When I first learned the story of Qianlong and Fucha, I was also very shocked, after all, Qianlong was known for his wind and affection, and it was incredible that he had loved the same woman for more than twenty years.
Fu Chashi was the wife chosen by the Yongzheng Emperor for Qianlong, so why did he choose her? One is because her family is prominent enough to match the crown prince, and the other is because she knows dali and is virtuous and virtuous. These two points are the most important conditions for parents to choose a daughter-in-law.
The standard of a good daughter-in-law in the eyes of parents is not the same as the standard of a good daughter-in-law in the eyes of men. Parents should know that Dali has the spirit of dedication and at the same time is the right daughter-in-law, and such a woman is generally difficult for men to like.
Coincidentally, Qianlong actually liked it, and this was a situation in which everyone was happy. A woman with the right door, her parents like it, and at the same time she likes it, her married life will be very smooth.
Girls often ask, is it to choose love or money? What if my boyfriend's parents don't like me?
Marriage is never a single choice, love and bread, parental attitude, boyfriend's love, these are all things that can be taken into account. If these options can be checked, it is the most suitable candidate, if not all checked, at least the more checks the better.
Don't just pick one and ignore the others. If you only choose love, you will find it uncomfortable without money, and if you only choose money, you will find it difficult to survive without love.
After Fucha married Qianlong, the two people have always been very affectionate, and at that time Qianlong had not yet ascended the throne, but there were also more than a dozen women in the palace, but he loved Fucha more.
After becoming emperor, he also did not hesitate to establish the Fucha clan as the queen. Even the son of the Fucha clan could not wait to be made crown prince. After the death of the first son, the second son was selected as the candidate for the crown prince, and at that time, the second son was not yet two years old.
Therefore, many people say that Qianlong really loves Fuchashi. If it is true, it can only be said that there has never been a mother in this world who is precious by her son, only a child who is precious by her mother.
Many women always want to have a child and tie up men, thinking that men will love themselves more. But I don't know that a man will love your children because he loves you, and if he doesn't love you, he won't put your children in his eyes.
Including the attitude of the in-laws, many women have no status in the in-laws' family, they want to have a son to turn over, but the son is born, but the mother-in-law does not help to take a day. On the contrary, women have a more status in the family, whether they have sons or daughters, no one dares to be careless.
For Qianlong's practice, I think there should be another interpretation. Qianlong is a person who pays great attention to fame, and he stubbornly only loves the original match, and only makes his concubine the prince, which can be said to be a kind of complex for him, and it can also be said that he wants to leave a deep reputation.
If he really loved his wife so much, why were there no fewer people in his harem than any other emperor, or even more than most emperors? There were so many women in the harem, how much time did he leave for the queen?
03
In history, she was known for her virtuousness and virtue, thriftiness, and she had never harmed other concubines in her life, had a harmonious relationship with her mother-in-law, and focused on her husband's career.
But we all know how much we need to sacrifice and how much grievance we have to endure in order to do all this. It's just that she never says that she puts her own needs last and her mother-in-law and husband's needs first.
I always felt that she had been kidnapped by the reputation of the empress dowager, so that there was no way to live freely, and before doing anything, I had to think about it, which was not in line with her reputation as a virtuous person.
In "Yanxi Raiders", the noble concubine took this point to kidnap her: Empress, you are virtuous and virtuous, you know the great righteousness, you must not favoritism, right?
Because of this sentence, the empress watched the noble concubine kill other concubines for a small matter, and she could not say a word. Because any sentence will make her not act deep enough.
In life, is such a scene very familiar? You are a good daughter-in-law, you are a good wife, so you can't be careful, you can't be willful, you can't just take care of yourself, you have to take care of other people's feelings all the time. As for how you feel, that doesn't matter at all.
Therefore, there are actually very few stories left by the Fucha clan, but it is just a few words of virtuous and virtuous virtue, the love of the empress, and the emperor's illness, and she moved to the emperor's palace to take care of her day and night.
The reason why she is remembered by more people is because she lost two sons in succession, and it is precisely this blow that has made her health worse and died very early.
04
In "Raiders of Yanxi", after the loss of his first son, the Fucha clan has been depressed and has no way to cheer up. Qianlong asked the empress's brother to persuade her, and the younger brother hated iron and steel, and blamed her sister for not indulging in sorrow, but should consider the family and the emperor.
For the first time, Fucha lost control and cried, "What right do you have to accuse me?" You have not tasted this pain, you will only persuade me to be strong and consider your interests, but have any of you ever considered me? For the emperor, all he lost was a son, and for me, I lost everything!
Yes, the child died prematurely, and although Qianlong was also sad, his sadness and Fucha's were not at the same level at all. He had only lost a son, and there were countless women who could give birth to him, but the Fucha clan had lost a son, not only a son, but also meant that she had lost the barrier and lost her position as the future empress.
She was not only sad, but also extremely insecure.
But what about Qianlong? He asked the queen's brother to be a lobbyist, indicating that even he felt that it was just the loss of a son, and you were so sad all day? Can't you just be nice?
There is a detail that is particularly noteworthy, Fucha does not like pearl jade, only wear grass velvet flowers, which shows that she is a person who pays great attention to her heart and does not pursue superficial flashiness. Coupled with her prominent family, glory and wealth should not be rare for her.
Such a person pays the most attention to the abundance of the heart. But obviously, Qianlong couldn't give her. He had countless women to take care of, and he couldn't feel the grief and horror of her losing her son.
All the pain, she had to suffer alone in silence. Others said that Qianlong loved her, but when she needed comfort, where was he? Probably in another woman's bedchamber.
If love is not real and cannot be accompanied for a long time, it will be discounted.
After the death of the first son, the second son was saved by the arrival of the second son. Qianlong was indeed very attentive, and in order for the empress to give birth to a child smoothly, he gave up the opportunity to go out and stay at home with his wife.
After the birth of the child, he took the name Yong Chun, which was known at a glance, and he once again made the son of the Fucha clan the candidate for the crown prince.
Unfortunately, less than two years old, the child also died prematurely.
05
After two consecutive blows, Fucha finally fell ill. When her condition had just improved, she accompanied the emperor and the empress dowager on a tour of the east. It is said that at that time, Qianlong was worried that she was not in good health and did not want her to go with her, but she insisted on going, feeling that her mother-in-law had to take care of her, and that the emperor had less empresses around her, which was also a kind of regret.
Once again, she put the needs of her husband and mother-in-law first, and her body last. Qianlong did not cancel the eastern tour because the empress was not in good health.
Fu Chashi was not in good health and could not withstand the long-distance bumps, and when she traveled to Jinan, she fell ill again. However, at this time, she thought about not delaying the trip, rushing according to the original plan, and repeatedly urging the emperor to leave.
It was on the way back that she could no longer support her, and the incense disappeared. She was only 37 years old.
After that, Qianlong successively established two empresses, but he never forgot the Fucha clan, and which empress felt that it was not as good as the Fucha clan. He also wrote a lot of mourning poems, and every word was a thought of the original match.