Text/One Flower
Everyone is born equal, but at the fork in the cross, because of different choices, they will embark on different paths in life, and some people will continue to rise in value, while others will continue to lose their self-worth.
In the world of feelings, men and women are also equal, and it is precisely because of this that feelings will last and marriages will be stable. However, once one party drops their mark, the balance of the relationship tilts, and the relationship may come to an end.
At this point, especially women, be sure to pay attention. Women have three behaviors, in fact, they are paying themselves off, don't be inappropriate
1. Cohabitation
Countless times I've heard men say from the bottom of my heart that I'd rather have a second marriage than a woman who lived with an ex..
Why do men mind so much about women who have lived with others? In fact, it is essentially because of the inertial thinking in men's hearts. In the eyes of many men, once a woman is living with another man, it is very likely that the woman has given her all, whether this is true or not.
In fact, many girls choose to "live together unmarried" for various reasons, and it is likely that there are not many stories happening, but no one will care about this.
In the eyes of some men, once you live with each other, then he will have all kinds of images in his mind, and this is what he cares about most.
Most men are selfish, and the only thing they can think of after talking about their girlfriends is the possibility of living with each other as soon as possible, which is a physiological instinct. However, when choosing a marriage partner, each man is very traditional and very double-standard.
Therefore, all girls, like all, must maintain their bottom line and do not desperately want to love. Your so-called love of giving everything may be worthless in the eyes of others, and even bury hidden dangers for your future.
Second, love to take advantage
I wonder, in the process of interacting with the opposite sex, do you always make the other person pay? If he's your marriage partner, your husband, then it doesn't matter. If none of this is true, then I advise you to be independent as soon as possible.
Every man has a machismo tendency, they want their lover to be able to rely on themselves forever, but they don't want the other person to rely on themselves forever. Man is a unity of contradictions, and this is even more evident in men.
What kind of woman do men respect the most? Men have the most respect for independent women. What kind of woman do men despise the most? It is not independent at all, and always likes to be greedy and cheap women.
The reality is that some women, always habitually take advantage of men. When eating, I never thought about paying. Just blindly asking for gifts, never thinking about what to give. It's like a parasite.
What does a parasite look like? It is the existence that depends on others to survive. When you rely on men to live better, when you are always taking advantage, your value is constantly falling.
Once a man labels you like this in his heart, then you have no place in his heart. Once you have no place in his heart, then you are not important to him, you can be changed at any time, just like an object.
Third, too proactive
Eason Chan has a lyric, what can not be obtained is always in turmoil, and the favored is always fearless. Men like an active woman, but they least value an active woman.
As a girl, you should still have some reservedness. Don't desperately pursue, promise, and satisfy because of love, don't be impulsive.
Once you do this, then you are losing yourself. Men can't see your love for him, and they won't cherish your love for him, in his heart, he will just think that you are upside down.
Since a man thinks you are upside down, then he naturally will not take you to heart, and once he does not put you in his heart, he will disappoint you and eventually hurt you.
Not only that, your love, your marriage is likely to not last long. Why? Because this is human nature, you will get tired after taking the initiative for a long time.
Whether it is in love or marriage, a person who is too active will bury hidden dangers for his feelings. Maybe you don't want to reciprocate at first, and you don't care how the other party treats you, but over time, your heart will change.
Your heart wants the other person to treat you like you would, even if it was a tenth. Once such expectations are not met, then eventually you will become very tired.
One day, all your love and patience will be consumed by the other person's neglect. Eventually, you will go from disappointment to despair, and this day is also the time when your love and marriage end.
When a thing has been appreciating, people know how to cherish it, and once the item begins to depreciate, then people's first thoughts are likely to be lost.
People are the same, and those who are cherished, without exception, are often because they continue to appreciate. On the contrary, the people who are rejected and abandoned are often because they always do something self-deprecating, so that they slowly become unvalued.
Therefore, if you want to guard a relationship for a long time and keep the person you love, you must seriously examine yourself, let the man love you to the premise that you are worthy, in order to "deserve" the word, you must be careful in words and deeds, enrich yourself, and strive to grow into a better person.
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