Think of originality, infringement must be investigated.
The "double reduction policy" is really right!
If you do not put the brakes on "test-oriented education", the parents of primary and secondary school students will be crazy!
You see, even the doctor's mother was angry out of the "cerebral infarction"...
Ms. Li is a female doctor in Langfang, Hebei Province, but also the mother of an 8-year-old girl, it is reasonable to say that the doctors are generally highly educated talents, have received a good education, and have been constantly instilling in patients and families the health concept of "angry and hurting, tolerant is big" in the workplace, should not encounter a little thing on the liver fire, both to help, but also damage health.
However, when this "battle-hardened" female doctor saw her 8-year-old daughter's monthly examination transcript with only 58 points, she still couldn't hold back!
Perhaps because of her love for her daughter, Ms. Li was not only angry with the increase in blood pressure, but also checked for insufficient blood supply to the brain, myocardial ischemia and mild cerebral infarction. Even she herself felt helpless and funny:
"I have been a doctor for decades, but I did not expect to be angry because I tutored my children to write homework", since this is the case, "in the future, it does not matter if the children fail, they still have to relax their mentality, calm their mood, and educate rationally."
Seeing that even the doctor's mother was choked by the child, do you parents feel a little empathy in your heart, and add a little more sigh?
01 Patience.
How angry is "writing homework with children"?
Coincidentally, some netizens once complained: "accompanying my son to write homework" to the fifth grade, and then I was hospitalized with a heart attack and made two stents. It is important to think about life, and homework or whatever is natural. ”
It can be seen that because of accompanying children to write homework, or seeing the child's grades slide, he is exhausted, far more than Dr. Li in Hebei.
But as a parent, you naturally have the obligation to guide and supervise your children's learning. This is especially evident in the parents and families of many elementary school students. In the eyes of most parents, primary school Chinese mathematics, that is the simplest topic:
Do I still need to think?
Do I still need to pause?
Do I still need a pen?
How can these simple single-digit addition and subtraction, four mixed operations, or the law of multiplication and distribution and the law of union be said three or four times, and the child still can't understand it?
Not to mention the highly educated family, even if it is a parent who graduated from primary school, if it is said two or three times, the child still can't understand, most adults will feel: their children's brain problems, not a learning material at all!
The above is the manifestation of not understanding education.
The study of a discipline and a concept is not to memorize several equations and then learn simple substitutions and crossovers, even if they are learned.
For children, even if it is "1 + 1 = 2", we as parents should also try to go from simple to abstract, from multiple angles of appearance and meaning, step by step, leaving enough space for children to think, so that children can grasp the meaning of knowledge through their own understanding, thinking and analysis.
For example, the "encounter problem": the total distance is 4500 kilometers, Xiaoli walks 250 meters per minute, Xiaoyun walks 200 meters per minute, ask them if they can meet in a few minutes?
For such a primary school student topic, if the child just can't understand, parents can first draw a graphic and vivid process diagram of each step on scratch paper. For example, after the 1st minute, Xiaoli and Xiaoyun each walked how many meters; after the 2nd minute, what kind of state the two children were in...
But many of our parents, when their children encounter difficulties and setbacks, the first thing that comes to mind is not how to guide and help their children, but to loudly rebuke:
Why would someone else's child do it and you wouldn't do it?
Why did the teacher obviously talk in class, but you still can't understand?
Why do I say it three or four times and you still don't understand?
However, in fact, as a primary school student, the child may play games "thief slip", talk and do things like a "little adult". But in the long river of life, he is still only a child, the understanding of new knowledge and the depth of thinking are extremely limited, and when encountering slightly changed topics, children will suddenly be unable to understand.
At such a time, of course, the most needed is the patience of parents.
02 Split.
So, is there a good way to "accompany your child to write homework" that does not easily anger parents to cerebral infarction?
There are some, but in the end, it is still necessary to vary from person to person and teach according to aptitude, and no one can play the "package ticket".
First, we can "break up" our child's homework for the day into smaller segments that are easier to solve and divide around. Encourage your child to take the initiative to complete it through small rewards, timing, or answering questions.
Do not see children write a wrong word, do a wrong question and jump like thunder, anytime and anywhere to interrupt the child's learning status.
If the day's homework really can't be split, we can also make an agreement with the child, every two or three questions or every 15 minutes of writing, we will help him see what the problem is. Of course, the "small tasks" that each child completes in a concentrated way are best the content of the same discipline, such as memorizing two poems, doing two problems, or copying new words.
