In life, I often hear such a sentence
"Starting from the appearance, loyal to the character"
。 People get along with people, at first glance, it may be because of the eye rim, feeling, feeling that the other party has a high appearance, making people feel very comfortable. But if you want to have a long-term relationship with each other, the most important thing is to rely on character. What is character? To put it simply, it is a comprehensive quality in a person's grasp of the self, although it is invisible and untouchable, but it can test how a person is. If people want to stand on the ground in the world, their character is excellent, there is no good character, and everything else is a castle in the air, and one day it will collapse. Character includes many aspects, the most important one is the word houde.
As the saying goes, if you are clumsy, the way to treat people is not as good as being generous.
Kindness is not stupidity, but a great wisdom in dealing with the world. Those who are generous in three things will be blessed infinitely
The first thing is to be kind to people
"A gentleman carries things with great virtue", this sentence means that a person has good virtues in order to have the foundation of a stable life.
If a person has good virtue, he can convince others, and if there is no good virtue, even if you have the ability, not many people can really see you from the bottom of their hearts. People live in the world, and they must be generous to be human. People who are generous to people basically do not take advantage of others, they know how to be greedy and cheap and eat big losses. Even when cooperating with others, I would rather suffer losses myself than let the interests of others suffer.
Such people look a little silly at first glance, but don't laugh at them, they are the real wisdom and foolishness. On the surface, we have suffered some losses, gained good popularity, and a good impression, so that it is easier to achieve success. In ordinary life, when others encounter difficulties, they can help a hand, and helping others is also a blessing for themselves. What difficulties will you encounter in the future? Don't look at the fact that you are helping others now is to trouble yourself, in fact, you are also paving the way for your own future.
The second thing is to speak cheekily
Everyone is not perfect, each has its own flaws. When encountering these defects, we must treat them with a normal heart and never speak unkindly. As the old saying goes, "Hit people without punching people in the face, scolding people without revealing shortcomings", everyone has their own self-esteem, if you speak, do not care about the face of others, it will only cause unnecessary trouble to yourself.
There is an old saying: "A person who encounters a disease and evil that is too strict should not easily be short in the place of the Daoist before him, which is to pour oil into the fire, and its harm is the same as that of helping evil." ”
If you meet someone who is too anxious, you will only incur the envy of the other party if you expose their shortcomings in public.
There are many disasters in history that have been exposed in public. Like Zhu Yuanzhang, the founding emperor of the Ming Dynasty that we are familiar with, before becoming emperor, his family was poor and he also made many poor friends. When he became emperor, the poor friends of the past came to visit him, and one of the poor friends could not speak, and zhu Yuanzhang's previous troubles were exposed in front of the civil and military officials, and the emperor was ridiculed in public, and his face could not be hung up, and finally the fate of this person could also be imagined, and he was beaten to death by a stick
。 Leaving a line of life, seeing each other in the future, speaking kindly, is also a blessing for yourself
The last thing is to be generous
From a young age, the old man warned us
"Be honest and do things in a down-to-earth manner."
Man must not only walk straight, but sit upright. We must also be kind and treat people with sincerity. But in life, there are too many people, you treat him with sincerity, and in the end, what you get is his wolf heart and dog lungs, stabbing you in the back, this kind of person is a typical ungrateful villain, no matter how good you are to him, you can't cover his heart. As long as you have a bad time with him, he will remember it in his heart and wipe out all the good you used to be. Not only that, but they also make all kinds of tricks on you behind your back, so that you can't get off the stage.
Liu Bang, the founding emperor of the Han Dynasty, was born as a grassroots emperor and ascended the throne with the help of everyone. Liu Bang, who became emperor, began to think about how to sit firmly in his own country, and began to eradicate the kings with different surnames, and the eight kings with different surnames, Han Xin the King of Qi, Han Wangxin, Zang Di the King of Yan, Lu Xie the King of Yan, Peng Yue the King of Liang, Zhang Er the King of Zhao, Yingbu the King of Zhuannan, and Wu Rui the King of Changsha, most of them did not have a good ending. In life, if you encounter a villain who stabs a knife in the back, don't sympathize with him, sympathizing with him is harming yourself, and in the end you will be bitten back
Conclusion: As an independent individual, people always have to integrate into the melting pot of society and deal with all kinds of people. Whether it is to be a person or to do things, kindness is the cornerstone of a person's life. On the long road of life, the heart must be true, the character must be correct, and the virtue is loaded, and only then will it run to the life you want.
Today's topic: What do you think of the word houdao? What do you think is a generous way to be a talent?