Mencius hated Zhang Yi very much, for example, he used the phrase "shun as the right, the way of concubines" to describe Zhang Yi. For thousands of years, "concubine" has been synonymous with the Zongheng family. Is Master Meng talking nonsense? Of course not, as an iron fan of Confucius, while disgusting Zhang Yi, he is paying tribute to Confucius's "only women and villains are difficult to raise".
The "concubine" mentioned by Master Meng is what Confucius called "woman", that is, a person who resembles a woman. In Confucianism, the antonym for a great husband is actually a concubine.
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In the Warring States period, if a person resembled a woman, it was a curse. In today's world, saying that a man is like a woman is most likely a compliment.
Why did the ancients hate concubines? Because "obedience is righteousness", obedience is regarded as a principle of dealing with the world. What a man says is what a concubine, a concubine only knows how to go against the grain. I think that the number of concubines in ancient times has not increased, and the number of concubines in the present has not decreased. Mencius believed that the Zongheng family was spineless, so he put forward the standard of a big husband who said, "Rich and noble cannot be adulterous, poor and lowly cannot be moved, and mighty cannot be bent".
Although Ah Xin's main business is to study the ghost valley, but I think Mencius said very well, this is the gold standard of "big husband", look around, have you found that the rich think about fooling around all day, the moneyless think about making money all day, they see no one but rich rich and powerful leaders.
Such a person is called a concubine.
Two
Actually laughing at the "concubine", could it be that Ah Xin was "deceiving the teacher and destroying the ancestors"? Surely there will be smart people who say that the Zongheng family does not have a good thing, there is no good end in the study of ghost valley, and the Zongheng family has no position.
For example, in the "Inner Chapter", Oniguzi said that "the planner should follow the order", and this "follow the law" seems to be the "obedience as the right", which means that the planning of things should conform to the psychology of others.
For another example, in defining the scheme, Oniguzi uses six "causes" in a row (because it doubts and changes, because it sees and sees, because it says what it wants, because it is powerful, because it is evil and powerful, and because it is repulsive). "Cause" here does not mean "because", but "follow".
In this way, the name "concubine" seems to be solid.
Non also!
Three
People who only know "good things to say" actually do not understand oniguzi and are always a layman. As for those who say that the Zongheng family has no position, they are just self-righteous.
According to the rules of naïve dialectics, we know that many things are opposite, such as "retreating is to advance", "giving up is to gain", "sounding east, is to hit the west". Naturally, the purpose of "shun" of oniguchi is to "reverse".
Where does that come from? Oniguzi has two habitual means of "flattery" and "intimidation", such as his saying in the "Speculations" that "in the past extreme desire is also happy" to make people happy, and "to be extremely evil" makes people afraid. Therefore, Ashin would have the confidence to conclude that those who would only conform to and please each other thought that they understood Oniguzi. In fact, those horse ass essences who like to blindly please are not Zonghengjia, but more like feminine Confucians.
Everything has both yin and yang sides.
Four
If we want to convince you only by relying on "extreme desire" and "extreme evil", it will be very difficult. Yes, I don't install it, the showdown is over, the front is just a laying groundwork. In fact, what I want to say is a rule in the "Shu Shu Chapter":
Words start with good deeds. Words of evil end in conspiracy.
If a Zongheng family can only sneak around and pat their horses, and become inflamed and attached to the situation, what is the difference between that and Confucianism? In other words, conformity is a prerequisite for persuasion, but not all. Since it is persuasion, it is to put one's own thoughts into the minds of others, not to make absolute compromises without a position.
There is such a case in the "Warring States Policy": The King of Yan wants to kill Zhang Ugly. Zhang Ugly escaped, only to be caught by the border officials and prepared to sacrifice Zhang Ugly to the King of Yan. If it is a mechanical understanding conforms, then Zhang Ugly should say, "Grandpa Guan, you did a beautiful job, hurry up and give me to the Yan King."
But how does Zhang Ugly do it? He said, "The reason why the Yan King killed me was because I heard that I had the orb, and the Yan King wanted to get it, but now I have lost the orb, but the Yan King doesn't believe me." Today you are ready to send me to the Yan King, and I will say that you snatched my jewel and swallowed it in your stomach, and the Yan King will definitely kill you and open your stomach for examination. If you want to be appreciated by the king, you should not please him with money. If I get killed, you don't have to think about it. ”
People's thinking is affected by the stakes, and originally giving Zhang Ugly to the Yan King was more beneficial than harmful. However, after Zhang Ugly's general explanation, it is obvious that the disadvantages outweigh the benefits. Therefore, Zhang Qiu said that he had moved the official and was released.
Zhang Ugly understands that what can drive human nature is always at stake. It is necessary to persuade people from the stakes, that is, "words of good begin with things, and words of evil end with plots." To persuade the other party from the advantage, to induce him to act. Prevent the other party from changing his mind from the harmful side, and force him to stop acting. The real Zongheng family understands,
Most people do not understand the essence of conformity, in fact, it is people's psychology of "seeking benefits and avoiding harms, seeking blessings and avoiding disasters", rather than blindly flattering and flattering. It's really:
Take shun as the way of a concubine, and take the right as the anti-vertical way.