I am a stay-at-home mom, a stay-at-home mom who is constantly fulfilling her self-worth. Reject anxiety, refuse "inner volume", easy parenting, rational treatment of married life, tolerant response to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I hope that some of my views can make you suddenly enlightened, can bring you positive energy, and solve your practical problems.
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In this year, is there really a confinement in accordance with the old routine?
Don't ask and don't know, if you ask, you will find that there are not only many more.
On the Internet, I have seen a lot of traditional confinement methods, a month without washing hair, a month without washing face, a month without brushing teeth, really lying down for a month, and then doing nothing, except eating is sleeping.
This kind of thing probably only happens online, right?
I didn't expect to have such a friend around me.
Out of the confinement, I feel "dirty"
A good friend I hadn't seen in a long time was a former colleague of mine.
In the past, the relationship was very good, but after resigning, there was very little contact, and they were busy with their own lives, during this period, I had a baby, and she also had a baby.
Now the babies are a little older, and everyone is dating again.
Let's call my friend Lily for the time being, Lily shared with me her experience of confinement, and I was almost shocked to drop my jaw.
During the whole confinement period, in addition to sleeping, she ate, and the only thing she did every day was to look at the white clouds outside the window and count how many white clouds had drifted by.
It was her mother who waited for confinement, and she had to get her mother's permission to do everything, and as a result, she couldn't do anything, sit up during meals, and lie down at other times.
"I counted the clouds of my life, it was so difficult to survive that month, I was really bored to cut my nails, I had to be told by my mother, you can't cut your nails in the month, otherwise your fingers will crack." 」
"Then do you wash your face and take a bath?"
"The whole confinement does not bathe, do not wash your face, do not brush your teeth, the purpose is not to get wet!"
You can imagine my expression at that time, the whole time I opened my mouth, I couldn't close my eyes at all.
"The face is splintered, the hair is like a chicken nest, and it stinks so bad!"
I asked her if her scalp was itchy, and she said that the scalp itch was crazy for the first week, but she couldn't scratch it, so she put up with it, and then I got used to it.
"After the confinement, I washed my head 7 times, the first four times I washed it with soap, my mother also put dish soap on me, it was all knotted, the heart was shaved into a bald head, and I washed it 7 times to see the original look."
Out of the confinement teeth loose, dental problems are very serious, also went to the dentist, and then felt uncomfortable, and went to the orthopedic department.
If you start again, you don't have to listen to your mother
I asked her if she would stay like this for a month if she had to do it again.
She said she didn't know, it was really painful, but she had no experience, maybe she would still listen to her mother.
She had more than just the above problems in the month, she ate 28 chickens in the month, basically one chicken a day.
So now, although it has been 3 years since the baby was born, the weight is still maintained at more than 150 pounds, it is difficult to lose, because it missed the best time to lose weight, and now it is really difficult to lose.
Lily said that because she has no experience, she can only listen to her mother's words, she is really too closed, and now pay attention to scientific confinement, scientific parenting, is the last thing to listen to her mother.
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Those rumors about confinement should not be blindly believed, and mothers should take the initiative to get rid of the shackles of ancient concepts and be a clean, hygienic and relaxed mother, so that the body can get better quickly.
I'll talk about myself, tell me how I'm a menstrual confinement.
The two old ladies in my family were more exaggerated than Lily's mother, both of whom were big fans of the concept of decay, and from the very beginning my mother-in-law had prepared 30 old hens for me, and she planned to let me eat one a day.
My mother has been monitoring me, hoping that I can do a good job of confinement and not leave confinement disease.
I did not listen to the words of the two of them, but according to the guidance of science, I insisted on making my own decisions.
1. You can take a bath within 24 hours after giving birth
I was in a normal birth, and my first feeling after giving birth was "ease".
The tips given by the doctor are: get out of bed and walk around, do not always lie on the bed, so that it is conducive to lochia discharge, you can take a bath, and be careful not to get cold.
So after leaving the delivery room, I walked around the ward, and I was in a very good mood, very relaxed.
I showered in the shower that night and felt more relaxed after washing.
2. Wash your hair 3 days after childbirth
48 hours after giving birth, because of the tightness of the bunk, the doctor said that there was nothing wrong with my body and let me out of the hospital.
The first thing you do when you get home is to take a shower and wash your hair.
However, during this period, because it is winter again, it is especially important not to get cold.
The bathroom is warmly ventilated throughout, and after washing the hair, it is dried in time with the hot air of the hair dryer. Otherwise, you will really get cold and your head will hurt.
Physically feelings are more relaxed, and my mother and mother-in-law expressed great surprise because I did not behave at all like I had just given birth.
In fact, just after giving birth, it is really not so weak, just what they think.
3. Insist on cleaning and maintain hygiene every day
After that, they will continue to wash every day to maintain personal hygiene.
Because I often get out of bed and walk around, lochia is discharged relatively quickly, and my body basically recovers from before 42 days after giving birth, slightly weak, but I feel very good about myself.
Two months after giving birth, I have fully recovered.
4. Diet is light and balanced
During the confinement period, I only ate about one of my mother-in-law's 30 chickens, and refused to eat chicken every day, hoping that they would make me a lighter diet.
So the mother and mother-in-law temporarily changed the strategy, every day to drink millet porridge, will eat some sesame seeds, a day an egg, like to eat light, will also eat some meat, but eat less.
When I first gave birth to the baby, I weighed 137 pounds, and I weighed 124 pounds in the month after giving birth, and I ate normally and did not lose weight.
One year after childbirth weight returns to the previous one.
The reason why the weight is constantly lost is because of breast milk, as long as the normal meal in the month, will not overeat, the weight will gradually return to the previous, there is no pressure at all, if you increase the exercise slightly, then the recovery will be faster.
5. Get out of bed and walk around often
It is important to get out of bed and walk around more after giving birth, and never lie down for a month.
Lying down is not conducive to the recovery of the body, getting out of bed and walking around the lochia is eliminated quickly, and the body recovers quickly.
Adhere to the scientific confinement, the body recovers quickly, and the confinement will become a month of enjoyment, not a month of suffering.
Now that we are in this era, we really should have a subjective opinion, and we can completely abandon the old concept of mothers.