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Education is a kind of self-awakening, a kind of human self-awakening.
Education is a kind of self-awakening, a kind of human self-awakening, a kind of self-awakening of yours.
On the way to the fulfillment of one's own life, the child and his education are a bridge.
By having a child and educating him, work on yourself in order to achieve the consummation of the whole existence.
Education is a way to wake up, to persuade your child outwardly, to persuade yourself inward.
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The essence of education is a self-cultivation.
The child is a sensitive receiver who is reflecting your voice and information.
A good parent should put the focus of education from educating children to educating themselves.
For enlightened parents, educating their children is just an excuse, and self-education is the truth.
When you educate yourself well, the child is just a reflection of you, he will naturally become better.
What all things need is not other-me education, but self-learning and self-education.
In essence, only this part of man's intellectual creation is truly meaningful and effective.
The problems you see in your child are projections of your own problems.
For a family, you are the root of the tree and the child is the flower. If there is a problem with the flower, it is most likely that the root of the tree also has a problem.
Parents often "see" the child's problems, in fact, their own problems "blossom" in the child.
The child is your projection screen. Essentially, there are no problematic children, only problematic parents.
Parent means "mind" and child represents "heart". When the existence of life seems to be in trouble, it is the "mind" that is wrong.
The "mind" has always been healthy, how can there be a problem with the "heart"?
Without your perspective, judgment, and opinion, will there be a problem child in your eyes? Who made a problematic child? you.
It is you who create problem concepts and then project them on the child; it is you who are blinded and see a piece of immaculate jade as an ugly stone.
If you are a fearful parent, you must have a problematic child. The greater your fear, the more problems you see as a child.
Fear leads to control. The more frightened you are, the more inclined you are to grasp something in order to make yourself feel secure.
The master is the mind, and children are usually free hearts, they flow like water and are difficult to control.
This makes you want to grasp, the more you want to control, the more you want to control, the more you can't grasp, the more you can't control, the more you can't control.
The more fear you have, the more you ask for your child, and the more problems you see as a child.
A child is a problematic child, is that really the case? Without your fears, without your repression or judgment, is it really hard for him to educate? Ask yourself.
How can a child grow naturally? When you become a completely fearless parent.
People expect their children to grow up wise and capable.
How can he manifest his "greatest" wisdom and ability? That is to let him grow up according to nature.
It is not easy to put a pony to grow freely on the vast grassland. What a fearless heart the owner of the pony needs!
He would worry about the ponies encountering such dangers on the road, of one kind or another of problems.
He would worry, let the pony go, what would happen to it in the future, how it would grow.
How dare you give up on your child? You don't have that much courage.
In the free form of a child, we can see how big a parent's fearless heart really is.
Not a man as bold as God, his children cannot enjoy the pure boundless sky and earth.
In front of a young child, we always play God unconsciously.
We know what is best for him, and we know what path is best for him.
From a long-term perspective throughout their lives, do you really know what's best for your child?
To control your child by your "knowing" to walk in your path, to impose on your child what you think is good or right, is to be held hostage, and you are holding his life free.
In that ignorance, in the name of love or kindness to him, how many stupid things have you done to your child, do you know?
When a person is in ignorance, you treat yourself how you treat others.
You punish your child the way you punish yourself, you rebuke him the way you blame yourself.
When you were a parent with many problems, how could you raise a child who was different from you?
The more you manage, the more he becomes you. The more you manage, the more he becomes the part you don't want him to be—
Become the image of yourself that you hate in your heart.
Only the less you care about him, the less he will become less and less like you, and more and more develop new parts of your life that you don't have.
What kind of path do you determine is the best path your child should take in life? Are you God?
If you really are God, do it like God and let the child grow up on his own.
Look, the beings under the heavens—tigers, lions, ants, bees—which one is not growing on their own, God has not manipulated their path of life.
Demanding, expecting, and being responsible does not mean love.
We measure whether we love or love a person, and often look at whether we have demands, expectations, or irresponsibility toward him, and how deep that is.
The more we demand, the more we expect, the more we control a person – the more responsible we are– the more we love that person;
On the other hand, we do not love Him, or we do not love Him deeply.
