Everyone in the world yearns for the beauty of love, but they do not know that love has beautiful times and cruel times.
Good love, although good, will make each other happy, bad love, will make each other very painful.
In a relationship, women are often very entangled, whether the man really loves himself, whether the other party is worth entrusting for a lifetime, afraid that his obsession has paid the wrong person.
You may think that their approach is a bit exaggerated, but it is not actually exaggerated.
Now is an era of fast food, in this era love has also become luxurious, slow to drive, love only one person in a lifetime, has become a luxury.
Of course, I'm not saying no, but too few.
Many women feel that a man's love is difficult to judge, confusing and elusive.
In fact, love and non-love are really obvious.
Xiao Bei feels that a man who loves you must always have time for you, and only people who don't love you are stingy with their time and say that they are busy every time.
In a relationship, if a man is willing to leave his time to you, he can basically determine that he loves you.
01: The person who has you in his heart will give you time
If a man doesn't love you and is just going to take what he needs with you, then how can he spend time with you?
If you don't look for him, he will definitely hide far away, and even if you look for him, he can come up with all kinds of reasons to deal with it.
Once he said that he was busy, you can believe it, but the number of times, I'm afraid you don't even believe it yourself, right?
In this world, there has never been a person who has a chance to do everything, even if you are busy, you will have some time, depending on whether the other party is willing to leave this time for you.
If he is willing to share this precious time with you, how can he not love you?
He's there when you need him; he's still there when you don't need him; he says hello to you when he's busy at work; he'll leave you a goodnight when he's out of work.
All of this shows that he loves you, which is why he is willing to do this.
Self-media person Leng Shao once took such a video:
Leng Shao and his girlfriend went to choose a ring, the clerk sold them expensive, but Leng Shao said that he did not have much budget, could he find a smaller one, the clerk had not said anything, and the female customer next to him sneered.
The girlfriend couldn't look at it, so she asked the other party what he was laughing at, and the other party said:
"I can't afford to buy a diamond ring, and what else do I come here to do, my boyfriend is not as slammed as your boyfriend, he let me buy the big one." 」
Leng Shao's girlfriend just wanted to have a seizure, but was stopped by Leng Shao, he felt that there was no need to meet with this kind of person in general, and they continued to choose their own.
At this time, the girl made a phone call and asked her boyfriend to come and buy a diamond ring with her, but she did not expect that her boyfriend said on the phone that he was really busy and was willing to pick it himself, and he was unwilling to pull it down.
Because the boyfriend's voice was a little loud, the voice came out clearly from the phone, and at this moment the girl was a little self-conscious.
After Leng Shao and his girlfriend finished picking, the girlfriend deliberately said to Leng Shao: "Although we buy a small one, at least someone accompanies it, unlike some people who are not willing to take out a little time, sad." ”
After saying that, the two of them flew away, leaving only the clerk and the helpless girl.
Love, can not be hidden at all, love and non-love is really obvious.
We can easily see from whether a person is willing to spend time for you or not, and it is easy to see how much he loves.
Because, the man who cares about you, when he is free, only wants to find you, in his world, you are the most important person, only those who do not love you, are reluctant to give up their time.
Writer Zhang Ailing once wrote in the book:
"A man, if he is not available, it is because he does not want to be free. A person, if he can't walk away, it's because he doesn't want to go away. A person who makes too many excuses for you is because he doesn't want to care. ”
If you don't want to love, there will naturally be a thousand reasons, if you still want to love, you don't need any reason at all, he will hurt you and take enough time to accompany you.
02: People who are reluctant to give you time, please stay away
Admittedly, this is a fast-paced society, in which everyone is busy, but no matter how busy they are, they can always be busy.
If a person has been busy with you, it can basically be judged that he does not want to see you, a man who does not want to meet you, and always says that he loves you, even he does not believe in yourself.
It is understandable that a person is occasionally busy, but continuous busy, always busy, may have a problem.
If a man does this to you, don't make any excuses for him, because he really doesn't love you, and why bother to maintain it in the face of a person who doesn't love himself?
We have all passed the era of hearing love, knowing what kind of love is true love, what kind of love is false, and knowing that love is not said on the lips, but hidden in the details.
In the past, when I was incompetent, I always felt that when I met something I liked, a man who loved himself, and it was a helplessness not to buy it and only accompany himself, but now it seems that this helplessness is so happy.
He may not be able to afford it for a while, but he will take enough time to spend with you and let you know how important you are in his heart.
As a woman know that men who truly love you don't give you too many false promises, they either don't commit or try to do it.
Only people who are false to you will give you a blank check.
Don't complain about the man who doesn't have time for you, because his attitude has said everything, in his heart, you don't matter at all, he doesn't love you, just you're still pestering.
When a man thinks of you when he is idle, thinks of you when he is busy, and will find a way to squeeze out time to accompany you, such a man is the one who really loves you, and it is worth your life to cherish.
Because, the man who is willing to leave time for you, afraid that you face life alone, afraid that you will encounter problems, only companionship will reassure him.
He is reluctant to let you face the problem alone, reluctant to make you anxious.
Because he has you in his heart, he never skimps on spending time with you; because he has you in his heart, he wants to give you the rest of his life.
In this life, if you can meet such a man, please be sure to cherish it, don't fail him, and the time he left you.
Because, once some people do not cherish and miss it, they will regret it for a lifetime.
-END-
About the Author:
Su Xiaobei is a cutting-edge emotional writer and marital psychological counselor. If you have a problem and don't know how to solve it, you can ask me a question and look forward to your consultation and message.