There are many parents in life who complain that their children are not obedient at all, saying light has no effect, saying heavy will cause a family war, but when others say something to their children, children seem to be able to listen to it, which is something that many parents can't think of, so what is the reason?
The simple reason why a child will not listen to you is because you have been regarded as an enemy by the child, and you have seen several people who are friendly with the enemy! Many parents will walk into a misunderstanding when educating their children, treating their children as their own personal belongings, lacking respect and listening to their children, and their rebelliousness will become stronger and stronger as their children grow older.
The reason for this situation is that parents do not understand children, and the mode of education from an early age is that parents are concerned, children listen, and must be obedient, and children have been in a state of oppression. From an early age, it is missing to be understood, listened to, and respected, and parents have long been accustomed to this model, in short, I say you must listen, obey.
As the child's age increases, the child begins to have his own thoughts in the depths of his heart, and he also has the ability to initially judge right and wrong, when the parents force the child to accept their own ideas, when there is a conflict with the child's interests, the child will naturally stand up for the first time to defend himself, and the more the parents oppress the more fiercely the child resists.
On the surface, it seems that the child is disobedient, but in fact, there is already a problem in the way he educates the child, and there must be something unacceptable to the child in the way he speaks and attitude, so the child will not listen to what the parents say, and even be very impatient and even have physical conflicts.
As a parent, you must face the point that the child is an independent individual, and will not become their own private property because you are their parents, in the process of getting along with the child and educating the child, you must regard the child as an independent individual, give the child the respect and understanding that he deserves, bend down to listen to the real voice and needs of the child, and treat himself and the child as equals.
Parents are the first time to become parents, children are also the first time to be other people's children, in the process of children's growth, parents need to learn a lot of places, parents to learn more about family education is still very necessary, but also for the healthy growth of children and correct education.