【Editor's Note】Parents are the first teachers of children, and good family education is the foundation for children's healthy growth. Fengxian District Education Bureau, together with the District Civilization Office and the District Women's Federation, selects more than 250 "Good Parents of Xiancheng" from nearly 90,000 parents every year to commend them and share their family education experience.
The family is the child's harbor, and the parents are the child's initiation teachers. The school is a large, holy garden, and the teachers are like gardeners irrigating all the way. Therefore, parents and teachers are a pair of left and right hands, and we rely on each other to protect the growth of children.
My daughter Chen, 4 years old this year, is an ordinary child, and I am also a very ordinary parent, I only hope that my daughter can grow up healthy under the wings of my love with her mother. Like most parents, we are also parents for the first time, have no experience in educating our children, and can only grow up with our daughters while learning. Here are some of the things I've learned from raising my children, and I hope to share them with you.
First, establish an equal and respectful parent-child relationship to create a harmonious and beautiful family environment for children.
Children grow up around us, and as parents, we create a harmonious and warm, happy and caring family atmosphere for her. We try not to use imperative discipline and more to communicate with each other in the form of friends. At home, everyone is free to express their opinions, and although the daughter is still young, she will also put forward many of her own ideas. If her idea is right, makes sense, or makes sense, we will actively adopt it and guide her to follow through.
In terms of hobbies and interests, we respect the child's personality development, appropriate guidance, and cultivate her interests and strengths. I also often take the initiative to communicate with my child, talk to her in an equal way, understand her true thoughts and needs, and strive to create a relaxed and democratic family atmosphere. Now, the child is happy to share her story with me, her mood, especially after entering kindergarten, things in school, things between peers, even if it is only a small matter, she will take the initiative to talk to me. Every time school is out, she also says, "Dad, I did a great job today!" Dad I didn't cry today! ”
Second, through home contact, strive to learn and master scientific parenting knowledge and methods.
The school's parent-teacher conference is an activity that I pay great attention to, and no matter how busy I am at work, I have to squeeze out time to actively participate. This is not only conducive to the improvement of their own quality, but also a manifestation of respect for children, so that children feel that parents attach great importance to her, her affairs are no small matter, and this is also the best opportunity for us to understand children and communicate with teachers.
I have always felt that teachers are the most worthy of respect. Because they are very hard, really like candles, burning themselves to illuminate others. Therefore, I am also very supportive of my children's participation in school activities. When encountering problems, I always analyze from the perspective of the teacher, and understand that the teacher's starting point is for the good of the child, whether it is to criticize the child or praise the child. The child gets more praise, I will teach her to guard against arrogance and impatience, continue to work hard; when the child encounters difficulties, I will guide her to face them positively and overcome difficulties.
The teachers in the class are also very concerned about the children's performance at home, often visiting the home and the electricity federation to understand the situation and guide us to carry out family education. Frequent home interaction allows us to exchange information in a timely manner, keep in close contact, get effective help, and help our children grow up healthily.
Third, teach children the principle of "being a person" and guide children to establish correct values.
Compared with children's learning, we pay more attention to children's "being human". In the process of children's growth, I think the most important thing in education is to teach children the principle of "living in the world". What kind of person to be? Be a person who respects his parents, respects his teachers, is honest and upright, and cares about others, and also wants to be a person with self-respect, self-love, self-confidence, and self-improvement.
Usually, I pay great attention to cultivating children's good living habits, and encourage her to participate in more school recreational sports and social interaction activities to promote the healthy development of children's physical and mental health. I also actively guide my child to participate in housework within my ability, support her to participate in social welfare activities, and take her out to travel when she has time, broaden her horizons, increase her knowledge, and exercise her ability.
My daughter and I planted a small tree in front of the house and I would take her to water it every day. I want her to grow up as healthy and strong as this little sapling...
Contributed by: Moral Education Activities Division, Bureau
Reviewer: Lai Liming
Nuclear: Luo Zhiqiang