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As the saying goes, if you want others to love you, you must first know how to love yourself.
This is especially true between men and women, the more "expensive" the woman who raises herself, the easier it is to get the favor of men.
It turns out that the most beloved in men's hearts is often the "more expensive" woman.
1, in the relationship, do not deliberately please
In the TV series "Ideal City", Xia Ming is a cost engineer in the construction industry, he is flexible, courageous and strategic, not only professional ability, but also management ability.
Xia Ming helped his uncle Huang Lilin to keep the company in order, and the company's bidding projects were also won by him.
At work, Xia Ming met Su Xiao, who is also a cost engineer, and the two developed a good feeling for each other in their work interactions.
In terms of Xia Ming's personal charm, there are not a few girls who like him, and He Yao is one of them.
Su Xiao and He Yao, whether from the family world or personal personality, the gap is very large.
Su Xiao comes from an ordinary family in a small city, and after graduating from college, he worked alone in Shanghai, without any background, all on his own.
He Yao was born in a family with superior environment, her father He Shengli is the mayor of the district, He Yao can not run for her livelihood, and do what she likes with peace of mind.
Su Xiao and He Yao are in love with Xia Ming at the same time, but the mode of getting along is completely different.
Su Xiao has a strong and independent personality, and at the same time as Xia Ming's opinion, she will not give up her principles because of her feelings, even if it is a breakup, she will not modify her bottom line.
And He Yao is not, she loves Xia Ming, for him, she can give up everything, even her own dignity.
In order to get Xia Ming's love, He Yao wronged herself again and again, knowing that the other party did not have herself in her heart, or deliberately pandering to and pleasing.
Xia Ming finally chose Su Xiao because of her stubbornness and self-confidence, which has a fatal attraction for men.
And He Yao's failure may be doomed, she loves too humble, the girl who loses herself in love, it is difficult to get the recognition and acceptance of men.
In feelings, women who do not deliberately cater to and please men are more likely to be appreciated by men, and they feel more "expensive".
2, know how to invest in themselves, enhance their own value
Truly noble women know how to continuously improve their abilities in order to enhance their own value.
Such women understand the importance of their own value, they never depend on anyone to survive, they understand that relying on themselves in everything is the basis of human standing.
Truly expensive women will invest in their own learning, they will read more books and increase their knowledge reserves; they will take time to go out to march to increase their knowledge; they will spend more time for their own growth, so that they can calm down and think.
Su Xiao in "Ideal City" is such a woman, in order to improve her business ability, she continues to learn, study hard, and do not forget to exercise after work.
She doesn't allow herself to be in a bad state, she works with the utmost enthusiasm and lives with the most positive mindset.
Su Xiao's efforts were not in vain, the cost table she made was unmatched in the group, she defeated Xia Ming again and again, winning the bid for the group project, making Xia Ming look at her with admiration, admire her, and admire her.
Time is undoubtedly the most precious thing in the world, and a woman who is willing to spend time for herself must be a woman who loves herself.
A woman who has an attitude to do things and a high degree of life is full of pride.
3, small things do not care, big things will not be done
The really noble woman knows how to raise herself.
In real life, there are many women who focus their lives on trivial and small things, but instead make mistakes in big things.
Friend Xiao Chen, usually pay attention to the external image, she dresses exquisitely, beautifully, from clothing to accessories, are carefully selected.
Xiao Chen will spend a lot of time doing beauty and hair, and he is very picky about the details of life.
However, on the issue of marriage, she has wronged herself.
Xiao Chen once had a failed marriage, because the man had no sense of responsibility, did not pay attention to her, and often did not return at night, and the two parted ways.
Later, Xiao Chen met Old Li, Old Li was mature and steady, Xiao Chen was attracted to him, took the initiative to pursue each other, under Xiao Chen's fierce pursuit, the two finally came together.
After marriage, the life of the two also continued the mode of Xiao Chen's initiative, all the housework was handled by Xiao Chen alone, and sometimes the two had a little awkwardness, no matter who was right and who was wrong, it ended with Xiao Chen apologizing.
Slowly, the relationship between the two lost its balance, and Xiao Chen became more and more passive under his own initiative again and again.
From the perspective of this matter, although Xiao Chen pays attention to the details of life, he is always unclear about major events.
Women who really raise themselves know how to raise their own hearts, not small things and big things.
In the world of feelings, women who know how to adhere to their own principles and guard their own hearts are "expensive" women in the eyes of men.
When a woman, not bowing her head for the benefit, lives according to her own wishes, and constantly improves herself, she will become more and more expensive and more and more appreciated by the opposite sex.
And like Xiao Chen, there is no principle and no bottom line in the relationship, not only did not exchange more love for the other party, but also made himself unrecognizable.
Being the true self, the best self, enriching yourself, and living the most "expensive" appearance is the premise of obtaining beautiful love.