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The bar sings for a living
The bar was dimly lit and smoky. In the center of the stage, a man in his 50s is holding a guitar and singing old rock songs in a dumb voice. His face was haggard, his eyes were dull, and his clothes were shabby.
Judging from his image and the environment in which he sings, it is difficult to imagine that this is Dou Wei, the once popular and highly respected "God of Rock and Roll" in Asia.
Dou Wei was taken aback by this rude words, and his hand holding the guitar couldn't help but exert himself slightly. He originally planned to reply, but after thinking about it, his daughter Dou Jiayan has been longing for a new children's bicycle as a birthday present, and his current income is too meagre.
So, Dou Wei chose forbearance. He suppressed his emotions and nodded at the drunken man. Then, he picked up the beer glass on the table and drank the beer from the glass.
In this way, he drank 8 bottles of beer in a row, his cheeks were red, and his breathing became heavy.
Sure enough, the drunk man threw down the $8,000 bill and swaggered out of the bar. Dou Wei picked up the banknote with a relieved smile on his face. With this windfall income, he was able to buy his daughter her beloved gifts.
This is the portrayal of the life of the "rock singer" who used to be infinitely beautiful. From the peak to the bottom, he experienced a series of heavy blows such as career troughs, marital failure, and deprivation of custody.
But what hurt him the most was the experience of life and death with his two lovely daughters.
Over the years, whenever he saw other parents and children going out to play, Dou Wei would always feel a sour feeling in his heart. He had climbed over the wall countless times just to get a glimpse of his daughters from afar.
Nowadays, there is no other way to make a living than to sing in bars. Although his income is meager, he still survives every day silently, and his only hope is to be reunited with his daughters.
Youthful years
Born in an ordinary and warm family, Dou Wei has shown extraordinary musical talent since he was a child. His father was an orchestral performer and his mother was a machine tool worker.
probably inherited his father's artistic cells, and at the age of 6, Dou Wei was called a "musical prodigy".
On the stage of the kindergarten that year, a little boy who was not tall enough was holding a flute that was longer than his size. When he played the first note, the audience fell silent, and everyone was impressed by his heavenly music.
Xiao Dou Wei's eyes were firm and focused, his little hands flew on the flute, and every note hit the audience's heartstrings steadily. After the performance, the audience burst into thunderous applause and cheers.
"This kid is a natural artist! He will definitely be a great musician in the future!" Someone said with heartfelt admiration.
Since then, Dou Wei has been obsessed with music. Whether it's a guitar, piano or other instrument, he can play a heart-stringing melody with mastery when he touches it.
Unfortunately, this love was not supported by his family.
When he was 12 years old, Dou Wei's parents divorced because of a broken relationship. This bad news was undoubtedly a blow to the head, shattering his innocent childhood dream. Since then, he has lived with his mother and sister, and his personality has gradually become taciturn, withdrawn and introverted.
After graduating from junior high school, in order to give her son a formal life path, his mother sent Dou Wei to a vocational and technical school and let him study psychiatric nursing. Although Dou Wei did not resist, his desire for music in his heart never stopped.
During his studies, various colorful cultural and artistic activities in the school ignited his enthusiasm like a holy fire. Whether it's a guitar, piano or other instrument, as soon as it sounds, he can't help but be drawn to it.
Eventually, under the careful guidance of several senior instrumental teachers, Dou Wei devoted himself to systematic music learning.
However, the good times were short-lived. With the increasing expansion of his music dream, Dou Wei even secretly had the idea of dropping out. Although he was still unknown at that time and only tested the waters in a small circle, his persistence and love made him make a decision - to quietly go through the withdrawal procedures without telling his family and pursue his music dream wholeheartedly.
In 1985, at the age of 18, Dou Wei joined the highly regarded "Beijing Hot Blood Youth Music Troupe". Although he was paid a small amount, he gave most of his income to his mother, hoping to improve his family's living conditions.
