Introduction: This article is one of the author's original reference examples for the 2021 national provincial, municipal and autonomous region secondary school entrance examinations.
The title of this article is derived from the 2021 Chongqing Secondary School Entrance Examination essay title, this article is an epistle, mainly using the form of argumentative expression, profoundly expounding the rich connotation of motherhood, guiding the audience to attach importance to family education, grasping the laws of family education, and building a harmonious family education atmosphere.
Dear Xiaoyu Mother,
Hello! I am a staff member of the Bridge of Hearts mailbox and thank you so much for your trust, understanding, support and love. We carefully read your letter and felt that the words contained the heart of Jackie Chan's fist, reflecting the anxiety and uneasiness when there was a conflict with the child; penetrating the urgent desire to solve the problem, condensing the deep affection for the next generation!
"Poor parents in the world"; "the heart has a sharp heart", I also have children of the same age as your children, I feel empathy, resonate, hope to communicate sincerely with you, communicate frankly; open your heart, speak freely, and jointly explore an effective way to establish a harmonious parent-child relationship and build a good family education environment.
"Every family has a difficult scripture to read, the most difficult thing to read is education; every family has a difficult song to sing, the most difficult to sing is the godson", the problems you reflect are universal and representative, and the problems reflected in many letters we receive are the same as the problems you reflected; they coincide, the same thing! To sum up, there are mainly the following types:
After a child enters adolescence, the rebellious psychology and rebellious behavior are prominent, ignoring the parents' suggestions and advice, deliberately resisting, and even more tit-for-tat with the parents, the "cold war" occurs frequently, making the parents miserable and overwhelmed!
Second, the phenomenon of children's boredom with school is more serious, thinking that reading is useless and knowledge is devalued; they do not seek progress, they give up on themselves, and they lack the initiative, enthusiasm and sense of urgency in learning, so that parents are impatient and helpless!
Three children are kidnapped, controlled, bound by bad information on the Internet, addicted to the Internet, unable to extricate themselves, serious cases suffer from mental illness, affecting physical and mental health, so that parents can not prevent it, take care of one or the other!
Iv. Children face adverse reactions to drastic changes in physiological and psychological conditions after entering puberty, some are difficult to talk about, some are whimsical; some are suppressed emotions, and some are indulgent and vented! Let parents worry a lot, do not know what to do!
We invite experts, school teachers and people of insight from all walks of life to conduct special research on the above phenomena, and everyone agrees that the main reasons for the above phenomena are:
Some parents have too high expectations for their children, just like Tian Yulan in the TV series "Little Shede", blindly hoping that their children will become school bullies!
Second, some parents do not grasp the scale of family education well, some are too impatient and rude; some are too doting and conniving, which is not the correct educational concept and method!
Some parents cannot correctly position their children and do not fully grasp their children's genetic characteristics, qualification endowments, personality characteristics, hobbies, and ideal aspirations.
Fourth, some parents lack self-discipline, cannot lead by example, lack personality charm, have no authority, and do half the work!
We find the root cause of the disease and prescribe it for your reference:
"There is a most beautiful voice in the world is the call of the mother, all the broad love in the world comes from the mother", mother's love is the nature of the mother, you must use the mother's broad mind, sincerity, tolerance, wisdom to impress Xiaoyu, melt the ice of the soul, eliminate psychological obstacles, and cross the intergenerational gap!
Second, "mature mothers are masters of communication", you must fully trust, motivate, and praise Xiaoyu, let her establish self-esteem, self-confidence, bravely face challenges, and be a strong person in life!
Three "Meng Mother three moves, good intentions"; "mother-in-law embroidery, words and deeds", you must treat Xiaoyu as a close friend, can not be on the top, let her be satisfied with you, establish a close and harmonious parent-child relationship!
Fourth, you want to change the old concept of "everything is inferior, only the reading is high", keep pace with the times, cast the soul according to the talent standard of the new era, enlighten the mind, let her come out of the tense atmosphere of "thousands of troops and horses crossing the single wooden bridge", calm the mentality, tap the potential; carry forward the personality, improve the personality, and develop in an all-round way!
"Ten years of trees, a hundred years of tree people"; "there is no class to teach, according to the material"; "peach and plum do not speak, the next self-made"; "ask where the canal is clear as promised, for the source of living water", your desire is beyond reproach; your troubles have a cause, your way out is under your feet, you want to quickly adjust the state, become the guide of the child's growth, navigator, weather vane and energy source! "Bridge of Hearts" mailbox is willing to become your confidant friend and dedicate a small contribution to the future of the motherland!
Good luck with all the best!
June 12, 2021