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Nietzsche once said that the more advanced philosopher is alone, not because he wants to be alone, but because he cannot find his kind around.
Such feelings do not only happen to philosophers, but also often occur in the lives of each of us.
When loneliness strikes, we all long to be understood by others, and we are eager to find a soul similar to ourselves in the vast sea of people to comfort each other.
The arrival of love is always exciting, and it is a rare thing to find a partner who is similar to yourself.
What can support love to go far must be the resonance of the souls of two people, which is what people often call "soul mate".
From a psychological point of view, the opposite sex gets along, with the following three feelings, in order to be considered a real soul mate.
1. Deep understanding caused by understanding
Many people regard familiarity as understanding, understanding as understanding, and understanding as understanding, and these are all wrong cognitions.
The opposite sex gets along, spends a long time together, familiarity is a natural thing, for example, familiar with each other's living habits, hobbies, voice tone when speaking, etc., these are all superficial things.
Understanding is the further deepening under the surface, knowing the inner activities and thoughts of the other person through their external actions.
Understanding is the part based on familiarity and understanding, and it is a higher-order understanding of each other's behavior and cognition.
Understanding is the part that can empathize with each other, because they are in touch with each other's hearts, so from the mode of thinking to the mode of behavior, they can understand each other from the heart.
When you meet a true soul mate, you feel that no one has ever known me, understood me, understood me like you did, and you understood me more than anyone else.
This feeling gives people a sense of "mirror reflection" and is a very wonderful emotional experience.
2. The same frequency resonance caused by tacit understanding
The so-called soul mate is that when two people are together, they often have a high sense of tacit understanding, a kind of same perception of things, and an emotional resonance.
This tacit understanding will also occur in the interaction and cooperation between the two people, and the spirit and behavior will be integrated into one, so that the two will not only become spiritual partners, but also may create a value higher than the ability of the two people.
In the recent hit drama "Beginning", xiao Heyun, a game programmer, met Li Shiqing, a junior girl, on the bus, although the two never knew each other, but in several cycles, they gradually became familiar with each other, and in many times of mutual cooperation, they had a tacit understanding.
Xiao Heyun is timid and good at escaping when he encounters problems, and when he learns that the bus he is riding on is in danger of exploding, his first thought is to get off early.
In the face of danger, Li Shiqing was terrified, and thought more about how to save more people while saving herself.
At first, the opinions of the two were not in tune, but in the run-in time, the two ideas gradually merged, and when they worked together in the car to find bombs, they also became very tacit.
There is no need to say much between them, as long as the other party has a look, they can understand, which is the result of a high degree of spiritual fit.
It is also the same frequency resonance produced by this tacit understanding that causes the two to create the value of 1+1>2, which is also the most meaningful part of the soul mate.
3. The sense of security generated by complementarity
The meaning of soul mates is also that they can push each other to become better selves.
In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", He Han and Luo Zijun do not look like a type of person on the surface, but they complement each other so perfectly.
He Han speaks harshly and works warmly, he is very demanding, even harsh, for Luo Zijun, who has just entered the workplace, but he will appear in time when the other party encounters obstacles to help her solve the problem.
Although Luo Zijun trusts He Han, she will do her best to do her best if she wants to be strong.
He Han once said: Only by being with Luo Zijun do I feel real and relaxed.
Luo Zijun only became brave when she was with He Han, and she knew that she could do so many things.
Together, the two of them have a sense of sublimation from the inside out.
He Han is cold on the outside and hot on the inside, Luo Zijun is soft on the outside and strong on the inside, the two have complementary personalities, and they can cooperate with each other and complement each other.
True soul mates can urge each other to grow together, because of your presence, I lost my timidity and boldly tried what I was not good at.
It is precisely because of your existence that I have no scruples, because you are my most trusted comrade-in-arms whenever and wherever you are.
Of course, for me, I will treat you like this seriously.
This is the sense of security between soul mates due to complementarity, so that each other boldly try like never before, surpassing the limits of their own abilities again and again, and creating values that even surprise themselves.
From this point of view, the true soul mate is like finding another self, not only similar, but also highly compatible in spirit, understanding each other, understanding each other.
The two have similar views, are attached to each other, and are warm to each other.
It is a lifetime of luck to meet a true soul mate, and with it, you will no longer be lonely on the road of life.