By chance, I learned that the child who died prematurely 17 years ago was still alive
One day in 2010, nurse Zhang Caihong was giving injections to patients when she heard a man and a woman talking.
"There used to be a nurse in the People's Hospital who was from the bus station and gave birth to a child who thought she was dead but was actually alive."
This seemingly ordinary conversation evoked Zhang Caihong's painful memories, and by the time she reacted and chased them out and wanted to ask what was going on, the two had long since disappeared.
Zhang Caihong told the story of the incident
It turned out that Zhang Caihong was once a nurse in the People's Hospital, and her previous object was also working at the bus station, and she once gave birth to a son in 17 years, but unfortunately died.
Rainbow thought to herself, aren't these two strangers talking about themselves? Is his son still alive? Thinking of this, Zhang Caihong was both surprised and scared, and she didn't know how to talk to her current husband.
Zhang Caihong once had a failed marriage, and now her husband is considerate, her children are well-behaved, and the family lives a peaceful and happy life, and she cherishes her current life. When she got married, she told her husband that she had no children, and now she suddenly had a son, how to explain.
Zhang Caihong was very entangled in his heart, but when he thought of the poor child 17 years ago, he very much wanted to confirm whether he was still alive in this world. After much hesitation, she decided to make it clear to her husband.
Zhang Caihong said the story of the incident with a nervous feeling, but did not expect that her husband not only did not blame and complain, but understood and supported her, telling her not to cry, to find it. After getting her husband's understanding and the support of her family, Zhang Caihong decided to go to find her son.
To find a son, you have to start with the failed marriage 17 years ago.
At that time, Zhang Caihong and her ex-husband Mr. Li were free to love and marry, but they were strongly opposed by Zhang Caihong's family. Ex-husband Mr. Li said that Zhang Caihong was a nurse, and he was just a repairman, and Zhang Caihong's family felt that their daughter had lost money marrying him. After the two got married, because of some family trivia, Zhang Caihong's family and the Li family often quarreled, even after Zhang Caihong became pregnant, this situation did not change.
Half a month before the due date, Zhang Caihong asked the hospital for maternity leave. That day, she had just come out of the barbershop when her ex-father-in-law said to her, "Rainbow, you don't have to go home, the two families are arguing again." ”
Zhang Caihong, who could not go home to give birth, had to come to the home of his cousin Wei Chenghe in Xuzhou alone. Because I have a good relationship with my cousin since I was a child, the relationship with my cousin and cousin is the same as that of my brother and sister-in-law.
Gave birth to a son, but was "prematurely killed" by his cousin and cousin
In July 1993, Zhang Caihong gave birth to a boy in a hospital near her cousin Wei Chenghe's home. As a new mother, Zhang Caihong was extremely excited, but before she could tell her ex-husband the news, her cousin's words were like a blow to her head: "Rainbow, why can't your child's legs straighten?" Wouldn't it be crippled? ”
Rainbow did not doubt her cousin's words, because she did not think that her cousin would lie to her, and thought that she was in the radiology department in the early stages of pregnancy and was illuminated by X-rays.
Zhang Caihong originally wanted to ease the relationship between her mother's family and her in-laws after giving birth to a son, and she and her husband could live a good life in the future. She did not think that the son she had born now was disabled, she did not know what to do for a while, she had to entrust her cousin Wei Chenghe to take her son to the hospital to see a doctor, but she did not expect that this walk was 17 years.
The cousin and cousin returned a few hours after taking the child, and the two had somber faces. Zhang Caihong also thought that the child was seriously ill and hospitalized, so she asked the child about it. The cousin shrugged her head and said, "A cripple, I threw it at you." ”
Zhang Caihong was dumbfounded, how could a living child throw it away, and hurriedly shouted to go out to find it. However, she had just given birth to a child, and her body was too weak, so she had to ask her cousin and cousin to quickly get the child back for her.
After the cousin went out and came back, she told Zhang Caihong a more unfortunate news: the child was frozen to death. Zhang Caihong was like five thunderbolts, she felt very puzzled and suspicious of her cousin's behavior, even angry, but she had nothing to do.
