"Heart and Mind"
May you be one heart and warm thoughts
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Sun Shu'ao was a native of the Chu state, and his father, sima the official, was later killed in a struggle with political opponents.
King Chu Zhuang hated those courtiers who killed each other in order to fight for power, because because of this relationship, Sun Shu'ao was implicated by his father and was not used by King Chu Zhuang.
It's just that gold will always shine, and Uncle Sun is full of talent and diligence, and he was eventually recommended to king of Chuzhuang.
Sun Shu'ao, as Ling Yin, assisted King Zhuang of Chu, laying a solid foundation for the prosperity of the Chu state again.
As ordinary people to speculate about the sons born of those powerful families, they will definitely feel that those children born with golden keys should be more intelligent.
But in fact, landlords are always more likely to give birth to stupid sons.
As for why the landlord's family is more likely to give birth to a silly son, the reason is that the living conditions are too good, the children have been served since childhood, they have not done anything, and they do not know the suffering of the world.
Uncle Sun Ao was an extremely popular subject, but he did not escape this law in giving birth to a son.
It's just that he has a clean wind in his sleeves and has always advocated a very simple life, so although his son is not smart, he is also taught to be simple and unpretentious.
Sun Shu'ao did not have a few years of time as Ling Yin, and he died because he was too concerned about state affairs.
Moreover, before dying, he instructed his son not to make a big fuss about his funeral, and everything was mainly simple.
In fact, at that time, the extravagant funerary atmosphere prevailed among the nobles of the Chu State, and every time a powerful nobleman died, it was bound to be a big deal, and a large number of valuable funerary goods were buried together in the tomb.
Because this atmosphere was so prosperous, within a few years, the chu treasury felt empty.
In order to reverse this trend in the country, Sun Shu'ao led by example and demanded that his funeral be done in a simple manner, and even the idea that King Zhuang of Chu wanted to come to pay tribute to him was rejected.
Therefore, although Sun Shu'ao was honored as Ling Yin, his funeral was the most simple and cold funeral among the powerful people in the Chu state, without any ceremonies and funeral goods, and no one came to pay tribute.
King Zhuang of Chu was grateful for Sun Shu'ao's great contribution to the Chu state and wanted to give a generous gift to Sun Shu'ao's wife and son, but he did not expect that his grandson Shu'an did not accept it, and said that his father had advocated a frugal life, and if he accepted the generous gift from King Chuzhuang, he would have violated his father's will.
King Zhuang of Chu had no choice but to take back his gift.
After Sun Shu'an finished his father's funeral, because Ling Yin Mansion was a public property, he took his mother out of the capital and lived in seclusion in the suburbs, relying on his own farming to support his mother.
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Is Sun Shu'an a bit silly?
Especially in the current thinking of many people, if there is a cheap in front of them, it is indeed a fool.
Sun Shu'an was really stupid, because it wasn't long before he fell seriously ill, so that he couldn't even cultivate the field, so he had to cut some firewood to sell at the market, and then struggled to live with his mother.
However, conscience is in the hearts of the people, Sun Shu'ao's incorruptibility and great contribution to the Chu state, the people word of mouth, there are people who know the current situation of Sun Shu'ao's son, they all hold a grudge for Sun Shu'an, and made up a song, singing everywhere, singing:
"To be an official is to be a corrupt official, and to be an official is not to be a clean official." The descendants of corrupt officials, high cars, fat horses, and horses are all officials, and it is difficult for the descendants of clean officials without cars and horses to become officials. ”
The song soon reached the court and drifted into the ears of King Zhuang of Chu, shocking him so much that he immediately summoned Sun Shu'an to the court.
King Zhuang of Chu saw that ling yin's son in the past was wearing patched clothes, and thought of Sun Shu'ao's efforts to govern the strength of the chu country, bowing down and doing all kinds of deeds after his death, and he couldn't help but feel guilty in his heart, and his tears flowed for a long time.
King Zhuang of Chu immediately wanted to worship Sun Shu'an as a doctor, but Sun Shu'an said that his father would not let him become an official, saying that he was too honest and that he might not even be able to save his life when he became an official.
King Zhuang of Chu heard Sun Shu'an say this, and planned to seal him a fertile land so that he could live easily.
Who knows Sun Shu'an said that his father once said that even if he was given a good piece of land, he would not be able to keep it, so it was better to want a piece of land that no one else wanted.
King Zhuang of Chu had no choice but to give him a barren fief and three hundred slaves to cultivate for him.
If you have rich possessions, you will not let your son want them, and if you have officials, you will not let your sons be, and you can ask for fertile fiefs, and you will not let your sons want them.
All this is the decision that Sun Shu'ao made for his son after understanding his son's personality.
So is this decision right?
Lin Zexu once said:
"If the children and grandchildren are like me, and what they do with their money, and if they are wise and rich, they will lose their will; if the children and grandchildren are not as good as me, what will they do with the money, and they will be foolish and rich, and they will gain their excesses."
Today, many people are particularly good to their children, and they also have particularly high requirements for children, and they do not care what kind of personality their children are, nor do they understand the harm caused by material excess to children.
Therefore, there are many mental diseases, and there are also many physical diseases and rejuvenation.
For example, depression, anxiety and other mental illnesses are now very common in adolescents.
In eating the above, many parents themselves do not understand the importance of healthy diet, always think of giving their children a better diet, do not know moderation, do not understand the regularity and health of diet, blindly give children supplements, so that many children have many strange diseases at a young age.
The current era is to pursue material beauty, probably because in the first thirty or forty years the whole country was still in a relatively poor state, so now things must be reversed, and there is a prevalence of fetishism.
Just like many young people today, in order to enjoy a rich material life, they will not hesitate to borrow money to consume and enjoy.
In this way, in the long run, the body and mind will be devastated, but they are unaware, and the name is to ensure their quality of life.
Is it just that this quality of life comes at the expense of physical and mental tranquility, struggling in the trap of desire every day, and can you get real happiness?
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Why was Sun Shu'ao's son able to resist the temptation of those high-ranking officials Houlu?
This can only be said that Sun Shu'ao has indeed successfully educated his own son, he knows his children, and he also knows what kind of life his son should live, which is the best choice for him.
And today I think this is what parents should learn the most, that is, to understand their children, and to know the hidden dangers that a rich material life may bring to people.
The parent's beloved son is far-reaching, and the most far-reaching plan for the child is to let the child live a life of peace and mind.
If Sun Shu'ao is also like the thinking of ordinary parents now, he is smart and capable, and his son must not be weaker than himself, otherwise he will be very faceless.
Using such a thought to ask for a son who is already less qualified, his son is estimated to have suffered from depression long ago, and may have committed suicide a long time ago.
In fact, sons who have been forced to commit suicide among high-ranking officials and dignitaries in history are also everywhere.
So do parents really love their children, or do they love their own vanity more?
This does need to be carefully considered!
Live a little simpler, make yourself happy, and train your children to live a simple and happy life.
If you don't have spare energy, take care of yourself.
If you have spare energy, do something that is good for yourself and for others.
Is it more meaningful to live a peaceful life than to pursue the material garbage that will soon become garbage, either accumulated in the body or stored in the environment?
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