In the past two years, the epidemic in the "global village" has affected the whole world, and the Chinese people are not spared.
The epidemic has affected all walks of life and added a lot of sorrow and troubles to the lives of many people.
Especially men in their 40s, there are old and young, shouldering family responsibilities on their shoulders, and the business is not good;
Confused, frustrated, and embarrassed, in an embarrassing situation where he wants to die but does not dare to die.
Do men in their 40s still have the fighting spirit when they are in trouble? Is there any hope of a counterattack?
Can men in their 40s still start a business again and create brilliant results in the face of adversity?
Chu Han legend Liu Bang
We may be able to find the answer to the life experience of Liu Bang, who was the founding emperor of the Han Dynasty by a middle-aged frustrated man.
In the Qin Dynasty era, when the average life expectancy was only 49 years:
35 years old is definitely an overage man, and at this time Liu Bang has not yet married a daughter-in-law, idle, lack of a skill to settle down (at the age of 36, he found a job with the help of his father - the little Surabaya pavilion chief).
48 years old is already the age of being a grandfather, full of children and grandchildren, and about to die, but at this time, Liu Bang wants to lead a group of brothers to "start a business".
In the end, at the age of 56, Gu Rare was honored with the throne of the founding emperor of the Han Dynasty.
Looking back at Liu Bang's life experience, in the eyes of future generations:
For most of his life (before the age of 48), he was chaotic, idle, ambitious, but achieved nothing.
In the second half of his life (after the age of 48), he has clear goals, is kind to others, strives to be strong, and eventually becomes a hegemon.
The place where Liu Bang and the "dog meat friend" mixed in the society was called Pei County, a fourth-tier small city of Xuzhou Pei County, and his hometown was Pei County Fengyi Zhongyangli, where there were his parents and brothers and sisters-in-law.
Seeing his brothers marrying wives and children one by one, working as farmers and supporting their families, and living a prosperous life, Liu Bang's father, Mrs. Liu, was so worried that he entrusted people everywhere to give him the post of joint defense captain of a remote township, the so-called "pavilion chief."
The upstream people in the county town did not look up to him, the brothers and sisters-in-law of the family often gave him a face, and people achieved nothing in middle age, and Liu Bang's life fell to the bottom.
Countless nights of silence, Liu Bang looked back on the past and achieved nothing, thinking about the future of confusion, and his heart was desolate!
When depressed, find good buddies Fan Duo, Lu Xuan and other people to drink wine and eat meat, three bare sticks, a pot of old wine, a piece of meat, talk about ideals, look at the future, drunk and troubled, a day is a day.
When irritable, talk to the widow to relieve the boredom, and let the unclear and unsightly love nourish the soul.
Then, through the cynical and uncaring appearance, Liu Bang's heart was also fiercely struggling:
"Is it necessary to go from this society to the tide and go with the flow for this whole life?" Or do you want to overcome the mid-life crisis and carry out a difficult and long breakthrough in life? ”。
When Qin Shi Huang traveled to Xuzhou, the little man Liu Bang saw a tide of people and horses, and the flag covered the sun, and said a sentence from the heart:
"Whoops, the big husband should be like this!" Ah, this, that's what I want.
Whether it's lofty or unrealistic, I just want to be myself.
Finally, Liu Bang began to save himself in the frustrated age and the embarrassing midlife crisis.
1. Do a good job and enhance your personal image
The job of "pavilion chief", low salary, easy to offend people, and failure to complete the task of the superior, light into the cell, heavy to lose his head, is definitely a hard job that does not work very well, Liu Bang's counterattack road began with the Surabaya pavilion chief.
Liu Bang led his good friends Fan Duo, Lu Xie, Zhou Bo, Dou Bao and others to compete with a group of people in Dongshuiting Yongchi for the "right to use irrigation canals" in the east of the village, and finally outwitted Yongchi and solved the problem of farmland water for the people of Surabaya Pavilion, and the local villagers began to "look at Liu Bang differently".
Subsequently, Liu Bang did an excellent job in completing the tax collection work issued by the county government in the work of Surabaya Pavilion, and was recognized by Xiao He, Cao San, and others, and slowly the relationship between Liu Bang and Xiao He and Cao Gan became closer and closer.
Through the "Position of Pavilion Chief":
The locals also slowly discovered Liu Bang's advantages: enthusiastic help, morality, heavy feelings, and ability to do things for the people.
Xiao He and Cao San, who were in the county government, also recognized Liu Bang's ability, and the relationship became more and more iron.
Through this "platform," Liu Bang also integrated his younger brother Lu Xie, the dog-killing peddler Fan Duo, his good friend Xiahou Bao, the advocate Zhou Bo who gave people red and white happy events, and cao shan and Xiao He, the direct superiors of the county government, from the leaders of the official government to the three religions and nine streams, all of which were integrated into his circle.
2. Marry a daughter-in-law and have children, and start a family to live a life
Liu Bang's father, Liu Taigong, reprimanded him more than once to start a family, get married and have children as soon as possible, you see a few brothers, wives and children hot kangtou, how good.
Shi Zai, "The First Lords often regard their subjects as rogues and cannot govern the industry, so they are not as good as Zhongli"
Then, Liu Bang just took his father's supervision as the wind in his ears, evaluated that it was someone else's, life was his own, and why did he live in the eyes of others.
For the major choices of life, we must not retreat to the second place.
