There is a post on the Internet: "Would you like to have a second child?" ”
Many netizens below said that they were unwilling.
The reasons are varied, among which the most mentioned is the hardship of raising a child, a child has raised the blood pressure of the parents, and really dare not easily add pressure to themselves.
But in Guangxi, there is such a person, he only got married at the age of 49, gave birth to 15 children in 21 years, the youngest son was born, he was 71 years old, many people specially ran to him to ask for tips, what did he really think?
Honest and kind, let him harvest love
His name was Liang Er, he was born in a small mountain village in Guangxi, grew up in a poor family, and did not read much.
As a teenager, Liang Er went out to work with the villagers, he went from a small worker at the construction site to a mason, and he did not save much money to get rid of food, because he did not have the ability to flip over the house, and when he became an adult, he did not have a matchmaker to introduce him to the object.
Fortunately, Liang Er has a good mentality, he is not in a hurry, still working at the construction site, following his fellow villagers in one construction site after another, and he has reached the age of 49 in a flash, perhaps it is the wind and sun all year round, he looks older than his actual age.
One day the foreman brought him a girl Xiao Lu and let Liang Er take it, that is, to let him be a master, which is very common at the construction site, and people who have just come to learn from the teacher can enter the working state faster.
Liang Er was honest and kind, he saw that Xiao Lu was thin and weak, and he couldn't bear to let her do heavy work, so he let her follow him, help hand over the tools, and patiently teach her some skills of powder walls.
After a long time, Xiao Lu saw that others were real, he told him his own situation, it turned out that she was also a child of a poor family, there were many sisters in the family, her parents let her drop out of school and come out to work, at first she was very worried in her heart, afraid that she would not do well, after meeting Liang Er, she felt that she had the main heart.
The fellow villagers on the construction site watched Liang Er work with Xiao Lu every day, so they joked with him, and every time Liang Er would go back: "Work well, don't say something useless." ”
But he had no heart, Xiao Lu was intentional, she really liked Liang Er, and took the initiative to confess, where Liang Er encountered such a thing, a little hesitation agreed, the two lived together.
Soon, Xiao Lu told him that he was pregnant, which was really good news for Liang Er, he never thought that at the age of 49, he could still be a father, and after learning the news, he excitedly told his fellow villagers that everyone was happy for him.
Have more children, just to tie up the wife
After the birth of his first daughter, Liang Er couldn't bear to let Xiao Lu live with him at the construction site, and it was very inconvenient to live with his children.
He took Xiao Lu back to his hometown and held a simple wedding in the village, and the two officially had a home.
But to raise a family of three, Liang Er is still under pressure, his brain is still relatively good, seeing that there are dozens of pine trees on the mountain, he tried to cut pine resin to exchange for money, with diligence, he can really let the family have no worries about food and clothing.
If he lived like this, his life would be as calm and comfortable as many villagers, but he chose a different path from others and began to actively make babies.
At first, he wanted a son, and after giving birth to 3 daughters in succession, he finally got his wish, but Liang Er didn't seem to stop, and Xiao Lu was pregnant again.
Their lack of birth control also attracted the attention of the family planning staff, and several times they tried to do his ideological work, but they were all empty.
Once Liang Er learned that someone had come to find him, he took his wife and children into the mountain so that you could not find him, and he lived in the middle of the mountainside, and it took half a day to go up every time, so that the staff also had no temper, so they simply stopped caring about him.
In this way, in 21 years, Xiao Lu gave birth to 15 children, including 3 sons and 12 daughters, all healthy, compared to the number of children, the villagers prefer to talk about the method of having children, except for 4 children born in the hospital, the rest are born at home.
Xiao Lu is also very bold, she delivered the baby herself, cut the umbilical cord with scissors, and then wiped the child's navel eye with tea oil, such a simple and rough way, it is also a miracle that adults and children are fine.
As for why he should have so many children, Liang Er's explanation is very grounded: "It's dark early, and I can't go out, what can I do?" ”
Such an answer is impossible to refute, and some people suggest that he take some measures to avoid having so many children, Liang Er does not feel that there is anything wrong with children, the eldest child can help bring younger brothers and sisters, and can also firmly hold the heart of his wife, and will not be willing to leave this family.
His wife is 30 years younger than him, and it is inevitable that he will have such worries, but Xiao Lu has no intention of leaving, she is very content with her life.
Every month they can receive 2,000 minimum guarantees, some villagers will also give their children some old clothes, eat and wear without worry, if it is not Liang Er is older, it is estimated that Xiao Lu will continue to give birth.
More than 20 years later, the house of the Liang family is still the same, the gate is broken and not installed, there is a chicken coop in the yard, and the children run back and forth in the yard.
When it was time for dinner, Liang Er took a few older children to sit at a table, Xiao Lu took a few small children to sit at a table, one person and one bowl of sweet potato porridge, and the children ate very well.
Everyone's choice is different, Liang Er feels that such a way is his own life, and the children have long been accustomed to it.
Life is counterattacking, and education is needed to help
Someone posted a photo of Liang Er's family on the Internet, which attracted many people to visit.
Many netizens wondered, they are tired of raising a child, how did Liang Er raise 15 children?
There are also netizens who come to learn from the scriptures and want to know how Liang Er's usual living habits can become a father at the age of 71.
There are also netizens who are curious, just want to see the living environment of this family, to a right to travel.
For a time, Liang Er's yard was lively, many people pulled him to take pictures, of course, everyone did not come empty-handed, they would bring some gifts to the children, Liang Er was not disgusted, after all, it could reduce some of the burden of life.
Liang Er is famous, some people do happy events, will also invite him to eat wine, hoping to stain his good luck, let his family have more children and more blessings, of course, will not let him go in vain, will give him a red envelope.
Or taste the sweetness of traffic, with the help of the villagers, Liang Er tried to live broadcast, he told his story in front of the camera over and over again, the love he met by chance, and the process of raising children, there are many people who like to watch, and some people give him tips, according to himself, the monthly income has exceeded 10,000.
Some people say that Liang Er counterattacked and became a winner in life.
In fact, such a statement is also based on partial generalization, Liang Er's good fortune is brought to him by the Internet, but having money and being blessed are two concepts, and he still needs a long way to go to raise his children.
The youngest son has grown to 18 years old, Liang Er is already 89 years old, most people of this age can raise their children, he still needs to work hard for his son, how can this be considered a blessing?
Fortunately, his family's situation has been paid attention to by the local government, the children's tuition is free, and a certain amount of rice and oil will be sent to his family every month, plus the minimum guarantee, so that Liang Er does not have to worry about life.
But raising children is not only life, but also education, and I hope that Liang Er can urge children to study well, go out from the mountains, see the wonderful world outside, and be a talent useful to society.
As for his attitude towards his wife Xiaolu, it really can't be simply described as good or bad, having so many children is a pressure and a risk for women, from this point of view, as a husband, he is not considerate.
But the feelings are two-way, Xiao Lu is willing, she feels that Liang Er has given herself a dependence, and after marriage, Liang Er has also been able to accompany her and her children, and he seems to be stronger than the irresponsible husband in life.
We can only say that marriage is like drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge.
Liang Er and Xiao Lu both have one thing in common, that is, they have not read much books, which also causes narrow thinking, and we also need to look at such special cases objectively with a normal mind, having more children is not necessarily a blessing, and everyone must be determined according to their own situation.
Finally, I also wish Liang Er's family that the children can grow up healthily and find a life path that suits them.