Author | Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Source | Ten o'clock book club
ID | sdclass
"Divorced, with children, in love."
This is the latest situation that Ni Hongjie took the initiative to expose in her latest interview.
The name "Ni Hongjie" does not seem to be her loudest code name.
But when it comes to "wishing you peerless", you must know.
Video screenshot source: "Wulin Wai Biography"
Also, more famous than "Ni Hongjie" herself is the underwear advertisement she has filmed.
Video screenshot source: Network
But at the end of last year, she appeared in front of everyone under a brand new name:
Gloria.
In the movie "Love Myth", she played a free and free middle-aged woman with a variety of styles.
Video screenshot source: "Love Myth"
Rich and idle, the husband is missing.
Because of this movie, Ni Hongjie "disappeared" 17 years later, and regained the attention of the audience.
17 years, for an actress, you can thrive, you can also check this person.
Obviously, Ni Hongjie belongs to the latter.
But after carefully understanding her past, I found that there was another unknown side to Ni Hongjie.
The real her is far more unexpected than the label of "secret marriage and children".
The shadow of the original family
In most of the time that Ni Hongjie became an actress, she always gave people the feeling of "wishing peerless".
Not only because of the fire in the drama "The Legend of Wulin", but also because the roles of "Ni Hongjie" and "Zhu Wushuang" have a natural fit.
No dispute, gentle and delicate, empathetic.
But these qualities look deeper, but there is a sad background -
Mixed with sensitive inferiority, there is also careful flattery.
Such a Ni Hongjie is inseparable from her growth experience.
She was born in Jiangsu, because her parents were Zhiqing, so she grew up living in her aunt's house in Shanghai.
The aunt was nice to her, but it wasn't enough for her to ignore the fact that "this is not my home".
Image source: Network
Therefore, Ni Hongjie learned to look at the faces of adults at a very young age.
Before the meal, she would take the initiative to run to the kitchen to find work, follow the adults to peel the beans one by one, and cut the snails one by one.
The dishes brought to the table, even if they are delicious, she will not clip more.
She thought that she had eaten more, and her aunt would not have food to bring to work.
After each meal, she also takes the initiative to wash the dishes.
But the most painful thing was the winter in Shanghai, and the kind of coldness she knew all too well.
Because the conditions were not so good when I was a child, boiling hot water with gas was a luxury.
More often, she soaked her small hands in bone-chilling ice water to wash vegetables and wash dishes, and her hands were often frozen to the point of not being able to bend, and even frostbite grew.
During the time she lived at her aunt's house, she hardly slept.
When she heard her aunt get up in the morning, she would obediently get up.
In her, there is hardly any self and carelessness peculiar to children her peers.
She is always sensitive to the needs of those around her and then does her best to do her best.
Not to get praise and attention, but to feel that your existence is already causing trouble for these adults.
The only thing she could do was to be a little more obedient and sensible.
Even when she grew up in such an environment, Ni Hongjie would still repeatedly take the responsibility to herself.
"They never asked me to do anything, but I myself would feel that I still had to be sensible under the fence."
These sensitive moments that had been entangled in her young heart, she had never mentioned to her relatives.
At the age of 13, Ni Hongjie returned to her biological parents and lived with them briefly for several years.
But Ni Hongjie felt more alienated.
Finally returning to her "own home", she still can't find a sense of belonging.
The love and security that she lacked as a child eventually became what she craved most when she grew up.
Marriage that becomes a "life-saving straw"
In 1999, 21-year-old Ni Hongjie was still living in her aunt's house.
And the process of her leaving her aunt's house is also very dramatic.
That night, the uncle who lived with his aunt was drunk and went crazy as usual.
Only this time, the spearhead was aimed at Ni Hongjie.
Uncle Da, who was clamoring to seize Ni Hongjie's room, smashed the plate like crazy and scratched her stomach.
Ni Hongjie hid behind the wooden door in fear, not expecting that what flew towards her again was a kitchen knife.
Fortunately, the door panel blocked the knife for her.
Ni Hongjie, who recalled this past, was still explaining to Uncle Da:
"My uncle has no ill will, he's really a good old man when he's not drinking, and he didn't mean to rob me of a room."
Fortunately, ni Hongjie was later saved.
Her boyfriend rushed over late at night to take her away and take her home, temporarily settling in a small space under the stairs.
Even if that place was forced, it also made Ni Hongjie feel warm and safe.
At that time, this man was like her life-saving straw.
At the age of 21, Ni Hongjie married the man who was 7 years older than her.
She finally moved out of her aunt's house, ended her life under the fence, and had her own home and freedom.
The freedom to sleep, the freedom not to pick vegetables and not to wash the dishes...
This joy is enough to dilute the confusion of entering a marriage before she has thought about it.
Like most newlyweds, they were sweet at first.
Her husband would cook for her, take care of her life, take her to hike and camp, and experience all sorts of new things.
The older husband is very good at helping Ni Hongjie take care of everything and make decisions for her.
This reassured Ni Hongjie, who had lacked her father's love since childhood, when the sense of security she could rely on was more important than any emotion.
But soon, the opposite of this peace of mind was exposed—
The machismo of good face determines that the husband prefers the man to become the pillar of the family's economy, and the woman is better off returning to the family.
Image source: Weibo @ Ni Hongjie
When her husband started her business, Ni Hongjie was fully supportive.
"His business is not my business."
With this in mind, Ni Hongjie emptied her savings from years of filming, and also sold a house that her mother bought for herself in Shanghai in the early years, and all the money was handed over to her husband.
But what awaited her next was endless borrowing and bottomless arrears.
She also couldn't remember how many words she had signed to borrow money for her husband.