I had no choice but to leave home to join my classmates
The relationship between the in-laws and the mother-in-law's family was not good, and now that the child is gone, she does not know how to explain it to her family. In order not to deepen the contradiction between the two families, Zhang Caihong is that the in-laws cannot return, and the mother's family does not dare to return, thinking about it, she decided to go directly from her cousin's house to a classmate in the northeast.
Dongbei's classmate is the head nurse of a nursing home, and she helped find a ward for Zhang Caihong to live in. The northeast was cold and frozen, and Zhang Caihong did not rest well after giving birth, resulting in cold and severe waist pain.
The child died as soon as she was born, and Zhang Caihong could not accept this blow, so she stayed in the northeast for two years, and in these two years, she did not contact her mother's family or her husband's family. So she didn't know that a year later, her husband, Mr. Li, had published a statement and went to court to sue for divorce.
In the two years in the northeast, Zhang Caihong's classmates and her mother-in-law were very kind to Zhang Caihong and cared for her, but Zhang Caihong still missed her parents and missed her family, so she wrote a letter to her family. The family sent Zhang Caihong's sister to run to the northeast. The sister persuaded Zhang Caihong to return to her hometown, and Zhang Caihong obeyed.
After returning to his hometown, his ex-husband, Mr. Li, sent the divorce verdict to Zhang Caihong, and the two never saw each other again.
Reorganize happy families and lock painful memories into your heart
In September 1997, after being introduced, Zhang Caihong and her husband, who is now a teacher, formed a happy family, and in 1999, Zhang Caihong gave birth to a lovely son. After having a family and children, Zhang Caihong locked all the unpleasant experiences in the past in her heart and never mentioned them again. If it weren't for hearing the news of the two strangers, Zhang Caihong might have lived peacefully and happily ever since.
Struggling to find a loved one
Since the child was lost by her cousin and sister-in-law, Zhang Caihong has never contacted her cousin again. In order to get the news of the child, she contacted her cousin after several twists and turns. But before my cousin could say a few words, he hung up the phone mercilessly. This made Zhang Caihong firmly believe that her son was still alive in the world. Zhang Caihong hit again, but the cousin did not admit that the child was still alive.
The cousin's strenuous denial made Zhang Caihong find his son in a stalemate, and only by a few words from strangers, he could not get accurate information.
Zhang Caihong also wondered if her cousin would secretly hold the child to her ex-husband at that time, so she contacted her ex-husband, Mr. Li, and asked if the child was with him. But Mr. Li felt inexplicable and said that he was angry when he saw Zhang Caihong's family.
Zhang Caihong initially thought that her ex-husband did not want her to see the child and deliberately lied to her. So she went from Pei County to Xuzhou many times to find her ex-husband, and the ex-husband was tossed and annoyed, so she said: "You are stupid, you are the mother of the child, if the child is in me, can I not let you see?" ”
For children, tickets to and from many places
Zhang Caihong pondered carefully and felt that her ex-husband did not look like a lie, so she had to return to Pei County.
After returning to Pei County, Zhang Caihong collected information about her cousin and cousin through various channels. When I heard about my cousin's sister-in-law, someone said that they could not have children and took a boy and a girl to raise, but no one could tell where the children came from. This news made Zhang Caihong believe that her son must still be alive in this world.
In order to confirm whether the children of her cousin's sister-in-law's family are the children she lost 17 years ago, Zhang Caihong specially went to the local police station. When she saw the child's photo in the household registration information, Zhang Caihong thought that this was her son, because the child in the photo was too similar to her ex-husband. The information shows that the head of the household is called Liu Guangyu, and the child's name is Liu Shangshang.
Recognize your loved ones
After seeing her son's photo, Zhang Caihong could no longer wait, she found out that her son was studying in a middle school not far from Pei County, and she rushed to the school, hoping to meet with her son.
After Zhang Caihong saw her son, she told her son the truth, but her son did not believe it. Indeed, when you are 17 years old, a stranger suddenly appears, saying that it is his own mother, and it is normal for him to accept it for a while.
