become a family war. And what did Empress Bian do?
At that time, after Lady Ding fell out with Cao Cao, Empress Bian took over this position, and the first thing she did after taking over this position was:
All the sons and motherless ones, the taizu ordered the rear to raise them
From this small matter alone, we can see cao Cao's trust in Empress Bian, and Empress Bian did not resign at all and raised her seriously. And some people say that this is the task given by Cao Cao, does she dare not follow it? The Romance of the Three Kingdoms and the history books in favor of Cao Cao may obscure the bad older ones. However, the history books hostile to Cao Cao also do not record that Empress Bian abused or gave these motherless children small shoes to wear, and it should be known that she has sat in the position of the main mother, which has this power.
The Book of Wei records one thing that can better see Empress Bian's honesty.
Cao Cao got a lot of fine jade and then asked Empress Bian to choose one, and she chose one that was neither the most gorgeous nor the most ugly. Cao Cao was strange, why not pick the best or the worst? Empress Bian's words are enough for us modern people to ponder.
The one who takes the top is greedy, and the one who takes the bottom is false, so the one who takes the one in the middle is taken
And her truthful telling also shows that she does not have any hidden and trust in Cao Cao.
Third, have courage and insight
During Dong Zhuo's rebellion, the princes rebelled against Dong, and Cao Cao met Dong Zhuo's general Xu Rong, who not only lost himself but also was shot. Romance of the Three Kingdoms. The Book of Emperor Wu records that:
Yu Zhuo's general Xu Rong was unfavorable to the battle, and the soldiers suffered many casualties. Taizu was caught in the middle of the flowing arrow, and the horse he rode on was created, and he had to flee from his brother Hong and Taizu at night.
At that time, the situation was unknown, and Yuan Shu received the news that Cao Cao had been killed by Xu Rong, so he went to Cao Mansion to inform him of the situation. At this time, Cao Cao's old department left behind was in chaos, and everyone had to scatter back to their hometown. Empress Bian stood up at this time and said this:
Cao Junji is not known, today is still home, tomorrow if he is here, how can he see each other again? It is causing misfortune, and what a pain to die together!
Everyone felt that it was reasonable to stay, and sure enough, Cao Cao returned. After this incident, Cao Cao looked at this concubine differently, which was also an important reason why Empress Bian could be made the main chamber.
Fourth, the awareness of the overall situation
Everyone knows very well that the two brothers Cao Pi and Cao Zhi fought very fiercely when they were fighting for the throne, and later after Cao Pi became emperor, he did not have a good face for this younger brother. Cao Zhi's literary style is too outstanding, and the world's excessive preference for Cao Zhi makes Cao Zhi's image in later life a positive image, and Cao Pi can only be a white face.
If you open the history books, you will see a different situation, of course, this is not within the scope of our discussion today. Empress Bian liked Cao Zhi very much, which is recorded in history.
Dong'a Wang Zhi, the empress dowager's youngest son, loved it the most
At that time, after Cao Zhi committed the crime, we will not discuss whether this crime was set up by Cao Pi or a real crime. At that time, Cao Pi asked his uncle to ask Empress Bian what she meant. As a result, Empress Bian said something like this:
I don't expect this to be the case, Emperor Ru, I can't break the law of the land because of this.
epilogue:
Compared with Emperor Wen of Wei's beautiful Empress Wen Zhaozhen and the talented Empress Wendeguo, Empress Bian was inferior to these two daughters-in-law. In the end, Empress Bian was given a final upbringing. In the end, one of Cao Pi's two empresses was overlaid and the other was forced to be killed. Of course, this is not recorded in the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, but in "Wei Luo", and is accepted by the TV series "Tiger Xiaolong Yin" starring Wu Xiubo, Liu Tao, Li Chen, Zhang Junning, Tang Wang Luoyong and so on.
Empress Wuxuanbian, who lives in the center of power, is very worthy of our deep consideration, Cao Pi was made a son of the world, the mother is precious to the son, everyone came to congratulate, and as a result, Empress Bian only said lightly:
The king thinks that he is old, so he uses it as an heir, but I should be fortunate to avoid the sin of not teaching, and what is the bequeath of the bequest
This state of mind is not something that ordinary people can have. There is a sentence in Lao Tzu's Tao Te Ching:
Water is good for all things without controversy, and is evil to all, so it is more than the Tao.
Perhaps this is the real reliance of Empress Wuxuanbian to eventually go from an advocate to an empress and then to a good death, and empress Bian relied on this to firmly grasp the heart of cao Cao, the adulterous male in the chaotic world, and Cao Cao always trusted her. Empress Bian's words and deeds in her life are also worthy of our posterity's deep thinking and enlightenment, but unfortunately, this strange woman is rarely mentioned but it is also a pity.