●Author ╳ Tang Xiaoxiao ● Source public name ╳ Tang Xiaoxiao
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Mrs. Wang was so clever, how did she raise such a stupid big lady, such a bad Aunt Kang, and such a nested son?
There are similar questions: Sheng Hong is so confused, the big lady is so stupid, how did she raise such a good son of Changbai?
In fact, I especially want to say: it is so difficult to be a parent!
No matter what goes wrong with a person, everyone likes to find the reason for the original family, and they must ask how his parents educated them!
Sometimes it is really not a problem of education, for example, the same arrogance, the same is unladylike, Aunt Kang is bad and stupid, and Gu Tingye is a perfect counterattack.
It can only be said that education is a part, and there is a part that needs to be done by man.
Okay, back to the point, now let's talk about the title. The fact that Mrs. Wang is smart should be recognized.
She didn't have much time to appear, but just the scene of plotting to save her two daughters in the Sheng family had already made the audience shout that Mrs. Wang was really human.
Aunt Kang was killed by Gu Tingye, Xiao Qin carried the body to the Wang family, and Aunt Kang's brother was easily instigated by Xiao Qin and prepared to go to Gu Tingye for trouble.
However, Mrs. Wang issued an eviction order to Xiao Qin and told her son that this woman was not a good thing, and if she were really good, she would not wait until Aunt Kang died before she would come to the letter.
In order to avenge Aunt Kang, she even went into the palace overnight to beg the empress dowager, and on the way home, she asked for two bowls of noodles and told her son that he could only work well when he was full.
It can be said that every time Mrs. Wang appears, she contributes a little wisdom.
As a result, when I look at a few children, none of them are really smart. As the son of the top pillar, he has no ideas of his own, and he is a mother and a treasure.
But compared with the two sisters, it is still a small witch.
The stupidity of the eldest lady does not need me to say more, Aunt Kang is stupid and bad, let alone my science popularization.
So the question is, Mrs. Wang is so smart, why are the children competing more than one?
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The first reason is that the Wang family does not attach importance to their daughter's reading
The eldest lady had not read many books, otherwise she would not have had a common language with Sheng Hong, and she would not even be able to talk about poetry and songs, and Aunt Kang did not seem to have read any books.
Lin Xiaoniang's family lineage is not so good, when she was a child, she still read and wrote poetry, why did the Wang family, such a high-ranking household, actually did not let her daughter read?
This is really only known to ghosts.
It can only be said that the ideological realm is not enough. After all, in that era, many people did not think that their daughters should read, and reading was still so hard, they needed to get up early and write late at night.
The daughters felt bitter, and when they cried and made trouble, their parents went with them.
This is the gap between Mrs. Wang and her grandmother, who has always felt that girls should read more books, and Mrs. Wang feels that it does not matter whether she reads or not.
Mrs. Wang should pay more attention to how her daughter can marry well. This can be seen in several details in the play.
First, although the eldest lady does not read, she will make tea, such as Lan studied with Grandma Kong, how the tea is not good, the big lady took it and easily got it, indicating that she learned these etiquettes at her mother's house. And these rituals are all for marrying people.
Second, Aunt Kang blamed her mother as soon as she had an affair: My husband, you and my father chose me in the first place, and now I am not having a good life, you can't ignore me.
Explaining this family affair, Aunt Kang was not particularly willing at the beginning, but Mrs. Wang felt good and let her daughter marry.
In fact, later the eldest lady also had the same problem, she felt that the Houfu was good, so she forced Rulan to marry, and it didn't matter whether Rulan would be happy or not, she thought that marrying well was marrying well.
It can only be said that from ancient times to the present, it is not easy to have good results when marrying someone and being a good wife and mother in the first place. The two daughters of the Wang family are well married, but none of them are happy.
But if you read more books at the beginning, you will not be so passive later.
Now there are many people who hold these ideas, and it is often said that girls read so many books to do, girls fight so hard, find someone to marry early, and have houses and cars.
And then what?
No one told the girls that they only found out that marriage was never a safe haven, but another battlefield in life.
In fact, the whole "Know It or Not" has been emphasizing that the backyard of the mansion is a battlefield. Since it is a battlefield, of course, only those who have wisdom can win.
Reading is the fastest and most effective way to gain wisdom.
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The second reason is that it is well known that Mrs. Wang is obsessed with pampering her daughter
Not pampering, but pampering.
It doesn't matter if the girl is actually spoiled, but Mrs. Wang's pet has reached the point where there is no principle, which can be seen from her saving Aunt Kang.
Aunt Kang instigated the eldest lady to poison her grandmother, making such a big mistake, And Mrs. Wang did not think about how to teach her daughter a lesson, but how to mess around and confuse this matter and let her daughter escape punishment.
