In 2019, a photo of Dou Wei sitting on the subway exploded on the Internet, and netizens were surprised that a rock star who had once been in the music scene would live so poorly after divorcing Faye Wong.
In an uproar, Dou Jingtong released a photo of herself sitting on the subway, her hair disheveled, her eyebrows smiling, and firmly standing for her father.
The public praised Dou Jingtong's high emotional intelligence, silently supported his father with actions, and was very sensible.
In the eyes of the outside world, Dou Jingtong is a shining star second generation, his mother Faye Wong is the leading musician in the music industry, and his father Dou Wei is a well-known rock singer.
But who knows, the divorce of parents and the breakdown of the family are the eternal pain in Dou Jingtong's heart.
Living in a divorced family, raised by his aunt and grandmother, what sufferings did the left-behind child Dou Jingtong experience?
1.
In 1988, when Faye Wong and Dou Wei met for the first time, they were out of control.
At that time, Faye Wong was the lead singer of the Black Panther Band, and she was popular all over the country. And Dou Wei has just debuted, uninhibited and talented.
Although both had boyfriend and girlfriend at the time, they fell in love with each other desperately, which was an outrageous act in the eyes of the world.
So Dou Wei gave up the development of a good music career for Faye Wong.
Faye Wong also moved into a small courtyard in Beijing for Dou Wei, covering her nose to go to the toilet every day, and getting up early to pour a night pot for Dou Wei.
In 1996, Faye Wong and Dou Wei entered into marriage hand in hand.
In 1997, the two common daughters were born, Wang Fei named her daughter Dou Jingtong, "Dou" was taken from Dou Wei's surname, "Jing" was taken from Wang Fei's real name Wang Jingwen, and "Tong" was the affectionate name for her daughter.
The intention to name the daughter shows the love between the couple, not only that, the two also co-created a song "Tong" for their daughter, sung by mom Faye Wong and arranged by dad Dou Wei.
At the beginning of the song, Dou Jing childishly shouts to his parents and mothers, and the lyrics "You are the arrangement of heaven" are more straightforward expressions of deep love for his daughter.
If time stands still at this moment, it is undoubtedly very beautiful for Dou Jingtong, and both parents are very precious to her.
It's just that the good times are not long, and the prodigal son Dou Wei will not accept his heart because he has a family.
After giving birth to Dou Jingtong, Faye Wong has been confinement in Hong Kong, while Dou Wei has remained in Beijing, and just when the two have been separated for a long time, a woman named Gao Yuan intervenes in their marriage.
Once, Faye Wong happily took Dou Jingtong, who was less than one year old, home, but caught up with Dou Wei and Gao Yuan who were doing bed exercises.
In the face of the "battlefield" that was too late to clean up in front of her, Faye Wong did not hesitate too much and turned her head to leave.
Soon after the incident, Faye Wong resolutely proposed a divorce, and her daughter Dou Jingtong was raised by her, and since then Dou Wei has been out of the house.
2.
When Dou Jingtong was still young, the divorce between Faye Wong and Dou Wei was actually not pleasant.
Dou Wei once publicly exposed his ex-wife's shortness in the media, saying that Faye Wong did not care about her family, either performing or playing mahjong outside.
Faye Wong felt that Dou Wei was unfaithful to the marriage and had always had resentment in her heart, so she was reluctant to let him see her daughter for a while.
The once loving parents turned into enemies who accused each other, and this scene of farce was witnessed by the little Dou Jingtong, and his heart was greatly impacted.
After the divorce, Faye Wong's career became more and more prosperous, and she was named "the queen of music" by the public.
Her mother was busy making music, and Dou Jingtong could only be fostered at her grandmother's house, brought up by her aunt and grandmother.
Many people believe that Dou Jingtong's musical talent is influenced by the singer's parents, but it is actually cultivated by his aunt herself.
Dou Jingtong's aunt Dou Ying is also a talented musician, who often takes Dou Jingtong to participate in some music festivals, which subtly inspires Dou Jingtong's musical talent from an early age.
Years later, Dou Jingtong also expressed his gratitude to his aunt on a show:
"When I was a child, my aunt took me to watch movies and listen to music, which had a great impact on my career later."
In the family, Dou Jingtong had the closest relationship with his grandmother.
Although Dou Wei remarried and gave birth to a daughter, grandma always liked Dou Jingtong's granddaughter, and even reprimanded her son Dou Wei for Dou Jingtong: "Tong Tong is so young, why can't she give her a complete home?" ”
Thanks to the protection and companionship of grandma, Dou Jingtong of a single-parent family felt warm affection.
As an adult, Dou Jingtong also did not forget to honor her grandmother, she often took her grandmother shopping and eating, and more than once said in front of the camera that her favorite food was the fried sauce noodles made by her grandmother.
Once, Dou Jingtong won an award at the Beijing International Film Festival, and when he delivered his acceptance speech on stage, Dou Jingtong choked up and said that the first person he wanted to thank was his grandmother.