In order to avoid children frequently looking at the watch, we can also prepare a timer for the child, every 15 minutes to remind, and then strictly require the child to focus on learning in 15 minutes, the time is up, while the parents review and correct their homework, the child has also entered a stage of thinking digestion and short relaxation, equivalent to also enjoying a short break of only two or three minutes, you can be more focused on the next 15 minutes of efficient learning.
This "accompanying learning method" is equivalent to a simplified version of the "tomato work method".
Therefore, scientifically and reasonably "accompanying children to write homework" can greatly avoid the occurrence of "chicken baby parents" who are angry to the heart attacking the heart or cerebral infarction, which is conducive to the digestion and understanding of the child's subject knowledge, and is also conducive to maintaining the health of the parents and prolonging life.
What's more, for some people who can't control their anxiety, from time to time want to spy on the child's learning status, either wash a pear or hand over milk, either close the window or take clothes... The "bipolar parents" who are worried and worried about their children's learning from morning to night at home are interfering with and affecting their children's reading all the time, and using a timer to assist and control their anxiety and better cultivate their children's concentration habits when learning is the best choice.
In addition, after the child completes the learning tasks of each "small unit", parents can be responsible for scoring and evaluation, not too complicated, as long as they use three words and two words to help him make a summary review, you can also prepare a "homework diary" to record the child's completion of homework every day, so that he can feel a full sense of achievement and joy after completing multiple small units of homework on time every day, and can also get small rewards from parents.
Isn't that a beautiful thing?
03 Mindset.
Let's talk about mentality.
I think that the "educational mentality" of many parents of primary school students is very problematic.
Originally, when primary school students first started reading, it was normal for their grades to fluctuate in the process of learning new knowledge, such as not taking a class one day because they were sick and taking leave, not understanding because they were distracted, or which class was criticized by the teacher and did not have the heart to attend class... However, the design of the curriculum chapters in the primary school initiation stage is often relatively independent (because there are too many points, and it is too late to connect them), which causes a phenomenon:
If the child misses a lesson because of leave of absence or other reasons, then the knowledge points and example ideas related to that lesson, he is likely to be completely unsure!
In this case, it is almost impossible for some parents to require their children to get the top few or full scores in each exam.
In other words, the test results at the primary school level mainly depend on the "attention" of parents and families.
If, as a parent, you can help your child solve the difficulties and omissions of each course, then congratulations, your child must be at the top of the exam in the primary school stage.
But the problem is that most parents do not pay enough attention to the learning of primary school students, but the strength is not enough to make ideas!
Children can't do problems, some parents only see children grinding and chirping, it takes an hour to do two problems; children can't memorize texts, some parents only know to be angry, but they don't find that children don't know some words at all... All of this is the fallacy of some parents in family education today.
Of course, in my opinion, "writing homework with children" is far from being hard and irritable enough to make me angry to the point of heart attack or cerebral infarction, perhaps because my children are not angry enough, or perhaps because if we think more about the child's inner thoughts when accompanying and educating the child, put the child's emotional feelings in the same important position as ourselves, do not understand the class, the fault of poor test scores, all blamed on the child's lack of effort, no heart and ignorance, the child will naturally be proactive, Study diligently.
Of course, every child's situation is different, and the conditions of every parent and family are different.
But I think that even the female doctor in Langfang, Hebei Province, who was angry with her 8-year-old daughter to cerebral infarction, under the premise of usually exhorting patients to "calm down", inevitably choked up because of a 58-point monthly examination report card, which shows that the educational mentality of most parents is still too impatient and anxious.
But in fact, children also want to learn to be top-notch, excellent grades, with a full score card in front of teachers and classmates to show off, we as parents even if we are anxious, no matter how irritable, we always have to meet the heart of their children, right? Since children want to learn and parents want to teach, why can't they always get together and have to make a chicken and dog jump at home?
In my opinion, it is nothing more than that some parents always feel that they are parents, and what they say and do is that the children do it without a brain, and it is precisely such a kind of "dignity, inferiority, nobility" psychology that greatly damages the parent-child feelings between parents and children.
But in fact, learning this thing is gradual and subtle. It is good for parents to have expectations for their children's learning, but do not rush to achieve quick success and impulsiveness.
Otherwise, it is "too late".