OK Mom said: Every child longs to be recognized. Even if he doesn't speak much, has an introverted personality, or seems to be a little arrogant and doesn't care about the praise and affirmation of others, in their small hearts, they ultimately want to be affirmed and praised. My friend Oguri's mother said that his son was weak in expression since he was a child, and his speech was vague and his logic was not good, so from kindergarten to elementary school, he belonged to the neglected category in the class. Friends were worried at first, and a little distressed about the child, but after a long time, they found that they could not solve the problem and could only accept the status quo. But until recently, she was surprised to find that her son was using his way to find a shining point that she could be seen by others. "The moment I realized, I was actually ashamed, saying that we should know the baby best as parents, but it was so late to understand his inner desire!" 」 Today I want to share the story of my friend and his son, and tell you that even if the child is very ordinary, nothing stands out, or even a little weak, we should do our best to help them find a point that makes him shine, which will give them strength and support their confidence. Text: Oguri Mom
1. To be honest, if it wasn't for last Friday (school New Year's Day welcome event) that day I went to pick up my son from class, I saw a group of classmates surrounding him out, and some classmates saw me and said excitedly, Auntie Auntie, today's magic show of Oguri stunned us. I probably don't know how much magic means to my son, or even worry that it won't affect his studies. My son has always been a bad word baby, there is no chance in the class that he can take his turn, since kindergarten I found that he is not very confident, so I also want to push him, you can go on stage to perform, but he all refuses. After trying a few times, I gave up, thinking that I wanted to accept that he was not the kind of brash and performance-loving baby. Later, when I went to elementary school, I once took my son on a trip, and on the way, I saw someone performing magic tricks. He told us that he also wanted to learn a few magic tricks. At first, we taught him to search for videos on the Internet, choosing very simple ones and imitating them. Later, he figured out a little doorway, he would develop some clumsy tricks, and every time he would ask my husband and I to watch carefully. We also think it's good that he loves to think about it, and he will also match his performance with a slightly surprised expression when we are at the right time. But over time, we feel that learning is still the main thing, always thinking about magic, delaying the right thing. So when he was in the second grade, we proposed that we could play magic on the weekends, and we couldn't play it anymore. He cried, but finally reluctantly agreed.
2. But until this time, I just thought he liked magic, just like other children like other toys, after all, games are always fun and fun than learning. But later, I realized that I knew too much about it. In the 3rd grade, his son's requirements for the effect of magic increased, so he offered to buy some magic props to assist him in performing. Because he has been studying well in the 3rd grade, I also met his demands and asked him to choose several more online. One Friday in December, I was still working at work, my son called me excitedly, Mom, the magic props are home, I spent half an hour to study it all, you come back early and I will show you and dad.
It is hard to imagine that a whole box of various props and instructions are densely packed with small characters, he only used such a little time, I can't help but sigh in my heart, the power of interest is great. That night, there was a magic show at home, and the son performed his magic one by one, "Look! see! Take a look! The demonic cries of the voice kept ringing.
Indeed, he had mastered the essence and skill of those magic tricks, and neither my father nor I could see the flaws, so we looked very engaged and let out sincere exclamations again and again. That night, I saw a sense of satisfaction on my son's face that I had never felt before. Seriously, it's the most brilliant smile I've seen him smile in the last two years.
3. After the performance, it was a little late, I urged him to tidy up and go to sleep quickly, and I went to the living room to do other things. But after 10 minutes, I didn't hear any washing, and I walked to my son with the emotion that I was going to be mad in the next second, and I was about to roar, when suddenly I stopped. I saw him kneeling on the floor, carefully folding a piece of red silk cloth. The other magic items were already neatly stacked against the card slots. After folding the silk cloth, he carefully put it into the box, and did not forget to smooth the folds, full of preciousness. You know, I've never seen him pack so well, and his school bag is always messed up like a garbage can. Son's school bag
4. The next Saturday, I went to bed together and found that my son was playing these magic tricks again. "Didn't you all perform for us yesterday?" Why did you play again early in the morning? "I was a little surprised." This needs to be practiced frequently to become more and more proficient. I also want to see if there is anything that can be stacked up and shown, and the effect will be better. “
Seeing that his son was so devoted, he suddenly said to him half jokingly and half encouragingly: "Yo son, the performance is so good, I see that you can make money from this, or you go to the community downstairs to set up a stall to try." I thought that my son, who was introverted and didn't even want to go downstairs to play alone, would definitely refuse, but he didn't think that his son actually took over the stubble steadily, saying that this was a good idea, and he was going to make money! I was also shocked! Seeing that his son's enthusiasm was high, his father suggested that his son could use WeChat to collect money, and also printed out the two-dimensional code, and helped edit a small text for selling.
The son carried this two-dimensional code for collection, and happily twisted his face into a flower. The reason why he broke through himself, so dare, is not to say how much money he can really make. It was that he was too eager to be seen, of course, which I understood later. 5. Looking at my son who is actively packing up props and this two-dimensional code for collection, I am not only happy for my son's rare enthusiasm, but also vaguely worried. My concern is that my son's expectations are too high, and it is likely that he will end up in a huge psychological gap, but it will become a devastating experience. There are not many people in the community itself, even if there are people, how many people are willing to stop and watch seriously? If my son returns home empty-handed, will he feel very hurt? I was still struggling with whether to go down with my son, help him solicit customers, provide some support or something. But he slipped on his shoes and went out, without the slightest intention of pulling me along. I stood by the window of the house and watched, only to see my son rush out of the unit door, quickly run to the central lawn of the community, and enter the long corridor by the lawn, because there was a cover, it could no longer be seen. After 20 minutes, estimating that the performance was almost halfway through, I set out to see my son's actual situation. As he walked away, he found that his son was not performing, but shrugging his head. Seeing me in the past, my son immediately said very aggrieved, there are no adults to see, there are a few children to see is to see, but after reading it, they came to grab his props, and several of them were broken. I quickly gave him a big hug, first praised him that he was not easy, and then followed his complaints and blamed the ignorant children together. Then I took him to the small square with the most people in the community and told him that "it is important to choose the right place and the right audience." I helped him shout, and one after another people came, although there were not many people, but there were still several neighbors who came to seriously cheer...
In the applause of everyone, the son performed hard, and in the end he did not collect money, thinking that it was very happy for someone to watch.
6.
Finally finished the work, the son looked satisfied, he excitedly said to me, "Mom, so nervous, but I have succeeded, this year's school welcome activities, I can finally show a good show in front of my classmates!" ”
It wasn't until that moment that I understood that my son was so addicted to magic not only because it was fun, but because he felt that he could go on stage after familiarizing himself with this groping.
Because he speaks late from a young age, his speech is vague, and the integrity and logic of his expression are not good (there may be a certain correlation between the three), so his expression has always been relatively weak, and the chance of being concerned in the group is too small. But not being followed doesn't mean you don't want to be followed!
In fact, the son has always been looking forward to getting applause in the group, so he loves magic, in fact, he has found the best solution for himself to play to his strengths and avoid his weaknesses.
He took pleasure in pulling us and performing to us over and over again, constantly mastering magic tricks and increasing his confidence. The reason why I was so brave to rush out to perform in front of the neighbors in the community that day was also to rehearse it before performing for my classmates!
At that moment my eyes couldn't help but get a little moist...