After the awards party, Dou Jingtong immediately posted a photo with his grandmother on the social platform, and the two people in the photo laughed happily.
Dou Jingtong happily did not live up to his grandmother's expectations, and his grandmother was happy and proud of Dou Jingtong's achievements.
3.
In 2009, Faye Wong remarried, and 12-year-old Dou Jingtong had a new father, Li Yapeng.
Li Yapeng was a broad-minded man who regarded Dou Jingtong, who was not his own child, as if he were his own.
The 14-year-old Dou Jingtong was very tired of school and dropped out of school twice, which made his new father Li Yapeng very headache.
In order to let Dou Jingtong receive the best education, Li Yapeng went everywhere to ask for people, and even waited at the school gate for three days, and only after much effort was he reluctantly transferred Dou Jingtong to the best public middle school in Beijing.
However, Dou Jingtong could not adapt to the learning environment of the new school, and the best result in the test was to reach the passing line.
Dou Jingtong, who was in adolescence, was the time of rebellion, so after only a year in a public middle school, she dropped out of school on her own initiative.
Dou Jingtong, who gave up the college entrance examination, had another idea, she chose an internationally renowned music school, and embarked on the road to study abroad alone.
Although the university is one of the best in the United States, the address is located in a very remote town. There are only two restaurants in the town,
It snows all year round, and in winter there is only half an hour of daylight a day.
In such a closed and lonely environment, Dou Jingtong devoted all his time to music creation and wrote the first song in his life, "with you".
At this time, Dou Jingtong had just turned 15 years old, still had long gentle hair, and looked very girly.
Dou Jingtong's songs were generally welcomed by listeners, but her appearance at this time was very controversial.
Her mother, Faye Wong, is a cold and beautiful beauty, and her father Dou Wei also fascinated thousands of young girls when he was young, which made many people expect too much from Dou Jingtong's appearance.
When Dou Jingtong performed on stage, the audience under the stage mocked her for being "earthy", "fat" and "fat", which made Dou Jingtong, who was not confident in the first place, even more inferior.
But Dou Jingtong can't scold back, if she does, it is to smear the face of the star's parents.
Perhaps many people envy that the second generation of stars under the magnesium lamp was born to win at the starting line, but for Dou Jingtong, who has not taken the usual path since childhood, the aura of her parents is an advantage and a burden, and she urgently needs to break.
4.
In order to get out of his own musical path, teenage Dou Jingtong broke with the past, from appearance to musical style, he made a change.
For a long time, Dou Jingtong showed the outside world as a brash and unruly thorn head.
Tattoos, lip nails, smoking, hair dyeing, and even shaving into inches, coupled with the mystery of sexual orientation, Dou Jingtong basically did what the world thought was out of the ordinary, and became a bad child in the eyes of Chinese parents.
But in his heart, Dou Jingtong had actually reached a reconciliation with himself long ago.
As a generation of divas, Faye Wong did not force Dou Jingtong to inherit her music career, her only wish was to hope that her daughter would be safe and happy.
In the music variety show "City of Illusion", Faye Wong was very satisfied with Dou Jingtong's performance and gave two thumbs up to encourage her daughter.
The support of his mother made Dou Jingtong's confidence increase greatly, and he could calmly face the various eyes of the outside world.
In front of the camera, a reporter once asked Dou Jingtong: "Why do you want to get so many tattoos on your body?" ”
Dou Jingtong smiled and replied, "I just like it." ”
After speaking, Dou Jingtong also stretched out her palm and showed everyone a seal tattoo in the palm of her hand.
This tattoo is that Dou Jingtong once saw a Chinese painting and thought that the seal on it was beautiful.
More reporters were not inferior, asking Dou Jingtong, "Your songs are imitating your parents, right?" ”
Dou Jingtong would also answer frankly, "I was born to my parents, and there will definitely be a similar part of my voice." ”
The media once questioned Dou Jingtong with a skeptical eye for relying on the influence of his parents to achieve these achievements.
In this regard, Dou Jingtong politely said in front of the camera that choosing to make music is his choice, and his parents have never interfered too much.
In fact, dou Jingtong's every seemingly rebellious move was done after seeking the consent of his parents.
In response to Dou Jingtong's choice, her mother Faye Wong is a sentence, "You can think clearly yourself." ”
Dou Jingtong understands the weight of this sentence, she is an adult, she is responsible for her own decisions, and she has always held a very serious attitude towards her beloved music career.
On a music program, Dou Jingtong happily shared her creative methods, saying that she would develop a habit of recording this feeling through melody when she saw something touched.
In fact, the communication between Dou Jingtong and his parents is more about music, and Faye Wong has always let Dou Jingtong develop his interest freely and never gives too many opinions.
Dou Jingtong also rediscovered her musical direction, her songs are not as ethereal as Faye Wong, nor rock like Dou's only rock, she is just doing herself.
Asked about his future dreams, Dou Jingtong replied shyly, "To make music, as long as you are making music." ”
5.
