Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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The older people get, the lonelier they become! The older you get, the more you miss your childhood!
When I was a child, my parents were healthy, my brothers and sisters scolded and did not remember the deep love of revenge, and the warmth of the family and the beauty of the United States, for adults, it was like yesterday, but the memories were fruitless!
In the adult world, people's "memories" are particularly good! In particular, when you overestimate the brotherhood, even a glance at each other is enough to make each other deep for the rest of your life!
When the hand and foot, grace and imbalance collide, it is often because the expectations are too high to play a negative role.
When the brotherhood is overestimated, the internal friction between each other begins!
People always say that in addition to parents, only brothers and sisters are the people who want you to be good! But in fact, between individual siblings, it is precisely because they are a milk compatriot that they can't see you well!
People who have not experienced it will say "poisonous chicken soup, negative energy", and those who have experienced it will surely tearfully say "Indeed..."
In fact, at any time, people should understand that "on their own" can they redeem themselves.
The years between the siblings you say are quiet, and most of them are the consummation of a few beings.
In this real society where profit is forgotten and only profit is sought, family affection is even more fragile.
Some siblings can allow strangers to achieve something, but they are afraid that their hands and feet will cover their own light! Under such circumstances, those who value their hands and siblings will suffer from being "not seen well".
Even, for such a painful experience, even if you take out your heart, no one is willing to believe and say the words "your hands and siblings can still harm you"!
In fact, many people do not know that in this life, people must rely on themselves, do not take their brothers and sisters too seriously! People do not understand until old age:
The internal friction between the hands and siblings starts with taking each other too seriously!
Any kind of relationship between people needs to have a healthy distance.
In particular, the healthy distance between relatives must follow the rule of "far away and near smell", otherwise the ending will be more tragic than any kind of relationship:
1: Don't pin too many hopes on siblings
Do you admit it? Many times, when you and pingshui friends can have honesty and injustice to be yourself, but you must always be reflexively careful in front of your hands and siblings?
The sensitivity between the hands and feet is often beyond your imagination. This is also the main reason why between some siblings, good intentions and unkind people always exist.
All relationships in the world are value-based. But it is because there is a title of "one milk compatriot" between the brothers and sisters, so they are morally kidnapped and said that "there is no intention of mutual affection".
But in fact, the value diagram between the hands and siblings expresses what selfishness and desire are not controlled.
If some people think that such a statement is too negative energy, then we must grasp our own memory, there is a sentence called "poor in the downtown no one asks, rich in the mountains have distant relatives" this sentence!
When you succeed, the person who applauds you is not necessarily a sibling, and when you are in distress, you suffer the most white eyes, probably the siblings!
In the world, except for a very few individual cases, the vast majority of parents are the ones who really do whatever it takes for their children and do not ask for anything in return. As for siblings, selfishness and self-interested greed have been exposed before they reach adulthood, or even before they reach adulthood.
In particular, after siblings have their own families, the reality that "people do not perish for their own sake" is the main reason why they do not want to be dragged down or want to win glory with their strength.
If you don't recognize this reality, then you must be disappointed one day because your opponent has placed too many expectations on him.
When you do it, you have the right to speak and any decision-making power, and when you can't, the siblings are the first people to give you a closed door!
2: The hands and siblings have lost their sense of boundaries, and frequent contradictions are inevitable
I have seen a hand on a platform that once loved each other, because after a certain hand made money, there were differences and contradictions between each other because of the interests under "mutual help and mutual assistance".
In the end, each of them slandered each other, which became a scandal known to countless people, but they were still looking for public comment in their own world!
In the adult world, the more siblings must understand the principles of "non-cooperation" and "non-co-wealth".
The distance between hands and feet has never been as close as you think. Occasionally, it is full of joy, and going too close is doomed to be a disaster that is related to the rest of life.
Between the siblings, I am most afraid to use a reasonable psychology to restrain the other party, or use me to be good to force the other party to be grateful to themselves!
There is no such thing as what is really right, only the epiphany of a person at a certain moment. In the world, all the benefits that are good for you should be really felt by the parties are really "good for you".
Standing in your own point of view to "consider" the other party's hands and feet, after all, one day will tear the skin!
After each has another half, the dispute will also become more and more strife because the hands and feet are too close. If you get closer, you can meet at any time, but don't involve borrowing money or mixing with each other's family affairs, otherwise it is inevitable that you will be strangers.
Between siblings, do not have a sense of boundaries and distance because you are a milk compatriot, and do not let the benefits and losses exist too much between each other, rather than not treating yourself as an outsider.
Just as the so-called "family ugliness cannot be publicized", the discord between the hands and siblings need not be said much, and it has become a secret that cannot be hidden. Although some people are as unrelated as you, people today are willing to cover their ears and watch other people's jokes and spread other people's tongues.
In order not to make yourself a joke after dinner for others, try to handle the relationship between hands and siblings properly, and don't make the world known while attrition.
Between brothers and sisters, if you want to get along well and harmoniously, you must abandon the entanglement of interests, but also maintain a reasonable distance and do not look at the problem from your own point of view.
When your "good for your best" gets the other person's denial, don't get angry, because the siblings have their own lives and have the right to take the helm of their own lives. Maybe you're right, but in the eyes of the siblings, that's not what they want.
Therefore, some suggestions are made to the point, and some behaviors are as restrained as possible. And don't expect too much from your opponents.
People live a lifetime, always a person alone, and siblings are just passers-by in a lifetime.
Between siblings, there are contradictions and differences between each other, do not be too real, do not let go, if you want to be able to get along with each other comfortably, you must keep a distance from each other, generous and tolerant!
Otherwise, once the brothers and sisters look at each other, when they want to ease up, they must have the regret of not having the courage to take the initiative in their later years, and each of them will have the regret of missing!
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