The old drama "The Tale of Wulin" is our childhood laughter and our youth memories. I once thought that it was a comma in the glorious era of domestic sitcoms, but I didn't think about it, but it became a stop.
In addition to being light and funny, entertainment and entertainment, the self-consistent character relationship of this drama and the plot arrangement with hidden meaning are also admired.
This series will use general psychology, social psychology, behavioral histology and other theories, old dramas and new theories, and reinterpret "The Tale of Wulin".
Today, Lu Sir will talk about three years old who knows a thousand words, five years old who memorizes Tang poems, seven years old who is familiar with reading four books and five classics, eight years old who is proficient in poetry and song, twenty-five years old who can't even eat food, sell his ancestral property to work and mix rice, Lu Xiucai.
We have to ask Lu Xiucai: How did you go from a genius child to a genius? In other words, how did Lu Xiu break a good hand?
1. The name of the prodigy of Xiucai is likely to be from a chicken
The so-called genius prodigy is that when everyone is wearing open crotch pants to play with mud, they run faster and fly higher than others. This talent is one aspect, but the other is also very important, that is, the early family environment and educational background.
Lu Xiucai's family just happened to have this superior condition. Shuxiang Mendi, the ancestors of the three generations were officials. Grandfather, the former prefect of Lü, is equivalent to the secretary of the municipal party committee of a prefecture-level city.
Lu Xiucai's superior bookish environment basically won at the starting line as soon as he played. However, let's not think that his grandfather Lü Zhifu was a teenager who broke through the Eight Strands of Cultivation and the Ninth Heaven, and unless he deliberately missed a few questions and did not write, he would definitely score a full score.
Although Grandpa Lu is not as good as the most talented genius, but to do the title, write eight shares, but also belongs to the national average level, compared to ordinary people, it is definitely more than a star and a half higher.
Unfortunately, he was not blessed in his fate, and he studied hard for more than ten years, went to the middle of the school happily at the age of forty, went to be a prefect in the second year, and went into the soil in the third year.
After a year as prefect, he died? This newly arrived glory, wealth and power, has not yet tasted it properly, is it going to fly like this? What would you think if you were in his family?
That must be brushed again along the old road of success, dead a lifter, we will come again, dead a prefect, we may be able to come up with one.
The sons of Lü Zhifu are old, and it is estimated that they can't count on them, but there are no grandchildren who are thriving!
This family task fell so gloriously on Lu Qinghou's little boy shoes. Judging from the situation that his ancestors had made a person in the three generations of the imperial examination, Lü Qinghou's children's shoes were smart, but to say that he was gifted, this possibility was really not high.
As for the persona of the genius prodigy, there is a high probability that he was born out of the chicken, and the high probability is still set off by the cattle herding dolls in the eight townships.
Other children are willful at home, you have to give me a word at home. Other children have to carry the jar upside down, you have to recite Tang poems for me. Other children catch toads, you have to grab a brush for me. Chicken baby, hard chicken.
What four books and five classics, what poetry and songs, whether Lü Qinghou wants to or not, whether he wants to or not, whether he wants to or not, whether he is willing or not, can be chicken without prohibition, and strive to let him achieve the ultimate goal of Zhongju as soon as possible and take on the heavy responsibility of reviving the Lü family.
2. Hard mortal chickens become prodigies, contrary to the laws of cognitive development
It is said that after the death of Lü Zhifu, the Lü family began to concentrate on chicken babies. The chicken baby is cool for a while, the chicken baby has always been cool, but the one who is chicken, I am afraid it will not be.
Do you think that Xiucai can read a thousand words at the age of three, and he still can't start learning to recognize words from the age of one or two? And at least one or two can be learned a day, or they can't complete the target amount. What is the age of one or two years old? Children are just entering a language-sensitive period.
What is the language sensitive period? It's when you learn to speak, and you learn very quickly.
Children who are more than one year old may be able to pop a few new words out of their mouths every day. Psychologists call this phenomenon a "naming explosion."
When it was almost two years old, the explosion was almost over, and the child began to have a strong desire to express.
Nagging in her mouth and reading like an old lady. If you listen closely, you will find that the sentence may not be complete, but what about the most critical information? There is none of them.
What dad eats, mom feeds, rabbits sleep, just like the previous telegram, that's called a word pearl, not a waste of saliva at all. Psychologists call it the "telegram sentence period."
However, such a language sensitivity period, although it is the golden age for children to learn to speak, does not mean that it is also the golden age of learning to recognize words.
Generally speaking, when a child is about 4 years old, the development of the nervous system will be about 95% complete. It's a little difficult to read at the age of two. Not to mention that the ancient characters were all traditional.
One word, to remember so many strokes, to remember the structural relationship between strokes, which is simply too painful for children whose cognitive system has not yet developed!
Three years old can read a thousand words, is quite powerful. However, contrary to the objective law of children's cognitive development, this input-output ratio is really not cost-effective.
You don't have to wait for several years, just one or two years, and when other children reach the age of four or five, they can naturally learn how to read. Then you have no advantage in word recognition!
What to do? Then continue to advance education. Other children can quickly recognize words, and you will painfully memorize Tang poems.
Other children can memorize poems quickly, and you will painfully read the Four Books and Five Classics and the poems and songs. Only by always having to beat faster than others can we continue to maintain this advantage.
But the problem is that one day, all children will develop the cognitive system well, and there will be no so-called advanced education.