Is this true? This is a mistake.
Demands, expectations, or so-called responsibilities are just another incarnation of fear, another name.
Because we have fears ourselves, when we demand, expect, or take responsibility for another individual, we can make us feel deeper and more connected to each other, making us feel safe for ourselves.
Education is to make up for a sense of security, and the more a person emphasizes education, the greater the insecurity behind it.
Education seems to be a kind of control, which is based on illusions of the future and fear. The more fearful a person seems to be, the more he needs to be educated and educated.
What all things need is not other-me education, but self-learning and self-education. In essence, in the creation of human wisdom, only this part is truly meaningful and effective.
Fearful parents unconsciously regard their children as "hostages" to their sense of self-security.
You have to be good and good, otherwise I'm not safe; you have to be capable, otherwise how can I be at ease?
Lo and behold, parents are turning their children into threats to their inner safety.
When a child is a "hostage" in the family, guess, can the child receive a truly benign education?
The child becomes a wave on the river of fear within the family, and he certainly cannot obtain what he really needs in life.
When you are afraid, he can feel the fear, even if he is small; when you relax or be confident, he can feel it.
The child is a sensitive receiver who is reflecting your voice and information.
For enlightened parents, educating their children is just an excuse, and self-education is the truth. When you educate yourself well, the child is just a reflection of the good you, he will naturally become better.
Check yourself out. Examining your inner fears is the beginning of your real desire to educate good children.
Education is, in a sense, a healing of the fear and foolishness of the human heart. to understand education on a deeper level.
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What true love is.
We often say that a mother's love for her child is complete, 100 percent, really?
When a person still has fear in his heart, his love for another person cannot be 100% 100%.
What is true love? It's not that you can give him your life, or that you can satisfy or give anything he wants.
True love has nothing to do with it.
True love is a kind of inaction. It has no demands, it has no shadow of fear in it, it does not hide any attempt to control.
It gives the energy of nature like the sun gives light and heat to all things.
You don't expect him, you don't ask him to be different from who he is, you don't try to reform or correct him.
True love is completely unconditional. You love him no matter what, you love him no matter what, and your love has nothing to do with him.
This is true love. This love is like God's attitude toward all things, giving to you but not demanding or expecting from you, and He does nothing for you.
If this is called the standard of true love, then rethink your love, is that real love?
The essence of all relationships is your relationship with yourself.
In contemporary early childhood education, we put a lot of emphasis on parent-child relationship, but is there a so-called parent-child relationship?
In fact, in the whole existence of life, there is no relationship between you and others.
The essence of all relationships is a projection of your relationship with yourself. Your relationship with your thoughts is the matrix of your relationship with the whole world. All your external relationships are projections of that relationship.
Therefore, strictly speaking, just as there is no other interpersonal relationship, there is no parent-child relationship;
For for a specific you, there is no outer child, only an inner child.
Your attitude toward your inner child is your relationship with your outer child.
If your relationship with your child is messy, how to deal with your relationship with him? Just deal with your relationship with your beliefs.
Please go deep within yourself and understand what you really think, which is the fundamental point of solving relationships.
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Educating children is introspection.
When we dig deeper into life's problems, we will find that when you are fine, the problems of the whole world are over.
If I find the world to be problematic, it must be that I still have a problem.
When I cannot accept the world one hundred percent, it means that my mind has not yet achieved its own perfection.
Seeing the world as perfect is only a result of witnessing one's own inner perfection.
If I have anxiety, worry, or demand in the issue of children, it must mean that I still have fear, narrow opinion, self-righteousness, and ignorance in my heart.
When I'm not resting on awareness, I have a lot of problems. When I have a lot of problems, I must be rolling over my thoughts.
For one reason or another, as long as I am still in pain, anxiety, or worry, I must not see through the illusion of life, I do not see the truth of existence.
Stepping on this bridge, you are back on your own. The child is your projection, and education is your means of projection.
In achieving the perfection of the child, you will complete yourself.
In the same way, in the process of consummating yourself, your children will be perfected.
The outer world is the result of the inner world, which gives the outer world its beautiful energy.
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