If you choose one of the two from Bao Chao and Daiyu as friends, who will Wang Xifeng choose? As long as you are willing to analyze objectively and rationally, you will find that there is no treasure.
If you want to analyze who a person will be friends with, you must at least look at two levels, one is the person's view of choosing friends, and the other is whether the other party meets her view of choosing friends.
Wang Xifeng's view of choosing friends: competent and pragmatic are the only criteria.
Many readers do not understand why Wang Xifeng and Qin Keqing became close friends. They are very different in terms of birth, character, and behavior in the world: in the body, Wang Xifeng is a concubine of the family who is rooted in Miao Hong, and Qin Keqing is an abandoned baby that the shabby petty official often raises from health; in terms of character, although Wang Xifeng never shy away from contact with foreign men, but where she is blameless in the women's way, Qin Keqing is "good at style, adhering to the appearance of the moon", and making the ugly thing of "picking up ashes" with her father-in-law Jia Zhen; in the world, Wang Xifeng shows her prestige in a very high profile, never caring how people look at her, but Qin Keqing got it after death." Su Ri pities the poor and cherishes the lowly, and loves the old and the young".
How did these two people become girlfriends? Because they have a highly aligned value: competent, pragmatic, and willing to pay for the prosperity of the family.
When Qin Keqing gave Wang Xifeng a dream, she said that Wang Xifeng was a "hero in the fat powder team", so why shouldn't she? It is precisely because she herself is also a knowledgeable person that she can see the evil hidden behind the prosperity of Jia Fu and give a solution.
So why did she entrust the dream to Wang Xifeng? Because that's the main content of their long-term communication. From the content of this dream, it can be seen that they can become girlfriends, not often together to chat about men, talk about parents short, talk about cosmetics, etc., they talk about how to housekeeper.
That is to say, when the masters and servants of Jia Fu were "prosperous and honorable", wang Xifeng and Qin Keqing, two young daughters-in-law, often got together to discuss how to bear the burden for Jia Fu.
People are eager for friends, and the desire for friends mainly comes from the urgent needs of the heart. Among the younger generation, Wang Xifeng was actually very lonely, she was not interested in the wind and flowers and snow moon in the Grand View Garden, and after Qin Keqing's death, she could no longer find friends who could meet her to communicate how to manage the family.
Forty-fifth time, the author uses a plot to specifically describe the completely different living conditions of Wang Xifeng and Bao Dai and others. When Li Feng took the members of the poetry club to wang Xifeng to ask for funding, Wang Xifeng was very busy, "I just want to count this rice tent with them, and the big lady over there sent someone to call, and I don't know what to say, I have to go over and take a trip." And the clothes you have added in the next year, and I haven't made them yet."
This is a head-on confrontation between pragmatism and retreat. Obviously, in Jaya, retreats are the mainstream. Therefore, under the pressure of Li Feng,Wang Xifeng could not be angry, but also had to coax Li Feng with kind words: "Good sister-in-law, reward me with a little emptiness." You hurt me the most, why don't you hurt me today? Usually, you also advised me: 'Although there are many things, you should also take care of your body and pick up some stolen space to rest', but today you have forced my life. ”
Every time I read this, I always feel aggrieved and bitter for Ah Feng. When did such an arrogant person ever breathe so quietly? Besides, she is not for herself, but for the life of a large family.
Who can she tell about this grievance and bitterness? And who can empathize?
Because of this, the fifty-fifth time, when she heard about the boldness that Tanchun showed when acting as a housekeeper, she was greatly appreciated, and even said three "good" words: "Good, good, good three girls!" ”
Such a pragmatic and capable person is what she admires, and it is the only criterion for her to make friends.
With pragmatism and ability as the standard, Dai Yu is unqualified, and Bao Chao is excellent.
Understanding Wang Xifeng's concept of choosing friends, and then measuring Daiyu and Baochao, the conclusion is self-evident: with pragmatism and ability as the standard, Daiyu is unqualified, and Baochao is excellent.
