Watching more domestic dramas of the big heroines of the long-sleeved good dance, the wind and clouds, often without blinking to sign tens of millions of orders, there are more elite men from all walks of life to pursue, always feel that the suspension is embarrassing.
After chasing "Xiao MinJia" starring Zhou Xun and Huang Lei, I feel that the real life heroine, whether in the workplace or in life, is not always a domineering side of the face of the tiger.
For example, liu Xiaomin, the female number one in the play, has a gentle and weak appearance, is not ostentatious, and always looks like a person as light as a chrysanthemum. But the independence and self in the bones, the soberness and transparency of love and marriage, the cognition and calmness of life, liu Xiaomin, who makes people middle-aged, has a firm and powerful heart, calm and rational in handling things, always keeps his own small universe, and lives as an ordinary and determined real heroine.
Shi Tai Yishu once advised that a woman should eventually live like a tropical cactus, full of water inside and able to withstand the tricks of the world; on the surface, there must be thorns, and when the thick malice rolls in, you will not be helpless.
Nearly twenty years ago, in the small town of Jiujiang, Jiangxi, Liu Xiaomin experienced a failed marriage that could not be looked back.
When he and his ex-husband Jin Bo came together, it was not because of love, but because of the matchmaking of the parents of both sides. Jin Bo's family conditions are very good, when he was young, Liu Xiaomin did not know how to grasp his own life, obeyed his mother's arrangement, and obeyed the practical marriage. After marriage, they lived a rich and stable little life, the woman sang with her husband, and the two became the beautiful scenery that people in the small county town envied.
Later, the situation suddenly changed, and after the death of the factory director's father, Jin Bo began to drink heavily and even domestic violence. XiaoMin is gradually disappointed in the marriage and wants to divorce but is stopped by her mother. Disheartened, she found solace in poetry, and unconsciously, she got closer and closer to Teacher Su, who also liked to read poetry.
In those days, in isolated towns, the relationship between married men and women "above friendship" could certainly not be tolerated. After experiencing a city-wide "slut humiliation" of being caught and raped, Liu Xiaomin was expelled from the house, and the custody of his son was not obtained.
The small county environment does not tolerate literary and artistic women, so Liu Xiaomin changed the environment and fled to Beijing with his suitcase. Starting from the low-level small nurses, with the hard work of not admitting defeat, after more than ten years of hard work, he was promoted to the chief nurse of the international department of the big hospital.
Careers continue to grow, and emotional maturity. For more than ten years, Liu Xiaomin did not talk about love, let alone thought of remarrying. The failure of the first marriage and the so-called "extramarital love" of Teacher Su have not dissipated for many years. She was sober about what kind of love she needed, what kind of partner and marriage she needed. Unable to meet the people who were really impressed, she chose to prefer to be absent rather than indiscriminate.
Liu Xiaomin endured emotional loneliness and put all her time and energy into improving her business capabilities. Men will fail women, careers and abilities will not. Step by step, she achieved her goals, promoted, bought a house, earned a Beijing hukou for her son, and met Chen Zhuo, a man who made her feel warm.
When a woman is strong enough, she has the courage not to think about the past and not to be afraid of the future. When love comes unexpectedly, there is courage and ability to grasp their own happiness.
Chen Zhuo is kind and sincere, mature and not sophisticated, and people are still romantic in middle age. He is considerate and caring for Xiaomin, thoughtful and not casually crosses the line, the two have something to talk about, and like each other.
But people to middle age, there are old and young, each has the feelings and family, talk about love can not be as arbitrary as when they were young, but to take care of the surrounding emotions, patience and restraint. The love between Xiao Min and Chen Zhuo was once interrupted because of the frequent family affairs on both sides.
Middle-aged men and women, two-way love, is a luxury that can be encountered and cannot be sought. But for the sake of the family, for the sake of the future of the children, sometimes we can only give up. The helplessness of middle-aged people, young people do not understand.
Fortunately, Liu Xiaomin has a busy career, and she is still full without love, and her demanding quality of life will not change because there is no love. She has the ability to face loneliness again, because she is soberly aware that loneliness is the essence of life, and everyone ends up living with themselves.
Liu Xiaomin has a cleanliness fetish in life and also has feelings. In the year since she broke up with Chen Zhuo, she has returned to the quiet life of a person she used to have, and only occasionally recalls the warmth of being with Chen Zhuo. She was convinced that in front of Chen Zhuo, she was truly happy, relaxed and defenseless, willing to confide in herself that she could reveal her scars, and able to get a temporary escape from the chicken feathers of life.
The year of separation, let Liu Xiaomin be sure, Chen Zhuo deserves to have. Therefore, she promised to help Chen Zhuo start a business, in fact, she has her inner calculation. Otherwise, Xiao Min's personality will not give the other party any chance to get closer. Sure that it was the love she wanted, she no longer gave up, and even took the initiative to attack, gently and calmly said to Chen Zhuo, "Let's get married." ”
Shortly after the marriage, Chen Zhuocha was seriously ill. In order not to drag Xiao Min down, he proposed a divorce, but Xiao Min did not agree. Lovers, that is, to share pain and happiness, she is not willing to let Chen Zhuo endure that heaviness alone. In the face of sudden changes, she was as calm as usual, gentle and firm with him.
The best way for a woman is to be confident and determined, and to take the initiative to control the situation. People to middle age, tomorrow and accidents, do not know which comes first. The best choice is to cherish the present, cherish the present, and achieve happiness with the people who love each other.
Endure loneliness, grasp happiness. Not ostentatious, not arrogant, always gentle and tenacious, always calm and calm. Even if you encounter the trickery of life, you will always have kindness and yearn for beauty, never let yourself be helpless, and always maintain the fullness of spirit and soul, which is liu Xiaomin's big heroine quality.
In fact, in addition to Liu Xiaomin, every female character in "Xiaomin's House" has distinct characteristics and is worthy of admiration and respect.
From her mother Wang Sumin, to her sister Liu Xiaojie, to Fa Xiao Li Ping, they have all encountered twists and turns and teasing in their feelings and marriages. But they know that life is not easy, but they still love life with a pure heart, treat it sincerely, and strive to live as they like.
The heart is beautiful, the chest is hilly, sober about what you want, and try to get there. Don't live up to yourself, don't live up to others, don't live up to the rest of your life, the best look of middle-aged women, that's it.