After that, Zhang Caihong told her ex-husband Mr. Li the news. Unexpectedly, Mr. Li did not want to recognize each other, he said excitedly: "This child has no feelings for me, and I cannot raise it, otherwise my partner will definitely divorce me, my family will be broken up again, they have broken up my family badly enough, I am only fourteen or fifteen years old now, I can't divorce again because of this matter, then this child has no father." ”
In order to determine whether Liu Shangshang is his son, Zhang Caihong decided to do a paternity test with his son. The ex-husband had promised to do a paternity test together, but later quit because of the pressure. DNA reports show that the parent-child relationship between Zhang Caihong and Liu Shangshang is 99.99%.
Zhang Caihong, who got the appraisal report, was sad and happy, happy that the mother and son had been separated for 17 years, and now they were finally reunited, and the sad thing was that it was his own cousin and cousin who caused him to be separated from his son for 17 years. Zhang Caihong's mother also had difficulty accepting that her own nephew could abduct her daughter's child.
Prosecuting cousins and cousins
For 17 years, the pain of mother-child separation is difficult for outsiders to understand. In order to let her cousin and cousin get the punishment she deserved, Zhang Caihong came to Xuzhou to report the case. However, not long after the case was reported, the news of the non-filing of the case was received because the prosecution period had already passed.
Zhang Caihong was afraid that the public security organs would not file a case, so she would not help her rescue her son. Separated from her son for 17 years, she has no patience to wait any longer, and she is not willing to give up the prosecution of her cousin, so she runs around and opens a weibo to seek help online. She didn't know when her son would return to her, but during this critical period, the child was gone.
Adoptive parents are not allowed to see their parents
The son suddenly lost the news, could not be contacted, Zhang Caihong was anxious. After many efforts, she finally contacted her son's adoptive father, Liu Guangyu. On the phone, Liu Guangyu repeatedly denied, saying that he did not understand this matter, nor did he know Zhang Caihong, Zhang Caihong was very angry: You don't understand this matter, how can my son run to your house?
Later, Liu Guangyu finally acquiesced, but he said that he would not return the child to Zhang Caihong: I will never give it to her, I have worked hard to pull him so big with a handful of and a handful of urine, I am still kissing as my own son, for him, I am now giving up my own son. ”
After this, Liu Guangyu would not let Zhang Caihong see her son. It was difficult to find her son, but she couldn't see her son, Zhang Caihong was extremely sad, she wiped her tears and said sadly: "I have the right to see him, even if I can see him, I won't let me see him, it's too cruel!" ”
From finding her son in 2010 to more than two years in 2012, Zhang Caihong never saw her son again. In order to reunite with her son as soon as possible, Zhang Caihong had a little free time to travel between Pei County and Xuzhou, and saved a bunch of tickets.
In addition to reporting the case locally, Zhang Caihong also sought help online. The enthusiastic volunteers on the Baby Home website gave Zhang Caihong a lot of help. Zhang Caihong said that she remembered their kindness throughout her life.
Finally goodbye to my son
Finally, under the efforts of many parties, Zhang Caihong finally met her son in 2013. The moment she saw her son come out of school, Zhang Caihong flew over excitedly and hugged her son tightly.
As soon as Zhang Caihong thought that her child did not enjoy a day with her, she was very sad, and she hated her cousin and cousin even more in her heart. After Liu Shangshang and his mother spent a short time together, after confirming that he was stolen and not lost by his mother, he quickly drew closer to Zhang Caihong, hugged his mother, and told his mother not to cry. I guess that's blood thicker than water.
After that, Zhang Caihong and his son began to move around frequently, and after Liu Shangshang took the college entrance examination, he simply lived in the home of his biological mother Zhang Caihong. Zhang Caihong feels that she has been separated from her son for so many years, and now she wants to take her child with her. Just as Zhang Caihong was immersed in the joy of reuniting with her son, she suddenly received a court summons.
The adoptive mother countersued the birth mother
In September 2013, Liu Guangyu and his wife sued Zhang Caihong and Liu Shangshang.
