Wen | Mi Xiaomu
"Butler Qi", the child is familiar with this writer. Go to the library and borrow books she wrote to read. Well, it was through my children that I started to pay attention to "Butler Qi".
No, seeing "The Reading Class of Butler Qi" caught my eye. Butler Qi, who has been engaged in children's book creation for more than 30 years and is known as the queen of children's books in Taiwan, has written about children's reading in this "Reading Lesson of Butler Qi". After reading it, there are a lot of gains. Parents who want to read with their children and pay attention to children's books, this "Butler Qi's Reading Class", can be opened to see.
Let your child take the initiative to buy books and give them time to grow
Reading is one thing that parents can interact with their children for a lifetime. I am very fortunate to have entered the world of children's books and have more common topics with children. However, on this road, there have also been some detours, such as buying books for children.
In "Butler Qi's Reading Class", Housekeeper Qi tells a scene where she buys books for her children. The child's favorite book, although the housekeeper Qi feels that it is not worth buying, she still buys it without saying a word. Why? Because she is willing to give her children "time to grow" and let them learn to judge on their own.
Seeing this passage of housekeeper Qi, I remembered a scene where my children bought books. The boss took a fancy to a set of books on the Classic of Mountains and Seas, because there was a book on the Classic of Mountains and Seas at home, and I subjectively thought that the set of books was not worth buying, so I did not buy it in the end. Later, in the bookstore, the second elder took a fancy to the book, and the words spoken by the eldest and the second were just like the words I had said to the eldest.
At that time, in the matter of choosing books, I chose instead of children. And once upon a time, there must be parents who have gone through similar misunderstandings. In the bookstore, the most lively people in the auxiliary area are the adults, and parents always have a lot of "negative opinions" about other books that children want to buy. We all forget to give children the right to choose books on their own initiative.
Butler Qi's approach is worth learning. But isn't it, choosing the vision of a good book also takes time to precipitate.
With patience and love, cheer for parent-child reading
Parent-child reading, the sooner the better, Butler Qi shared, if you can start reading at the age of 0, it is the best thing. As children grow older, there is less and less time to spend with them reading. Perhaps, we all misunderstand the "parent-child reading" thing. In fact, parent-child reading is not limited to accompanying young children's reading.
Zhang Hua, the founder of Junior Business School, mentioned in "The World is Our Classroom" that parent-child reading is broader, including the discussion of the same book with children after they go to primary school. "Parent-child reading" is something that can be done in the family for a long time. On Douban, there was a person who had already worked and shared a set of pictures. That was the scene after work, he read with his father. He was fortunate to be able to communicate and share with his father all the time. It was a tradition of reading habits.
We're on a not-so-long parent-child reading journey, and someone has been gone for years. For parents, a big challenge in practice is patience. Sometimes, children will read the same book over and over again. My second eldest is often like this, for a book, a set of books, as long as he likes, in a period of time, every day will let me read, until he feels enough. Sometimes I feel tired of reading, but when I think about it, which one I read is reading, I don't care much about whether the child reads the same book repeatedly.
Accompanying children to grow, the details to accompany children to read, what is needed is the "patience + love" of parents.
Ask questions appropriately and enjoy reading
During the initial parent-child reading, many adults like to ask questions to their children. Regarding the question, the housekeeper Qi also thought that it was not very appropriate.
I remember a scene I saw in book city. A mother was reading to her son softly. After reading it, as she kept asking questions, the child went from a soft answer at the beginning to silence later. The child's silence brought the high tone of the mother. The warm reading scene has become another look.
In the process of reading, the deliberate questions of adults will make children uncomfortable. My second eldest, I don't like the questions of adults in the process of reading. Children are naturally aware, and they can receive signals from adults, including, of course, the "educational" purpose hidden in the words of adults.
If you really want to ask questions, you can consider finding some books that meet the characteristics of your child's growth. For example, in "Hand-painted Chinese History Picture Scroll", the questions in it are all through the actual questionnaire, summarizing the children's problems and interests. Such questions, for children, are more like a good helper to "focus" on reading, without weakening their interest in reading.
In the process of parent-child reading, it is good to ask appropriate questions, or simply enjoy the joy of reading.
Strengthen their own reading literacy and take their children further
When it comes to paying attention to children's books, it is also because the values conveyed in a book that my boss once shared were surprising. After that, learn about the different children's books and choose to recommend excellent children's books to your children to read. In "Butler Qi's Reading Lesson", a point of view mentioned by Butler Qi is very agreeable:
If we want to lead our children to gain something from reading, we must also have a certain literary literacy.
Butler Qi shared two reading methods: theme reading + extended reading.
Thematic reading, including three aspects, can be read according to the theme of the festival, can also be according to the nature of the text, and can also be read according to the theme of the writer. Further reading, starting from an article or a book, is to see more information. Whether it is thematic reading or extended reading, this is a thing that takes the child and goes further and deeper in the matter of reading.
Parent-child reading, the identity of adults, for children, is more about accompanying, guiding, and sharing. Accompany your child to the moment when they fall in love with reading, guide them to explore in a wider range, and share the good books they have read together.
Happy reading.
I am Mi Xiaomu, with two babies at home, and I love to read.