Recently, at the entrance of the mall, surrounded by more and more people, I ran over to see, it turned out to be a fifteen or sixteen-year-old boy, loudly and his mother was arguing, the voices of these two people, is a mountain over a mountain high, you can see that this is the normal state of communication between two people.
Loud reprimand, when the child is young, may still be able to play a little effect, but when the child enters adolescence, the height also surpasses the parents, the voice naturally also surpasses the parents, there will be such a big scene, two people do not give in to each other, the voice is loud, it does not make sense, in the end, it is each other's anger to the eyes! It's more about the surrender of parents!
Every child wants to get the respect of others, including parents, and this respect and trust will make children feel confident and is an important driving force for them to move forward.
01 What is whisper education?
Whisper education is the opposite of teaching children to shout loudly. Parents are often helpless to discipline their children poorly, whether you are chattering or shouting orders, and the child completely ignores them. If you often shout reprimands to children who have done wrong things, not only will they not receive results, but they will have an adverse impact on their personality growth and mental health. At this time, it is necessary to consider switching to the method of whispered education.
02 Scientific basis of whisper education
Psychologists have studied what tone of voice should be used to express which things, and found that when dealing with the same thing, different tones will receive different effects, and adults criticize children and use low-pitched tones to be more acceptable to children.
This is because: the low tone can make people rational and emotionally calmer, and can also relax the psychological defense line of children's resistance and rebellion, which is conducive to communication.
Whispering criticism of the child can not only concentrate the other party's hearing, but also preemptively prevent the child from using a high voice. In life, it is often seen that adults scold children loudly, the voice of children resisting is not low, and the emotions of both sides are getting more and more excited, and finally provoking adults to be angry, and children are not convinced.
Whispering can drive away anger. Parents are the longest teachers in the child's life, the words and deeds of adults have the greatest impact on the child, when things are grumpy, not calm, open their mouths and scold the parents, must have a subtle effect on the child's personality.
03 How to do low voice education?
Criticize the child to lower the tone: lowering the voice can not only restrain themselves and control their emotions, but also reduce the child's resistance. Children will also pay more attention to listening, feeling that although they are educated, they are still quite respected.
Use the right tone and wording: For many parents, it is difficult to control themselves from criticizing their children, so it will be good to think twice before speaking and use the right tone and wording. For example, "I love you, but I can't accept your behavior", this kind of words will feel very blunt at first, but after a while, the child will naturally understand what you mean.
Explain to them what you expect your child to do: take your child to the supermarket, tell him not to mess with the goods, and warn them what the consequences will be if they violate it. You have to go from start to finish without loud threats.
Don't use language that hurts your child's self-esteem: Do as you are told, don't vent your emotions about your child at will, and don't use language that hurts your child's self-esteem.
While wanting to let the child grow up healthily, as a parent, it is necessary to be able to communicate happily with the child, in order to correctly guide the child to form the quality of self-confidence, self-love and self-discipline, and become an elite child!