First of all, pragmatic, Dai Yu is just the opposite, she is the typical of retreats. Under the influence of Baoyu, Daiyu does not love mundane affairs. What is a mundane affair? Chai rice, oil and salt, and "social affairs" are all mundane affairs, which is exactly what Wang Xifeng does, and it is precisely what Dai Yu is unwilling to do.
Coupled with the fact that there is only wind and snow in Daiyu's world, and only chai rice oil and salt in Wang Xifeng's world, they have no common language at all, and they can't talk together, how to be friends?
Speaking of ability, this is also what Wang Xifeng particularly values, and we can see it from her insight into red jade.
Wang Xifeng, who is always trying to find a few right-hand men. When she stumbled upon Lin Hongyu, who was doing things like a treasure, her eyes lit up like a treasure, and she wanted to take it with her to focus on cultivation, "You Ming'er serve me." I recognize you as a daughter, and I will condition you again, and you will be out of breath. ”
There is also her dependence on Ping'er, not only because Ping'er is loyal to her, but also because Ping'er can share her worries in housekeeping affairs.
This is all a manifestation of Wang Xifeng's ability to value.
Does Dai Yu have the ability? Although Wang Xifeng said that "Lin Yatou and Bao Girl are both good, they are relatives, and they are not good at managing our housework", it only means that she recognizes that Dai Yu is smart and flexible in heart, and belongs to a person who can be taught. That is to say, if Dai Yu is willing to spend her energy on the housekeeper like Tan Chun, Wang Xifeng believes that she can cultivate it.
However, Wang Xifeng would not cultivate Daiyu like he cultivated red jade. Therefore, in Wang Xifeng's eyes, Dai Yu was a person without the ability to manage after all. In addition, Daiyu's "is a beautiful lamp, and the wind blows it is broken", which is also a manifestation of incompetence.
Baochao and Daiyu are the opposite.
First of all, Bao Chao is a rather pragmatic person, and she also reads for pragmatism, in order to improve her life skills and ability to deal with the world. She advocated that "if you use knowledge in small things, the small things are getting higher and higher." If you don't mention it with learning, you will all flow into the city customs. ”
It is precisely because Baochao is pragmatic and knowledgeable, which can make management higher, Wang Xifeng once took the initiative to ask her for advice, which has a sigh of "not doing your own business, not opening your mouth, shaking your head three times when asked".
This sigh shows that Wang Xifeng wants to be friends with Baochao, but Baochao ignores her.
In addition, from the perspective of ability, Baochao has had successful experience. She not only manages the internal affairs of the Xue family, but also manages the business of the Xue family. This is also something that Wang Xifeng wants to learn but can't hope to reach.
It can be said that since Qin Keqing left, Wang Xifeng lost this only friend, the arrival of Baochao, which made her see hope again. If she can be friends with Baochao, not only will her grievances and bitterness have somewhere to complain about, but she can also listen to Baochao's words, read ten years of books, and her ability has been rapidly improved. This was verified by Tanchun. The fifty-sixth time, Tanchun and Baochao's remarks on "mentioning knowledge in small matters" made Tanchun quickly promote from junior manager to senior manager.
Unfortunately, Ah Feng wants to be friends with Bao Chao, but Bao Chao is reluctant to be friends with Ah Feng, because the Tao is different and does not conspire. Ah Feng's heart is fierce and fierce against his conscience, but Bao Chao often has compassion to help the poor. Therefore, Bao Chao would rather take the initiative to talk with Tan Chun deeply than respond to Ah Feng's request for advice, only helping the good and not helping the evil.
This also doomed Ah Feng to eventually not make friends, but Bao Chao and Dai Yu formed a "Golden Ranch". From the perspective of ability, Ah Feng and Bao Chao are the closest and most suitable to be friends, but from the perspective of mentality, it is Dai Yu and Bao Chao who are the closest and the most suitable to be confidants.
The author's ingenuity is reflected in this: on the one hand, he affirms Wang Xifeng's ability and pities her efforts in the housekeeper, so she wants to be friends with the capable and pragmatic Baochao. On the other hand, he also condemned and criticized Wang Xifeng for seeing profit and forgetting righteousness and acting as a blessing in disguise, so she was rejected by Baochao, who regarded the jishi as his mission.