In this real life, many people have such a mentality:
They want great success, but they can also accept spectacular failures.
But they
It is not acceptable to live in mediocrity and resignation
Slow and ineffective efforts are unacceptable, they want life
"Burn"!
In fact, this kind of "social pathology" has a term in psychology
"High drive high avoidance",
This refers to people who are particularly eager to succeed, but also particularly afraid of failure.
But in general, it's hard to succeed, so they're more afraid of failure.
And because they are doomed to failure, they may choose a "brilliant" failure to end up, in order to save their face.
This phenomenon is particularly evident in the literati of ancient times.
"Self-cultivation, family unity, governance, peace in the world",
This is the lifelong ideal and life value of the ancient literati.
What they dream of is to read hard through the cold window, one day carp jumping the dragon gate, participating in the activities of governing the country and the world, and it is best to be an "imperial master" to indirectly change the entire country.
However, there are very few people who can get to this point. Most of them have become cannon fodder and denominators in the process of struggle.
So, because success is slim, some people begin to set life goals like this:
If you can't rule the country and the world,
It is better to take the initiative to seek a beautiful "failure" and leave a name for qingshi.
People can produce such strange ideas, perhaps thanks to the Song Taizu Zhao Kuangyin.
In the five dynasties before the Song Dynasty, the world was the world of the warriors, and they said that the literati were degraded and degraded, and they said that they would kill, and they regarded it as grass and mustard. The literati are only the foils of the warriors, and they have a wait-and-see attitude towards the affairs of the world.
However, after summarizing the historical lessons of the fall of the Five Dynasties, Zhao Kuangyin, the grandfather of the Song Dynasty, realized the importance of the relationship between the governance of the world and the literati:
Fighting the world needs to be on the horse, but to rule the world still needs these readers.
Thus, the Song Dynasty had
"The king and the scholar rule the world together"
That said. Since then, the sense of responsibility of the literati has never been higher, and they have reason to envision their brilliant lives.
Northern Song Dynasty thinker Zhang Zai said
"Establish a heart for heaven and earth, establish a destiny for the people, continue to learn from the saints, and open up peace for all the worlds",
Literary scholar Fan Zhongyan said
"Before the world is worried and worried, after the world is happy and happy."
All of the above are the embodiment of the literati's sense of subjectivity and sense of responsibility.
Therefore, like Su Shi and Ouyang Xiu, such literary courtiers,
Although his life was bumpy, he was reprimanded several times and exiled everywhere, but he was able to remain unswerving and never change his loyalty to the emperor and the imperial court. Even if they fail, they must fail beautifully and defeat themselves.
In the later Ming Dynasty, although the Zhu family Tianzi set up a variety of severe punishment laws, including a scepter system that could kill people
However, there are even more courtiers who want to be fierce and direct and leave a name in history even more than the Song Dynasty.
For example, Zhu Di annihilated the "Ten Tribes" and sat 847 people in a row
Fang Xiaoru
Although his personal righteousness was fulfilled, his loyalty also flowed through the ages,
But his "one death" could not scare Zhu Di to death, let alone save Zhu Yunjiao. From a certain point of view, this is an act that evades responsibility and harms others.
However, many people who have read the sages think and do this, but their practice is not as fierce as Fang Xiaoru' approach, which is a kind of "style" they want.
Li Hongzhang in his youth also has such a kind of body
"Fan". When he was young, he had already thought about how to lose beautifully.
1840 was a year of great disaster for the Qing Dynasty, but for Li Hongzhang, it was an auspicious year. He was a teenager,
At the age of 18, he passed the Xiucai examination and improvised to write such a poem:
Twilight drums and morning bells come in
, wandering around before and after thinking.
Only youth is good in life, and everything in the world must be guarded against whiteness.
Wanli asked Miao to be less, and Qianqiu offered Jia Shengtui.
Shame on the two words of merit and fame, the title of fei Xiucai
。
Obviously, Li Hongzhang in his youth had extraordinary life ambitions, but he also had the temperament of many young people: his life idol at that time was Actually Jia Yi in the Western Han Dynasty.
Jia Yi's literary style and insight were deeply admired by posterity, but he offended the emperor and his courtiers because he repeatedly dared to speak directly, and finally he was degraded again and again, and he died depressed at the age of 33, and he was discouraged all his life.
In the difficult times at that time, what Li Hongzhang was determined to do at the beginning was not a practical person who solved practical problems in a down-to-earth manner, but a literati who danced and inked and showed off his talents.
Choosing the former, he may be scolded as a "thief", but at that time, Daqing needed such a person more;
Choosing the latter, he may be able to live a few bookish articles, but what can he bring to the country except to add a necessary text to later students?
Later, Li Hongzhang with this sour and slippery "literary popularity", from the 20s to nearly 40 years old, he finally became a frustrated literati with young ambitions and middle-aged confusion. But such a life, in addition to letting him look at the shadow and pity himself, what is the use?
Fortunately, from the age of 37 when he defected to Zeng Guofan, he finally witnessed how the doer Zeng Guofan had taught the powerful Xiang Army bit by bit. Three years later, he began to form the Huai Army and began his own take-off.
It is far more difficult to be a doer who "uses the world", than to be a hypocritical loser, so that it is more worthwhile to go through the world. So, do it, don't talk about it, where is there anything "not worth it" in life?