Until Lu Taigong, who moved from another county with a wealthy family, and his daughter Lü Yan was beautiful, intelligent, and properly White Fumei, Liu Bang was moved in an instant, in line with all the imagination of his wife's standards, she was there!
Lü Taigong was a happy event, everyone had to seal the gift to enter the table, give 1,000 yuan to enter the seat, but Liu Bang ran empty-handed and shouted, his gift is, ten thousand dollars!
What about money? Liu Bang said that sooner or later there would be.
Lü Taigong, who had rich experience and had seen the world, felt that Liu Bang would definitely have a career in the future, although At this time Liu Bang was 35 years old, he gave him his daughter Lü Yanxu, who was not yet 20 years old.
Men with great ambitions are the most attractive, and the charm emitted by 35-year-old middle-aged man Liu Bang has also conquered the 20-year-old "white rich beauty", and Lu Yan also believes that his husband will be able to do a big career in the future.
After marriage, she washed clothes, she cooked, she took care of her father-in-law and in-laws, and she worked hard and complained;
She bore children for Liu Bang and set up a home for Liu Bang that could shelter from the wind and rain and ask for warmth.
Home is a haven, home is a warm harbor, with a home Liu Bang can be regarded as a real man, do the cause more invested and harder.
Behind a successful man there must be a woman who works hard and complains, and behind Liu Bang is Lü Yan's silent payment, but at this time, Liu Bang has not yet identified which road to success is it?!
3. "Forced to be helpless" to rebel and show great ambitions
Liu Bang escorted 300 apprentices to Pei County as the chief of the pavilion to repair the imperial tomb in Lishan.
Go to Lishan to repair the imperial tomb? The local people heard about the change of color, many people went to Lishan to repair the imperial mausoleum and were either exhausted or killed, most of them had no return, and the fierceness was more auspicious.
Where the duty lies, the imperial order is difficult to violate! Liu Bang knelt down to bid farewell to his father and tearfully bid farewell to his wife and children.
On the way to Lishan, many of the 300 apprentices escaped halfway.
Liu Bang estimated that when he arrived at Lishan Mountain, he would all flee, and when he walked to Xi daze Township in Feng County, he stopped to drink and dispel his sorrows, thinking that according to the laws of Great Qin: the number of people is not enough, and the leader should be beheaded, and going to Lishan is to send him to death. So he took advantage of the night to release all the servants.
Liu Bang said, "You all run for your lives, and from now on I will flee for my life too!" "There are more than 100 brave men in the apprenticeship who are willing to follow him.
Liu Bang took the wine, at night to cut a path through the swamp, there was a big snake in front of the road, the people were afraid to move forward, Liu Bang was drunk, said: "The big husband walks, what is terrible!" So he rushed to the front and drew his sword to behead the great snake.
The big snake was cut in two, the road opened, and continued to walk for a few miles, followed by a group of people passing by the place where the snake was cut,
An old woman was seen crying in the darkness of the night. Someone asked her why she was crying, and the old woman said, "Someone killed my child, and I was crying about him." Someone asked, "Why was your child killed?" The old woman said, "My child is the son of the White Emperor, who has changed into a snake, blocked in the middle of the road, and is now killed by the son of the Red Emperor. "The people thought the old woman was lying and was about to beat her, but the old woman suddenly disappeared. The people behind caught up with Liu Bang and told Liu Bang what had just happened, and Liu Bang was secretly happy in his heart and even more conceited. Those who followed him also gradually became afraid of him.
Peixian County Ling learned that Liu Bang and others had let the apprentices go, so they sent people to arrest and kill, Liu Bang led the crowd back to Pei County, 48-year-old Liu Bang and the official "acquaintances" Xiao He, Cao San, Xiahou Nian and others killed Pei County Ling, smashed the county lingfu, and announced to the outside world that "I Liu Bang rebelled"!
They had to choose a leader to come out, And Xiao He, Cao Shan, and others who had been in the official arena for many years did not go to be the leader, so why was it bad to be a county commander of Pei County and be a Duke of Pei? Why didn't Xiao He, Cao Shan, and others, who were born as officials, compete? Because at that time, their actions were rebellion, and the leader of the rebellion was to be exterminated by the Nine Tribes.
Xiao He and Cao Zan pushed Liu Bang out to lead everyone, Liu Bang thought to himself that he had no way to retreat, anyway, they were all dead, and they were all 48, and they felt that there were no more years to live, it was better to do a big job.
Therefore, Liu Bang no longer resigned, and sat in the position of Pei County Order, and everyone respected him as "Pei Gong".
Since then, Liu Bang has led a group of like-minded people on the road to overthrow the Qin Dynasty, suppress hostile forces, and establish his own Han Dynasty.
Liu Bang identified the road to success, although the road was uncertain, difficult, and full of thorns.
It took 8 years to eradicate the violent Qin, defeat Xiang Yu, who was competing with him, establish the Han Dynasty, and become the founding emperor.
Before the age of 35, he was idle, at the age of 48 he led a group of brothers to start a rebellion, and at the age of 56, he established the Great Han Dynasty and achieved imperial hegemony.
Life is like a string of wavy lines, there are peaks and valleys, there are lucky and bland, most of us today have a house and a car, a home and a room, the starting conditions are much stronger than Liu Bang, the only difference is our mentality and ambition.
The answer is yes!
Finally, Liu Bang's "Great Phoenix Song" was given to those who struggled for their ideals.
The winds are blowing and the clouds are flying,
Wei Jia Hai Nei returned to his hometown,
Anderson is on all sides!