His career gradually got on the right track, and Dou Jingtong gradually adapted to the life of his new family.
In 2006, Li Yan, the daughter of Faye Wong and Li Yapeng, was born.
Li Yan's mouth is disabled, and her natural rabbit lips have allowed her to undergo countless surgeries since she was a child.
Because Li Yan was weak, Faye Wong and Li Yapeng had to spend more energy on taking care of their sister. Dou Jingtong not only did not eat jealousy, but comforted his family while accompanying his sister to treatment.
During this period, the sensible Dou Jingtong bravely took on the responsibility of a big sister, which made her mother Faye Wong very pleased.
The family worked together to overcome the difficulties, so that Dou Jingtong felt a bland happiness, but the sky did not go according to people's wishes, and then she encountered a family change.
After marriage, Li Yapeng indulged in speculation, took the family's money to do business, and finally lost a lot, and had to rely on Faye Wong to wipe her ass.
In the later stages of development, Li Yapeng became more and more excessive, and even used Faye Wong's star effect to support himself to bring goods.
Faye Wong finally couldn't stand Li Yapeng's crazy behavior, and in 2013, the marriage once again came to the end of divorce.
The young Dou Jingtong may not understand the emotional contradictions between adults, but now Dou Jingtong has grown up, just like Faye Wong originally supported her, and she also respects her mother's every choice.
The outside world has always been very controversial about Faye Wong, thinking that she is too casual and not a qualified mother.
From a traditional point of view, to be a mother is to give everything for the child, even if the husband and wife are not in harmony, but also for the sake of the child to live.
But Faye Wong has always been unusual, when she successfully debuted under her real name "Wang Jingwen", she could also decisively give up the existing celebrity effect and change her name to Faye Wong to start over.
For her mother's determination to make a decision, Dou Jingtong has always been very appreciative, and she hopes that her mother can find her own happiness.
Therefore, in the midst of public opinion, Dou Jingtong comforted his mother, "The pain is real, but life will continue, and I will always love you." ”
Hearing her daughter's heartfelt words, Faye Wong felt very warm, and often praised in front of the media many times, "Tong Tong is a meek and sensible daughter. ”
6.
In 2014, Faye Wong and Nicholas Tse came back together, once again triggering a clamor of public opinion, and Dou Jingtong was forced to push to the cusp of the storm.
The media aimed the microphone at the underage little girl, hoping to pry out the exclusive revelations from her mouth.
He was asked, "Dou Wei, Li Yapeng, and Nicholas Tse, which father is the best?" ”
Dou Jingtong was a little overwhelmed, she knew that the reporter had dug a pit waiting for her to jump, and if she didn't answer well, she would mix up the feelings of her parents' generation more and more.
Dou Jingtong thought about it and gave a sincere answer, "I don't know how to say it, they are all very good." ”
The media can't embarrass a little girl, so they have to give up.
There are also radical people who go to Dou Jingtong's social platform to leave a message, mocking Dou Jingtong for having another father.
Dou Jingtong silently sent a photo of her mother, in which she proudly pointed to The photo of Faye Wong and loudly announced, "This is my mother."
Without the blood of the mother and daughter, without the media's desire to break the news, Dou Jingtong supported Faye Wong with actions, showing a daughter's understanding and respect for her mother, and also let the public change their views on this peach-colored incident.
In this regard, Zhou Xun's good friend and actor Huang Jue once spoke highly of Dou Jingtong, saying that Dou Jingtong is a child with a high IQ and emotional intelligence, which is very rare.
Externally, Dou Jingtong has saved the face of the family with his own strength, and internally, Dou Jingtong's attitude towards the music industry is also very serious.
In 2016, in order to make music more freely, Dou Jingtong simply set up her own production company, and since then her music path has been out of control.
In 2022, it is the 25-year-old flower season age, Dou Jingtong became the first Chinese guest of the top international band in one fell swoop, and she worked hard to gain more and more people's recognition, not only did the album win the award, but also the attractive performance on the stage made fans call her husband directly.
Even in the song comment area of Tianhou Faye Wong, someone left a message saying "Come and listen to the song of her husband and mother", and once Faye Wong jokingly shouted to Dou Jingtong, "Big sister begs for a belt".
But even after such impressive achievements, Dou Jingtong still remained modest in front of the camera and gained the favor of a large number of netizens.
It is a good phenomenon for children to understand things, but understanding is bought by countless late nights of crying.
Dou Jingtong once sent a photo of himself crying, with the caption "Who really cares about me?" ”
In Dou Jingtong's heart, the emotional problems of her parents' generation deeply affected her, and the childhood experience of divorced left-behind children made her even more insecure.
Coupled with the aura of the second generation of the stars, she has been living under the magnesium lamp and lives more carefully, for fear of saying the wrong word and affecting the family.
Parents can't shield their children from the wind and rain, and children must grow into a big tree on their own.
Dou Jingtong, a child who bravely broke into the song world with his creation, made people admire at the same time, but also made people feel painful.