And this is not the first time to do such a thing, before Aunt Kang killed one person after another, it was All Mrs. Wang helped to deal with. Not only did she help deal with it, but she also let her son and daughter-in-law deal with it together.
After Aunt Kang's death, she also blamed her son: it was because you broke your sister's heart that she did not come home to seek asylum.
Because she blindly protected her daughter, her daughter-in-law had a very big opinion, telling her that if a rotten peach was not picked, it would rot a basket.
Old Lady Wang's response was to scold her daughter-in-law fiercely, saying that she was a slutty woman who provoked the feelings of her brothers and sisters.
In her case, there was no fairness at all, and whoever made the mistake she protected.
In fact, every action of the parents is releasing signals, and when the children see the mother like this, they will think in their hearts that it is okay to make mistakes, and the mother will deal with the accident.
This is a very typical parent psychology, such as my mother-in-law, she is very good, clearer than the average person, but in the treatment of children, it will also be confused.
She had helped me with two children before, and also with my sister-in-law's children, all three of whom especially liked to cry.
But whenever two children quarrel or fight, she does not ask who is right and who is wrong, but who cries is right. If you don't cry, if you try to be reasonable, she will ask: If he hits you, then why didn't you cry? He cried so fiercely, you must have hit him, and beat him hard.
this......
So later, as long as the two children fight, the one who wins the fight also races to cry first, because they know that whoever cries is justified, and who does not cry is punished.
In the long run, of course, children have learned to cry whenever something happens.
Mrs. Wang's approach is actually similar. Why did Aunt Kang dare to do so many bad things? Because there is a mother at the bottom. For the first time, I may still be worried that the more I go to the back, the bolder I get, and the killing will be done, and I won't blink my eyes.
The mother is so confused and never reasonable, can the children learn to be reasonable? Therefore, the eldest lady has been confused all her life and does not know how to write the two words of reasoning.
As for the son, it is estimated that he was taught to let his sister go from childhood, and the younger sister made a mistake and estimated that he also punished the son, so that the son also doubted life, and he did not know what was fair and reasonable.
None of their families felt there was anything wrong with that.
Only the daughter-in-law, suddenly entering this relationship, felt that it was not right and wanted to resist, but unfortunately, Mrs. Wang was in charge, and she could not resist.
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I think that such a result must be something that Mrs. Wang does not want to see, as a mother, who does not want her children to be smart and motivated and capable.
It can only be said that Mrs. Wang herself can't figure it out, and she doesn't know what is important and what's not.
This can also be seen in the few clever things she did. Things are really beautiful, Minglan almost lost, but it is also really unclear.
It is precisely because the old lady can't figure it out that she will protect Aunt Kang who made mistakes again and again, and finally pull the entire Wang family into the abyss.
Most obviously, she should not have sided with the empress dowager in order to avenge her daughter. The empress dowager and the emperor were fighting, this matter was very dangerous, originally their family did not need to take sides, as a result, this line, they stood on the cusp of the storm, the emperor won, they will be unlucky.
If Mrs. Wang could carry it clearly, how could she pull the Wang family to take this risk? Besides, Aunt Kang was not right, and she was not wronged.
Finally, educating children is indeed the hardest thing in the world, there is no one.
As parents, let's remember two things.
The first is to let children read more, and reading can be wise.
Second, the child who has made a mistake that is visible to the naked eye should be punished, even if he is not punished, at least do not be an accomplice, let him deal with it himself.
Why is there a visible fault here? Because some mistakes are just what you think is wrong, such as the child is not married, you think he is wrong, but in reality, it is not wrong. The visible fault with the naked eye is that they have killed people and set fires, they have stolen things and planted bribes from others, and they have gambled and deceived people. In short, no matter how confused, you can see at a glance that you are wrong.
If the second rule is still not clear, then remember that let the child be responsible for his own life, let him take care of all the things he does, you can help a little, but don't take it for a big deal.
Being a parent is really too difficult, and sometimes a piece of kindness can cause psychological shadows for children. So, while educating children, remember another one:
Don't blame all your tragedies on your parents, find solutions from yourself.
-Forwarding is encouragement-
Author of this issue: Chu Xin, I write my heart, hoping to warm others with words and heal myself. Tang Xiaoxiao commented on the improvement class students. Tang Xiaoxiao, who has been writing full-time for ten years, published 1400 articles a year in print media, Tang Xiaoxiao is the founder of 21 days of easy and efficient writing, and has so far helped many people become platform contract authors and publish books, and has authored the best-selling book "Efficient Writing". Personal public number: Tang Xiaoxiao (tangxiaoxiao66).
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