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To be soft is to be rigid, to be rigid is to lose.
Many people think that to be a person, you must have a backbone, and you must walk with your head held high at all times.
In fact, bone qi is a person's inner potential, which is to quietly accumulate strength, choose the right opportunity, and surpass others.
Foolish people, strong heads, shrewd people, take the initiative to bow their heads.
02
Bowing your head is growing slowly.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, King Zhuang of Chu succeeded to the throne for three years without issuing a single decree. The ministers were anxious, thinking he was going to be depressed. Someone dared to suggest: "There is a kind of bird that does not bark or fly for three years. ”
King Zhuang of Chu said, "If you don't fly, you will already fly into the sky." ”
In fact, the king of Chuzhuang at that time was still young, and there were chaotic courtiers and thieves such as ruo ao clan around him, and outside the borders of the country, other kings were looking at him with a tiger's eye, and if they were not careful, they might "kill themselves". Only by persisting in forbearance can we have the opportunity to find out the situation and find the best way to fight back.
After three years of growth, king Chu Zhuang had full wings, and at the sound of an order, he punished five traitors and used six sages.
King Hui of Qin during the Warring States period and Su Qin, who came to lobby, said: "Birds with young wings cannot fly high; countries with a lax legal system cannot impose punishments; people with low morality cannot convince the people; government decrees are not smooth and cannot play the role of ministers..."
Opportunities and competitive pressures have always existed at the same time. Virtue is not matched, talent is not matched, are all signs of damage.
To be a person, you must have the endurance to wear water droplets, no matter how complicated the situation is, don't be impetuous, as long as you insist on the same action, you will encounter surprises.
Because of hibernation, the bear became very thin in the spring. But it thus escaped the cold of winter. If it persists in fighting against winter, it may never see the spring flowers again.
When you meet a strong opponent and get stuck in a difficult situation, you have to clench your fists, then bow your head and smile at others. Hide your ideals and wait for the spring of life to come.
03
Bowing your head is actively humble.
In the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a man named Wang Xiao in the State of Lu, who was missing one foot, but there were many people who came to him to learn art.
When Wang Xiao was educating people, he did not speak, and the people who were taught felt very fulfilled and returned with a full load.
Confucius's student Chang Ji asked, teacher, Wang Xiao, this person, how can He De receive so many students?
Confucius said that he was indeed a saint, and I would also ask him for advice, and I would also bring more people to consult him.
In order to seek true knowledge, Confucius was expelled twice by the State of Lu, threatened in the State of Song, detained in the State of Wei, found no way out in the place of Shang Zhou, and besieged in the place of Chen Cai... He bowed his head again and again, in exchange for the admiration of posterity.
Many years have passed, and Wang Xiao's reputation has slowly been forgotten, but Confucius has continued to "rise in fame".
From this point of view, the more humble and noble, the more noble is the truth of the wise.
As the saying goes: "Puppies are ignorant and narrow, and Dapeng spreads its wings and hates heaven and earth." ”
A person with ideals, like Dapeng, should be high on top. However, real life often forces people to become "puppies".
The phrase "a man is not as good as a dog in middle age" is enough to illustrate this point.
Insist on living humbly, to the ignorant, intelligent, angry, quiet people, all take the initiative to bow, all wisdom, will continue to flow to themselves, if you can still be used by me, you can get the admiration of others.
Confucius is also a matter of gathering the strengths of a hundred families and becoming a family.
04
Bowing your head is waiting for an opportunity.
Director Ang Lee, before filming "Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon", has not been highly regarded.
Some say he didn't lie dormant for six years. There was also someone who was envious of his wife, really visionary, married to a potential stock.
In fact, Ang Lee's wife did not think at all that the people around her would become famous, and perhaps after a few years of tossing, they would disappear. She just stuck to her husband's dream and stayed up together.
In an interview, Chai Jing asked him: "Are you not afraid of failure?" ”
Ang Lee replied: "Afraid, afraid to have strength, afraid that talent will increase vigilance." Just like a child who crossed the ocean with a tiger, he later found that he could not live without the tiger, without that fear, without the feeling of waking him up. ”
It is said that the artist is bold. However, if you don't bury your head in hard study, can't lie dormant for a long time, and haven't experienced the fear of trembling, how can you be "skilled"?
Because you are afraid, you must try to improve yourself until everything is in the palm of your hand.
One minute on stage, ten years offstage. If you run to the middle of the stage at the beginning, you will only be bombarded and never have a chance to go on stage again.
People with backbones, at the beginning, are behind the scenes, working diligently and earnestly, like old scalpers, gasping for breath and slowly moving forward. When your own achievements can be burned, it is logical to go to the front of the stage.
Opportunities may appear at any time, the key depends on whether you can grasp it, whether you have the initiative and opportunity to "game".
05
Bowing your head is the courage to love.
Tu Lei, the love mentor, said: "Never marry a poor boy." A poor boy with a backbone, who can struggle, who will not fall in love. ”
When a man feels that he is not worthy of her, he will work hard to make himself and her "fly in the wings". Most of the men who were cheeky and wanted to cling to Miss Qianjin were suffering from hypochondriasis.
When two people are really together, bow their heads and achieve a better marriage and family.
Many people, dream of falling in love with a prince or princess, but do not pee to take a picture of themselves, in the end can not be worthy of each other.
If you want to meet someone better, you have to be particularly good; if you want to lock in love, then bow your head and complete it.
06
Zhu Guangqian, a famous translator, once said: "The ambition is too great, the ideals are too much, the facts cannot meet the head, and the result is naturally disappointment and boredom; the ambition is too small, and the insensitivity and depression will lead to degeneration." ”
Whether in the workplace, or in the love field. We must find the balance between bone qi and reality, and then survive in the cracks. Don't be too ostentatious on the way to growth.
It is not shameful to kneel once or twice, and it is shameful not to be able to stand up for a lifetime.
Finally, send you a word - the tiger is thin and ambitious, and the poor people are ambitious.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.