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In this day and age, there are two situations that are particularly serious, one is "internal volume" and the other is "internal friction".
The inner volume, as the name suggests, is a large number of people "volume" in a small resource. When this situation continues, the situation of internal friction will occur.
Do not think that involution can promote social competition and thus social development. Just think, when the cost is getting higher and lower, the efficiency is getting lower and lower, then all the competition is not a waste of resources?
This "waste of resources" situation is internal friction.
Internal friction, to put it bluntly, is the internal consumption of the self. No matter who you are, whether you are rich or not, as long as internal friction appears, then you will be greatly affected.
Young people are fine, at least they have the energy and time to face the complexities of life. However, when people reach a certain age, they do not have the energy to face a complicated life. In this way, reducing the emergence of internal friction is the last word for settling down.
When people are old, they can avoid internal friction in their later years, so they may as well avoid internal friction in their later years.
Your quality of life, in addition to money, is also linked to internal friction. Only by reducing the impact of internal friction will your quality of life slowly improve.
Rejecting these 4 types of internal friction in old age will make you live happier.
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The first type of internal friction: household internal friction.
For middle-aged and elderly people, the biggest internal friction in life is "family internal friction". It is unfortunate that families, which were already full of contradictions, still have many problems.
On the surface, family internal friction has these 3 characteristics.
First of all, families will form gangs and calculate each other, and no one will obey the other. In the end, the whole family will become a shura field, leaving you without knowing how to be good.
Second, the issue of interests arises frequently. Brothers and sisters will turn their faces and not recognize people for the sake of interests, fathers and sons will sever their relationship for the sake of interests, and husbands and wives will tit-for-tat for the sake of interests.
In the end, the atmosphere of the family was particularly poor, and the Cold War became the norm for families, and everyone refused to compromise and give in. Over time, families will go downhill.
For the elders in the family, they least want to see "family conflicts" appear frequently. This is not only for the sake of their later years, but also for the sake of the future of their families.
Just think, who wants a family to be chaotic, like a mess?
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The second type of internal friction: emotional internal friction.
Some psychological researchers believe that due to the influence of life pressure, the "emotional" and "spiritual" problems of modern people are particularly serious. What's more, they have gone to extremes, suffering from anxiety or depression.
Why would some people choose to live lightly, and some people would choose to end their lives and even drag others into the water?
Because these people are lost in emotional attrition, they don't know what they want to pursue, and they also lose hope for the future.
It can be said that this is an era of anxiety to the extreme. Although people are smiling and giggling on the surface, their hearts always have endless anxiety, so that they think wildly and unconsciously consume their energy.
For example, an unemployed middle-aged man, he is particularly anxious, he has to die and live all day, and he does not even have a trace of rational emotions. In this way, isn't he particularly close to insanity?
We can see from the point of online violence that this is an era of national anxiety and national irritability. Self-internal friction has gradually become a norm. As a result, it is just a matter of harming yourself.
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The third type of internal friction: mental internal friction.
Internal friction exists in every field and in all spaces. Even if it is your thinking, it is inevitable that there will be a problem of "internal friction".
Before dealing with others, we will be wary of each other at the first time, and even think of ways to deal with others. It is this kind of "beware of people, calculate people" thinking, which will make us live a particularly painful life.
Beware of outsiders, calculate outsiders, this is very common. However, there are many people today who are not only wary of outsiders, but also of their families, and even turn the "spearhead" to their families.
Nowadays, when we talk about old-age care, most people feel that the concept of "raising children and preventing old age" is useless; when we talk about family affection, most people feel that "there is no filial piety in front of the bed for a long time"; when we talk about love, most people feel that men or women can't believe it.
With such thinking, can we really live happily?
In a word, modern people's thinking has obvious "extremes". Whenever something goes wrong, they amplify those shortcomings. Slowly, everyone's thinking will have a situation of "internal friction".
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The fourth type of internal friction: internal friction of relations.
In your opinion, how can people maintain a good and intimate relationship with each other?
Some people think that if you respect me, I respect you, the two sides have close contacts, mutual communication, mutual help and mutual compromise, and naturally establish a close and good relationship.
However, a situation like this is difficult to achieve after all. Because we can't even compromise with each other, how can we talk about having good relationships?
Especially the current middle-aged and elderly people, they would rather live alone than participate in interpersonal relationships.
Although it is said that people are old and need to learn to be alone, it also reflects a truth on the side, there are too many problems in interpersonal relations, contradictions are too complicated, rather than inviting trouble, it is better for a person to live a little freely.
Being a person can avoid unnecessary internal friction, so you may wish to avoid internal friction. Perhaps, this is the key to embracing happiness.
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