At that point, what can you do? Such a hard chicken out of the prodigy, his flowering period is too short, not sustainable at all!
One more thing, have you noticed? In the play, Xiang Yu, Lao Bai, Xiao Guo, big mouth father or mother, there is always one who has appeared, and the peerless life has also been mentioned several times, and after the death of his parents, he entered the Sunflower Sect.
Only to Xiucai's parents, he never mentioned a word. It is very likely that he also died before the beginning of the plot, so the ancestral property will reach The hands of Xiucai.
Add this factor to understand better. Because people's learning must have an internal driving force.
Now there are a lot of college students, the college entrance examination is good, went to the key universities, as soon as they enter the university, there is no pressure, they begin to fly themselves, skip classes, play games, in a few years, we can see the news, saying which young prodigy, college entrance examination, was dropped out of Peking University Tsinghua University of Science and Technology.
Although Xiucai can't say that he hates reading, we can see that his whole person is more Buddhist, and he has never had anything to ignore outside the window and fight until dawn.
His parents died, the two mountains that forced him to study hard were gone, and he began to relax freely, which was a very natural thing for everyone to do.
3. Artificial prodigies are not good, and social development is not sound
The social development of human beings is staged. According to Erikson's theory of stages of psychosocial development, a person's life can be divided into eight levels.
Each level has its own crisis, which is the big boss we have to defeat.
The so-called growth is to fight monsters and upgrade. It is to defeat different bosses in different levels to successfully advance to the next level. So what if you lose a certain level? That's not good.
As soon as the age comes, you will naturally enter the next level, the old BOSS has not been defeated, the new BOSS is coming again, then your development will be in trouble.
First of all, the first hurdle we have to face is at this stage from 0 to 1 and a half years old. The big boss of this level is called trust or distrust.
If we win, we can build a basic sense of trust in the world. So what if you lose? That would be insecure and anxious.
Then, at the age of 1.5 to 3 years old, we ushered in the second hurdle. The big boss of this level is independent or shy and suspicious.
If we win, we know that we have the ability to do certain things and have a basic sense of control. So what if you lose? We feel unable to control our lives and doubt our abilities.
Waiting until you are 3 to 6 years old is the third level of life. The big boss at this time is active or guilt. When we win the war, we will believe in our own value, in Marx's words, that is, believe in our subjective initiative.
But if I lose, don't mention it, I don't think I have much value, and it is useless to work hard.
From the age of 6 to 12, that is, the primary school stage of modern people, the big BOSS to be faced at the fourth level of life has become a diligent and inferiority complex.
This level is an important period for us to gain the ability to learn and the sense of achievement, if we have not played, it will lack self-confidence and have a sense of failure.
In the third and fourth levels, we can find that Xiucai's clearance progress is getting more and more crotch. Judging by his early academic performance, it should give him confidence and make him believe in his subjective initiative.
However, this kind of self-confidence is not a true self-confidence from the heart. What should true self-confidence look like? No matter how I am, I believe that I can do a certain thing well in my ability. However, Xiucai's self-confidence is based on external conditions.
One is through comparisons with peers. Others are still learning up and down, and I've already learned about the glamorous rays. Others a o e still don't understand, I already know English. Others are still learning to add, subtract, multiply and divide, and I already know Riemannian geometric calculus.
So, I'm confident. Another is through the affirmation of parents and others. All the people praised me as a child prodigy and the pride of my parents, and gave Lu Parents a face, without insulting the face of the prefect's grandfather. So, I'm confident.
But this self-confidence, built on external conditions, is vulnerable. Because it lacks an internal foundation, that is, after passing the second level, we affirm our subjective initiative.
Therefore, slowly, by the time of the third and fourth levels, Xiucai began to be hit. Regression, setbacks, and others do not worship him, will make his sense of failure stronger and stronger.
By the fifth level, that is, adolescence after the age of 13, that is, the critical period for people to establish self-identity, Xiucai has completely failed to keep up and completely fallen behind.
His heart is full of chaos, he does not know whether he is a prodigy or an ordinary person, he cannot accept and appreciate himself, and he cannot form self-identity.
Just like in the thirty-third time, Xiucai, who thinks he is out of love, drinks on the roof. A glass of wine went down, and immediately began to grumble:
"I, Lü Qinghou! At the age of three, he can read a thousand words, at the age of five he memorizes Tang poems, at the age of seven he is familiar with reading the Four Books and Five Classics, and at the age of eight he is proficient in poetry and song. But I'm still a useless student. What else would I say besides saying, "The Son once knew," I would say? yes? What else would I do? People who take the examination cannot pass the examination for seven or eight years; they do business and lose their ancestral property. How could I be so unlucky? ”
Is this chaotic and contradictory mentality suddenly manifested? First of all, I miss my past glory, and then I turn my words around, and I belittle myself for being useless and not doing anything well.
But in fact, let's think about it, if you don't win the exam in seven or eight years, you are a bad student? Wasn't his idol, Grandpa Lü Zhifu, also a forty-year-old?
It can be seen that if a person has a problem with his self-perception, it is simply unreasonable!
However, in the misfortune of luck, twenty-five-year-old Lu Xiucai, met the light of his life, these good friends of the Tongfu Inn. With the encouragement of her friends, Lu Xiucai finally stepped out of the shadows and found her self-confidence.
The author | Fangjia, M.S. in Psychology, University of California, Berkeley
Edited | Liangshan
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