After receiving the summons, Zhang Caihong's hands and feet were cold and extremely angry: they caused me to be separated from my own son for 17 years, and now they have sued me. At the beginning, Zhang Caihong was very excited, did not look carefully, thinking that she wanted to lose 30,000 yuan, but colleagues said that there was a 0 in the back, and she found that it was 300,000.
Looking at this paper complaint, Zhang Caihong could no longer accept it: "Yes, it is the child you raised, the key is who let you raise it?" My child I let you raise? I don't have the ability to raise the above, I have a job, where did I come from without the ability to support? You can't have children yourself, you steal other people's children to raise, the harm you caused me, I didn't let you compensate, how can you turn around and let me compensate, and give me this astronomical amount! ”
For the prosecution of Zhang Caihong, Liu Guangyu and his wife said that they also had to suffer: "After all, I have been raised for nearly 20 years, and my feelings are too deep, so we have to keep in touch." At that time, Liu Shangshang said, OK, yes. At the beginning, ten days and half a month of phone calls will be answered, and then slowly will not answer, the mobile phone changed number, no contact. ”
Liu Guangyu told reporters about his reluctance: "I still hurt him to this day, I went to his room a few days ago to clean, my child's things were put in place as they were, and I came down with tears and cried all afternoon. After all, I was held three days after birth, and I raised him with a handful of and a handful of urine, except for not giving birth to him, I did not pay less than any father. ”
Liu Guangyu's wife blamed Zhang Caihong: "Anyway, it has been pointed out, the two adults communicate, the children walk on both sides to enjoy the blessings, one more person, the child is not more blessed?" ”
For Liu Guangyu and his wife, who are more than half a hundred years old, they did not expect that their son, who has been raised for nearly 20 years, would suddenly leave home, and since then there has been no news, and they have been unable to understand and accept.
They have repeatedly stated that the purpose of the prosecution is to meet Liu Shangshang, whom they have not seen for nearly half a year.
On September 25, 2013, the court heard the case in public. At this trial, Zhang Caihong did not let him appear in court in order to protect her son.
In court, the plaintiffs, Liu Guangyu and his wife, requested an order to terminate the maintenance relationship with Liu Shangshang and compensate 300,000 yuan for maintenance.
Defendant Zhang Caihong's lawyer pointedly retorted that this was neither an upbringing nor an adoption relationship, but an illegal adoption relationship, because Liu Guangyu and his wife did not have the consent of the child's biological parents.
The witnesses who appeared in court were Wei Chenghe and his wife, who had taken Liu Shangshang away. But their testimony was unfavorable to both sides.
Wei Chenghe said that when Zhang Caihong was not yet born, Zhang Caihong's sisters and parents were in his home, and they said that Zhang Caihong's son could not ask for it.
Wei Chenghe's wife said that at that time, her uncle arrived home first, saying that she would first study and study how to deal with the child, and in any case, Zhang Caihong could not let Zhang Caihong see the child. But she already had a child herself, and she couldn't throw it into the ditch, so she had no choice but to carry the child to her sister.
The claims of Wei Chenghe and his wife were strongly denied by Zhang Caihong's entire family.
Liu Guangyu and his wife also did not agree with what Wei Chenghe and his wife said. Liu Guangyu's wife, Zhang Yuling, said that when her sister Zhang Ailing held the child to her, she obviously said that the child was a cousin of her in-laws' family, and now that she is divorced and does not want children, she only accepted the child. Instead of what her sister Zhang Ailing said, she did not tell her about the child's origins, she said that her sister had been confused in the past few years and remembered wrongly.
Because there have been great differences between the two sides, the trial lasted from 3 p.m. to 6 p.m., and it still did not end. It has been said that mediation was carried out afterwards.
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Liu Guangyu and his wife have worked hard to raise a child for nearly 20 years, and suddenly leaving without contact is a bit ruthless for them, but can he understand Zhang Caihong's pain? This so-called family affection is based on Zhang Caihong's pain.
Some people may intercede for Liu Guangyu, but I just want to say that if you really want to adopt a child, please adopt it formally, go to the relevant welfare home or other places for adoption, or obtain the consent of your biological parents to handle legal compliance procedures.