Someone said: "When a person reaches middle age, he is not as good as a dog." ”
However, you can't panic, you can't eat hot tofu in a hurry.
You are the pillar of the family, even if you are thin, you still have to live as a mountain.
No one tells you where the road ahead is, but don't panic, take your time, accumulate small streams, and become rivers and seas.
01
When chaotic, stabilize the situation.
Zeng Guofan said: "Those who seek great things should pay attention to the pattern first." ”
During the Spring and Autumn Period, after King Zhuang of Chu succeeded to the throne, he ignored the government for three years and did not allow anyone to report on his work. The ministers did not understand, but they dared to be angry and did not dare to speak, and could only watch and sigh one by one.
Some ministers laughed at him as a bird that could not fly or bark.
King Zhuang of Chu zhuang said, "If you don't make a sound, you will already make a splash, if you don't fly, you will already fly into the sky." ”
In fact, in the past three years, Chu has been worried about internal and external troubles, there have been famines inside, and small countries such as Yi and Yue have been stirring up trouble. The power of the Chu state was actually in the hands of a group of people such as ruo ao clan. King Zhuang of Chu only had a title.
The shrewd King of Chu zhuang observed silently and drew in a group of loyal subjects. When he decided to really take power, he quickly completed the personnel change and blocked the invasion of foreign enemies.
As the saying goes: "Know thyself and know the other, and win every battle." "Instead of rushing into battle, it is better to stabilize your heart and make your own game." Don't do useless work.
When the authorities are in chaos, some people take advantage of the fire to loot, some people fan the wind and ignite the fire, some people use static braking, and some people seek steady progress.
True master, take one step, look at ten steps. Middle-aged people, it is difficult at the moment, but you have to see the end of ten years later, instead of blindly tossing and turning, every time you get to a crossroads, you will panic and choose the way, it is better to move in the established direction.
02
When the valley is low, calm down.
Ups and downs are a common thing in life. But many people stumble when the trough comes. As everyone knows, the trough in fate is a new beginning that needs to be rearranged.
Businessman Chu Shijian, when he was young, did the tobacco business and made a lot of money. Later, after being in a cage for many years, at the age of 75, he came out of the cage and gained freedom.
He returned to his hometown in Yuxi, Yunnan Province, to recuperate, contracted more than 2,000 acres of wasteland with his family, and planted ice candy oranges.
Some old friends don't understand, a handful of old people, still tossing and turning. Besides, the planting industry, large investment, slow results, whether it can succeed, it is difficult to say.
Chu Shijian said, "Give me six years." ”
Sure enough, six years later, he became the "Orange King".
Ma Yun commented on him: "I admire him, and I can feel the entrepreneurial spirit in him. He was an amazing man. ”
The ancients said, "Ten years to sharpen a sword." ”
Life is just a few decades, and if you can devote ten years and energy to focus on one thing, then you can succeed.
Many middle-aged people think that they have not read any books or gained a foothold in a certain industry, and this life is the life of part-time work. In fact, they don't understand at all that starting at the age of forty is not too late, as long as they work hard, after the age of fifty, they will flourish.
Life is difficult, but you must have the courage to start over. As a person, the most difficult thing is not to desperately move forward, but to "stabilize yourself".
03
When angry, suppress the fire.
I like the phrase, "What's the use of being angry?" People with ability are fighting for anger. ”
Everyone encounters angry things, and there are also some inexplicable anger that comes out of the heart.
When working, I am often crushed by people and have to bow my head. After all, middle-aged people do not dare to change jobs casually, that is, to jump ship, they must have a very good grasp.
Losing your job means that your family will be in trouble.
When I returned home, my family didn't understand me, and even said cool things. For example, so-and-so next door, who makes a lot of money, easily becomes the boss, compared with you, it is one in the sky and one in the ground. How can you not be sad when your family says such a thing?
Flaubert said, "To be angry with an idiot is to run the risk of making ourselves an idiot." ”
If there are a hundred reasons to make you angry, then you have to find a thousand reasons to keep yourself from getting angry.
A friend of mine lives by running for rent and works twelve hours a day.
Once, when a friend's car was scratched by someone else's car, he jumped out of the car and wanted to scold a few words. But seeing that there were still a few passengers in the back seat, he immediately changed his attitude and took the initiative to discuss with the other party how to deal with the problem.
Afterwards, the passengers praised him, and the other party also desperately apologized to him.
The old ancestors told us a truth: "Misfortune and happiness depend on each other." "Anything bad, as long as you calm down and deal with it, will go in the opposite direction."
The image of middle-aged people should be mature and stable, generous and calm. Angry, full of losses.
04
When you meet someone, hide things.
As the saying goes: "Whoever speaks behind his back does not speak, and no one behind him says." ”
The worst thing about a person is not the heart, but his own mouth.
If you can't keep your mouth shut, then you're going to get into trouble. To say one's own things is to increase the talk of others; to say something about others is to offend others; to say something that is not marginal may be a rumor; to expose one's own scars will be very painful...
When people reach middle age, they are bitter but not speaking, happy but not speaking, saying less and doing more.
In "Water Margin", there is such a plot: Song Jiang crossed the river by boat, just sat down, and a man crowded around him. He had to back down to the side; Hanzi was inexplicably angry, and with a wave of his hand, he hit Song Jiang in the face.
When the ship docked, the man realized that he was too reckless, and his companions said that he had done something wrong.
Song Jiang said: "Everyone will encounter difficulties and have impulsive times. ”
Bear with me, the wind and waves are calm. When people reach middle age, they should have the ability to understand others and have the grace to forgive others.
Be a person, be like a deep waterhole, quiet, no one can easily see through you. More importantly, in the depths of the waterhole, it can also raise a lot of fish, shrimp and aquatic plants. In the quiet, it is particularly rich.
05
The writer Yi Shu once said: "The worse your luck, the more you must calm down and silently cheer up, quietly survive the past, do not disturb, make a laughing stock, and leave behind troubles." “
When people reach middle age, good luck is spelled out by themselves, and bad luck is a common thing in life. But there's really nothing, everyone has to get through such a period of time.
May you and I, in the time to come, be able to stabilize ourselves.
Only by stabilizing the situation can we come up with suggestions.
Only by sinking the breath can we be quiet and far-reaching.
Only by suppressing anger can we be calm and free.
Hide things in order to smile.
To be a kind and pleasant person is the self-discipline that should be.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.