Whenever he saw his mother's heartfelt relief and pride, his determination to stick to the path of music became even stronger.
Since then, Dou Wei has embarked on the road of no return to chase his musical dream. He sometimes sings in the streets and alleys, sometimes serves as a foil for stars, and lives a life of displacement.
Although his income is small, Dou Wei's enthusiasm for music has never diminished in the slightest.
Life is at a low point
1988 was a major turning point in Dou Wei's life. At that time, Ding Wu, the lead singer of the Black Panther Band, left suddenly, and Dou Wei seized this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to become the lead singer of a new generation of bands in one fell swoop with his outstanding songwriting ability and singing strength.
Under the leadership of Dou Wei, the Black Panther quickly became popular all over Asia. He personally wrote the lyrics, and the masterpiece "No Land for Self-Respect" created in collaboration with Li Tong has become a classic of the entire era and is widely sung.
At that time, the Black Panthers could be heard everywhere in the streets. The whole of Asia has fallen into a "black panther fever".
However, this glory did not last long. In 1991, Dou Wei announced that he would leave Black Panther and form his own "Dream Band". After leaving the parent team, he married the popular singer Faye Wong, and the two were hailed as "a match made in heaven in the music industry".
For a time, they became the most high-profile golden boy and girl group in the music world after Xu Guanjie and Alan Tam.
Who would have expected that this pair, which is regarded as an eternal "Weifei combination", lasted less than two years, and ended in a divorce in August 1999. In the divorce agreement, Dou Wei was deprived of the right to visit his daughter Dou Jingtong for 8 consecutive years, and every time he wanted to see her, he was sternly rejected by his ex-wife, which hit him hard and deepened his inner confusion and hesitation.
lost Faye Wong's support and no one around him, Dou Wei's music career plummeted. No one cares about him, no one pays attention to his new creations, and even if he is invited to a small show, the remuneration is often insignificant.
In order to make a living, Dou Wei had to step down from the altar and start an ordinary bar singer on the stage that once made him beautiful. Every night, he would sing all those old stories in the foggy bar lights, just to earn a meager salary to maintain food and clothing.
Such an end is a heavy blow to him, who was praised as the "God of Rock and Roll" in the past. The glorious years are long gone, replaced by the darkest trough of life.
Seeing that his wife was separated and his future was bleak, Dou Wei's heart fell into hesitation and despair for a while.
Marriage and love experience
When mentioning Dou Wei, we have to mention his tortuous and bizarre marriage history. The erstwhile "god of rock and roll" has experienced three marriages in his life, each accompanied by emotional entanglements and the shadow of divorce.
Initially, Dou Wei got together with the well-known diva Faye Wong. Everything goes back to 1990, when Faye Wong was just an unknown rookie singer, and Dou Wei had just joined the Black Panther Band, and he was in the limelight for a while.
The two fell in love at first sight, and Dou Wei, who was gearing up, even parted ways with his first girlfriend Jiang Xin for the sake of Faye Wong.
Faye Wong is also in love with Dou Wei, she is so enthusiastic that she completely ignores her relationship with her boyfriend Luan Shu at the time, and desperately pursues this charismatic rock singer.
In the face of Faye Wong's straightforward courtship, the last line of defense in Dou Wei's heart was unable to resist.
In this way, a pair of golden boys and girls who are called "a match made in heaven" by the outside world fell in love. In 1991, Dou Wei announced that he would leave the Black Panther Band and achieve positive results with Faye Wong.
After many years of love, they tied the knot in 1996, and the following year ushered in the crystallization of love - the birth of their daughter Dou Jingtong.
For a time, they were hailed as the most shining pair in the music scene. However, this marriage, which was envied by countless people, only lasted for two years. It is rumored that Dou Wei had a secret love affair with the well-known female photographer Gao Yuan, which made Faye Wong heartbroken.
