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Recently, Ni Hongjie, who has not appeared for a long time, has been on the hot search, not because there are new works this time, but because of her love affair.
The disclosure of this relationship is very sudden, many netizens are confused, when did Ni Hongjie get married? Then divorced again, and now having a new boyfriend, the whole process happened unexpectedly.
After exposing herself to have a new relationship, Ni Hongjie also revealed that she also had a son, but in the last marriage, there were a lot of bitter things, not only with her ex-husband, but also with her son.
Ni Hongjie talked about her son's collapse and tears: calling him by his name and not wanting to call his mother
With the exposure of Ni Hongjie's love affair, she also generously admitted that she already had a son, but when talking about the relationship with her son, Ni Hongjie began to blush and her voice choked.
Ni Hongjie lost money because of her previous husband's business, and then she borrowed money everywhere, repeatedly taught and did not change, and even more when Ni Hongjie was pregnant, she also frequently played cards and lost money, and during the entire marriage period, Ni Hongjie was full of suffocation.
Ni Hongjie is therefore saddled with tens of millions of debts, and after the divorce of her husband, the son and the grandmother live together, a year after the divorce, the son and themselves can get along well, but did not expect that the son has undergone a great change in the future, not only the mother Ni Hongjie as an enemy, and even called his name, unwilling to call his mother.
The parent-child relationship between Ni Hongjie and her son was broken because of her mother-in-law
Because he and her husband are usually busy at work, after the divorce, the son is living with the grandmother, resulting in the relationship between the son and the grandmother is very close, and the mother-in-law seems to be extremely dissatisfied with the former daughter-in-law, every time Ni Hongjie comes to see her son, when she wants to take her son out to eat, the old man will say on the side: "The food made by the grandmother is not delicious, you and your mother go out to eat delicious."
Such words are obvious, with the meaning of mediating dissension, and the son seems to understand the meaning, coupled with the fact that the grandmother usually says a few "bad words" about her mother from time to time, resulting in some misunderstanding of Ni Hongjie in her son's heart.
Finally, in front of the two close relatives, the son still chose his grandmother, and said bluntly: "I do not eat with Ni Hongjie", so directly called by her name, even the way her mother does not call, so that Ni Hongjie's heart is extremely uncomfortable.
When Ni Hongjie recalled this past, the tears fell uncontrollably, in addition to the discomfort and grievances in her heart, there was also heartache and guilt for the child, as a mother, naturally she did not want her son to have such a big resentment towards herself at a young age. But at the same time, she will also comfort herself that the child is young, and if he is older, he will be fine.
There is no need for children to become negative energy in the enmity between adults
Children have not yet formed their own thoughts, generally by the people close to each other are more affected, if you are with the grandmother for a long time, and the grandmother will always instill the idea of "mother is not good" to the child, the child will naturally feel that the mother is not good.
One will make the child less impression of the mother; the other will also affect the child's words and deeds.
Some grandmothers are like this, with the eldest grandson not to let the mother close, if the child and the mother are close, they will feel that the child betrayed themselves, usually will also provoke the relationship between the child and the mother.
Whoever takes the child for a longer time, the child is naturally closer to who, which is understandable, after all, "long-term love", the cultivation of emotions is accumulated day by day, but the pattern of people raising children is different, and the children who are naturally educated will also have different results.
Some mothers-in-law just like to grab the position of the mother, often put "no mother", "mother bad" such words on the lips, so very bad, children do not know right and wrong, there is no ability to distinguish between right and wrong, long-term in such an educational environment, it is easy to cause children to be unkind to the mother and rebellious psychology, but also lead to children's psychological deformities.
As the saying goes, "Near Zhu is red and close to ink is black", how can a child who grows up in a lot of complaints and curses grow up healthy?
Therefore, no matter what kind of grudges there are between adults, we must try to avoid involving children, and there is no need to make children become negative energy.
Bud Care Mom wants to say:
I have to say that Ni Hongjie and the "Zhu Wushuang" played by Ni Hongjie really have a lot of similarities.
Zhu Wushuang was helpless, wandering around, and the road was bumpy; Ni Hongjie was listed as a dishonest person by the bank because her husband was saddled with tens of millions of debts, saving money and thrift, and finally the relationship between her son and herself was provoked by her mother-in-law...
The same is the life experience of ups and downs, but fortunately, the current Ni Hongjie, whether in career or feelings, is slowly getting better, from the stage of "I am an actor" with her own acting skills sparkling, once again let the audience see this "treasure girl", but also hope that she can harvest happiness in the new relationship, better handle the parent-child relationship with her son, and the relationship with her son can get better and better.