Under the repeated impact of reality, the marriage inevitably began to decline.
It was also at this time that the arrival of a new life temporarily held up this crumbling family.
Ni Hongjie was pregnant.
But at that time, the family really didn't have much money.
She looked for dozens of dollars in clothes to wear, but her husband lost tens of thousands of yuan at the gambling table overnight.
After all, the child still failed to stop the increasingly acute contradictions and problems between the two.
After ten years of marriage, all that remained was an argument between them.
Divorce is initiated by the husband.
When liquidating the property, Ni Hongjie realized that her husband had actually owed tens of millions of dollars, and she had to share this debt with him.
But even so, Ni Hongjie was relieved.
"At least you can start a new life."
This actress, who had reached middle age in a flash, began to frantically shoot dramas to pay off debts.
In her peers, her situation is really not good.
Left behind in childhood, wrongly married in youth, and in middle age in debt.
She is like the ordinary person in life, without the aura and skills of the protagonist.
Get a deck of cards that are not up and down, and you can only let the card game push you to go.
Fortunately, although she did not have the ability to fight back, she was never crushed.
That's the other side I see in her – resilience.
Late-maturing Ni Hongjie
Ni Hongjie often reminds me of a sentence written by Mo Yan in "Late Ripe" :
"People with good nature are relatively late-mature, and they are ripened by inferior people, and although they are enlightened later, they are still kind and sincere."
Ni Hongjie was the one who matured late.
For the first half of her life, she lived a little chaotic and bold.
Emotionally, it's also true in career.
Ni Hongjie is not an actress from a science class, she graduated from Tongji University majoring in information management, but her entry into the entertainment industry was unusually smooth.
Because of her outstanding appearance, she was selected to shoot advertisements, but Ni Hongjie did not understand anything at that time, and signed a contract to go to the shooting site.
When she went in and found that everyone was wearing underwear, she stopped drying, and the makeup artist comforted her next to her, telling her that she could try on the outfit first, and then find a stand-in to shoot.
Ni Hongjie thought that she could not afford to pay the liquidated damages, so she reluctantly took a picture.
Unexpectedly, this underwear advertisement has become a knot between her and her family for many years.
Image source: "Listen to My Sister"
But the advertisement is on fire, and people have been looking for her to shoot dramas.
Someone looked for it, and she picked it up.
"It's just to make some money."
This was the original idea of young Ni Hongjie.
In the small fights in the actor industry, the most ended in Zhu Wushuang in "The Legend of Wulin".
After starring in this TV series, Ni Hongjie also became angry.
On the street, in the restaurant, someone began to recognize her:
"Eh? Are you unbeatable? ”
Usually she will immediately deny that Ni Hongjie does not like to be paid too much attention outside of the performance.
After becoming a star, being surrounded by people and being photographed on the street will make her instantly feel the embarrassment of the bottom of her toes.
Including those in the crew, the peers who often have two faces before and after them make Ni Hongjie feel that she is not suitable for this profession.
Many people say that after the hit "Wulin Wai biao", all the leading actors were on fire, and only Ni Hongjie was still on the edge of the entertainment circle.
But few people know that she took the initiative to stay away.
After "Wishing Peerless", Ni Hongjie ran to Yunnan to open an inn.
As a result, the inn did not make any money, and because the ex-husband owed an ass debt.
She had to come back to film.
It just happened to meet "Blue Bones", a movie that made her really fall in love with the profession of actors.
Image source: Blue Bones
But also at this time, the plight of middle-aged actresses is very specific in Ni Hongjie.
There is no girlishness, which is not in line with the juvenile aesthetic.
There is no film contract, only to pick up the remaining mother roles of others.
However, she looked very open.
"First of all, you have to accept in your heart that at this age, this play is not based on you, it revolves around you, but you can still play the role well.
In a play, not only the heroine has an aura. Don't get old and complain, hold your breath. ”
In this way, she starred in the villain Long Wanshi in "Niangdao", which is hateful but sympathetic.
Video screenshot source: "Niangdao"
There is also the beauty of the strong woman cow in "Come on, You're the Best".
The capable exterior is full of righteousness and gentleness.
Video screenshot source: "Come on, you're the best"
She is also the poor mother of domestic violence in "Skyscraper".
Life is dilapidated, but still longs to be redeemed.
Video screenshot source: Skyscraper
Ni Hongjie used her solid acting skills to conquer every small role in the eyes of others.
When others are shrewd and calculating, she has to move with her heart;
When others weigh the pros and cons, she still maintains a pure sincerity.
Regarding late ripening, Mo Yan said this:
The late ripening I understand is not really mental childishness.
No one is truly as innocent as a blank slate, but a person's choice.
Knowing the world without being sophisticated, he has encountered the dark side of life, but still chooses pure goodness and clarity.
Ni Hongjie, who kept the clouds open and saw the moon, was like this.
Even if she has experienced a failed marriage, even if she has not become the ideal person now, she is not afraid.
Because, it's not too much to fall in love when you're young, and it's nothing wrong to give up when you're mature.
All we have to do is to live in our own rhythm in a posture that is not humble, sincere and determined.
Not hurried, not slow, tireless.
The answers we seek, life will answer them one by one.
At that point, we will finally understand:
In the road of life about arrival and search, we never stop growing.
I would like to say to Ni Hongjie:
Thank you for sticking with it.
In the days to come, you are not only "wishing peerless", "Ni Hongjie" is your most dazzling label.
Author | Ah Jin, a code word person who speaks civility and understands politeness. This article was first published in the Ten Points Book Club (ID: sdclass), a new women's growth culture platform, and 3 million small partners to accompany learning, upward growth, reprint please contact the authorization.
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