No matter what the truth is, the two divorced by agreement in 1999, and the custody of their daughter Dou Jingtong was also awarded to Faye Wong, and Dou Wei has not heard from her daughter for 8 years since then.
Soon after the divorce, Dou Wei and Gao Yuan really achieved a positive result, and the two registered their marriage in 2002. Gao Yuan soon gave birth to Dou Wei's second daughter, Dou Jiayan.
It's a pity that the good times didn't last long. In 2004, Gao Yuan resolutely asked to separate from Dou Wei on the grounds of "marital cheating", and asked for a huge amount of alimony of up to 1.08 million yuan per month.
Once upon a time, Dou Wei was the "king of rock and roll" with infinite scenery. However, now that he has no one willing to cooperate with even a brokerage company.
In order to pay the high alimony, he had to auction off the only remaining old courtyard house in his hand, and the whole family could only live in the small house of his father on the plateau.
This is undoubtedly a heavy blow to Dou Wei, a former superstar. The glory and wealth of the past are now in vain, replaced by the unbearable weight of life.
In order to support his family, he had to take to the streets and earn a small salary by singing in bars.
Whenever night fell, Dou Wei would pick up the guitar and sing those old songs with a dumb voice. Middle-aged men and women in the audience forget their family troubles, or lonely office workers relieve their desolation.
And few of them seem to recognize that this haggard middle-aged man was once the highly worshiped "rock god" Dou Wei.
Although the two lovely daughters live nearby, whenever Dou Wei wants to visit, his ex-wives always refuse to say anything. As a frustrated father, this regret and sorrow are indescribable.
The daughters also have too much confusion about this decadent father, and see him as distant as a stranger. Dou Wei had to sing for those strangers in the bar under the pressure of life, just to earn food and clothing.
A turning point to get her daughter's pampering
Life is so treacherous, when Dou Wei's life fell into the darkest trough, a turnaround was also in sight.
It all started in 2007. That year, Dou Wei's eldest daughter Dou Jingtong was 8 years old, and she was at an age when she was gradually sensible. Maybe it was because of nature, or maybe it was because he felt his father's hidden sadness in his heart, Dou Jingtong gradually began to miss his biological father, who he had never met in person.
So, she mustered up the courage to tell her mother Faye Wong her inner desire in a pleading tone.
In the face of her daughter's begging, Faye Wong calmed down for a moment and carefully recalled the scenes when they broke up. She realized that maybe she was too extreme and ruthless at the beginning, depriving Dou Wei of her basic rights as a father.
So, Faye Wong nodded and agreed to her daughter's request.
The news of being allowed to visit her daughter again was like a heat wave rushing into Dou Wei's heart. He felt that he had regained hope and courage to survive. For this long-awaited reunion, he did his homework, shaved off the beard that had looked like a savage for many years, and dressed up in the most decent way to show off his new appearance.
Although his hair has thinned and his hairline is slowly moving up, Dou Wei's elegant temperament has not diminished in the slightest. When 8-year-old Dou Jingtong saw his father, although he was a little unfamiliar and resistant at first, he was quickly impressed by his father's affinity, and he was extremely close and trusted.
And after that, no matter how heavy the work and how hard the life is, Dou Wei will spare his energy and leave all the weekends to his two lovely daughters. They either went out to play, or played music at home, and spent countless warm moments.
Whenever he saw Dou Jingtong and Dou Jiayan's heartfelt pride and pride in himself, Dou Wei also felt a little relieved in his heart.
At the end of 2010, in order to give his daughters a home to live in, Dou Wei sold the only remaining courtyard house in his hand in exchange for two two-bedroom apartments. One of them, he gave to his daughter Dou Jingtong; The other set was given to Dou Jiayan.
For the former "rock singer", this is probably the biggest wish in life.
From that moment on, Dou Wei was relieved. Although he is still the unknown bar singer in the eyes of outsiders, he is already satisfied and down-to-earth in his heart.
Only the healthy growth of his two lovely daughters is the biggest expectation of his life.